worried woman

[Pepsi]

I agree with Byrdie post and you have to be a parent to understand.

 

[Cheri]

Not necessairly.

Trust me, Parents will fall into the trap of "bribery" which meaning in the future your child would want better prizes and more money.

 

[Hear Again]

I agree with Byrdie post and you have to be a parent to understand.

i don't have to have children to understand. i don't have children myself, but i used to help my mother raise foster kids, so i understand what it means to discipline a child and not reward them with money for good or bad behavior.

 

[Hear Again]

Trust me, Parents will fall into the trap of "bribery" which meaning in the future your child would want better prizes and more money.

exactly! next thing you know, they want a fancy sports car when they turn 16 simply because they helped do a few chores around the house. i'm telling you, that would NEVER happen in my home. never.

 

[Pepsi]

i don't have to have children to understand. i don't have children myself, but i used to help my mother raise foster kids, so i understand what it means to discipline a child and not reward them with money for good or bad behavior.

You do have to have you own to understand helping your mom is not the same

 

[Hear Again]

How dare you give us advice about raising children when you don't have children in the first place?

If you want me to take your advice seriously--get knocked up--come back in a couple of years and then tell us how to raise them.

Don't assume and that is what you are doing.

Jeez! :roll:

as i've mentioned in previous posts, i used to help my mother take care of foster children while growing up, so i think i have some authority to talk about what it means to be a good parent. i also used to babysit my younger nieces and nephews since i was 9 years old.

"get knocked up?" oh, now *there's* good advice. why does it not surprise me that it's coming from YOU? :roll:

i'll assume anything i want, thank you very much. i don't need to ask YOUR permission.

 

[Hear Again]

You do have to have you own to understand helping your mom is not the same

no, i don't.

i fed, bathed, walked, rocked and nursed back to health foster children who were anywhere from 1 to 12 years of age, so i think i have the qualifications to talk about what discipline means.

disciplining children is the same no matter whether one babysits for them or has children of their own.

 

[Pepsi]

no, i don't.

i fed, bathed, walked, rocked and nursed back to health foster children who were anywhere from 1 to 12 years of age, so i think i have the qualifications to talk about what discipline means.

disciplining children is the same no matter whether one babysits for them or has children of their own.

I'm sorry Hear Again I disagree with you there is big different between being a parent and "helping" with children

 

[Frisky Feline]

well all i can say is


if you know kids' tendencies of habiting or doing and know how to deal with kids is still considering as its part of parenting.

thats my opinion, no matter what if kids are yours or not. as long as you know their tendencies. all kids are not stupid and know how to play games with adult people.

gotta love kids!!

 

[Hear Again]

Not necessairly.

...but you can't deny the fact that many children DO.

Sorry that you didn't get to experience it but to tell me how to raise my kid is none of your concern.

oh, there's no need to feel sorry for me. i'm GLAD my mother raised me to have good morals, values and not to be materialistic to the point where i expect money every time i behave. good behavior can be learned without bribery. if truth be told, i'd rather have my parents raise me not to rely on money for good or bad behavior. it taught me a very good lesson about what's *really* important in life.

Like totally. :roll:

this is the best response you can come up with?

Thus by earning money they can buy some of the things that brings pleasure into their lives. :roll:

children don't *need* materialistic things in their lives to bring them pleasure. they can be rewarded with fun activities, going out to their favorite restaraunt or inviting a friend over to spend the night. all of this teaches a child that they need to EARN privileges instead of being given money and expecting that good or bad behavior gets them whatever they want.

i

 

[Hear Again]

well all i can say is


if you know kids' tendencies of habiting or doing and know how to deal with kids is still considering as its part of parenting.

thats my opinion, no matter what if kids are yours or not. as long as you know their tendencies. all kids are not stupid and know how to play games with adult people.

gotta love kids!!

exactly.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

well all i can say is


if you know kids' tendencies of habiting or doing and know how to deal with kids is still considering as its part of parenting.

thats my opinion, no matter what if kids are yours or not. as long as you know their tendencies. all kids are not stupid and know how to play games with adult people.

gotta love kids!!

Very true...

 

[Hear Again]

I'm sorry Hear Again I disagree with you there is big different between being a parent and "helping" with children

no there's not.

parents feed their children, correct? parents bathe their children, walk them to school, help with homework and nurse them back to health.

i did all of those things (except walk the foster children to school), so what's the difference between what i did and what a parent does?

simple: nothing.

 

[Reba]

I would report the doctor to authority for his illegal and abuse patient's emotion because the doctor is not allow to negative his patient over abortion issue or urge them to keep a baby when his patient decide to end her pregnancy. Here in Germany, the Gyn. are obligate to send their patients to cousnellor if their patient doubt or don't want to keep the child for reasons... and give them time to think about until before 12 weeks limit. After 12 weeks, is too late unless mother's health risk or stillbirth.

It's not a real doctor, nor is it a real story, so there is no one to report.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

children don't *need* materialistic things in their lives to bring them pleasure. they can be rewarded with fun activities, going out to their favorite restaraunt or inviting a friend over to spend the night. all of this teaches a child that they need to EARN privileges instead of being given money and expecting that good or bad behavior gets them whatever they want.i

Yes I second that.

It's an exactly what I quoted your previous post that I don't reward my boys with money or gifts for their good grades at school and behavior but praise them with my love and attention... and also take them out to their favorite resturant to enjoy...

 

[Pepsi]

no there's not.

parents feed their children, correct? parents bathe their children, walk them to school, help with homework and nurse them back to health.

i did all of those things (except walk the foster children to school), so what's the difference between what i did and what a parent does?

simple: nothing.

When you become a parent then you know the answer,lets just agree to disagree

 

[Liebling:-)))]

It's not a real doctor, nor is it a real story, so there is no one to report.

You should tell this to thread creator, not me. It's her who pasted the information over here from other site.

 

[Hear Again]

that's good, liebling. i'm glad you're teaching your children the *correct* way to behave without being rewarded with money or materialistic things. that will go a long way in helping them to develop good character.

 

[Hear Again]

When you become a parent then you know the answer,lets just agree to disagree

i don't need to be a parent to understand. i understand plenty from my experiences as a child and teenager growing up.

by the way, i never claimed to know all the answers.

however, i do think it says alot when children are raised to have good morals, ethics and a knowledge of the difference between right and wrong WITHOUT being bribed monetarily.

that will carry them further in life than money/bribery ever will.

 

[Babyblue]

Reading this thread was like channel surfing.
Between two channels.

Abortion channel.

Rewarding children or bribery channel.