byrdie,
first you say that you gave your 3 year old $1.00 or $2.00 to stop her from crying in the grocery store, then you say you didn't reward her for bad behavior. wasn't that exactly what you were doing by giving her money to make her stop crying?
Secondly--you are assuming again....read the post:
That's what happens when you bring a "highly-charged" issue such as Abortion to the thread. It explodes as you can see how many pages have been discussed about this.
Well--I remember when she was 3 years old and had a fit at the grocery store. Crying like 'bloody murder' with everyone staring at you, I was at my wit's end and pulled out my wallet and when she saw the money-she stopped that fast!
Anytime that I wanted/needed her to be on her best behavior, I rewarded her with money. Amazing--kids at that age, understand money is a good thing! Like I said....sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn't.
I would remind her that I was not going to be financially responsible for it. I would support her emotionally, etc, but not financially.
I didn't say if I gave her money or not...... All I said was that I pulled out my wallet and when she saw the money--she stopped that fast.
Nothing about giving her money. So after that episode, anytime I wanted her to be on her best behavior--I reminded her that she would get paid.
It worked.
People always complimented on how well behave and well mannered she was. If they only knew....