Parents are divorced, mom's bf won't accept me or my gf

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Reba said:
Something fishy going on.
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Yes it seems like..

gnulinuxman,

Are you from a small town?
 
First of all, I´m very sorry how and what you had through.

I know my answer are sucker.

1. As long as you live under mother´s house then you have to follow her rules.

2. Your mother is an adult and has the right to make decision what she do with her life. I know it´s sucker but you can´t do anything to against your mother over her boyfriend. I can see from your posts that you had been tried to have a good talk with your mother about her boyfriend´s character but it doesn´t work... Unfortunlately you has to stick her rules as long as you live with her.

3. If you are not happy to live with your mother and her rules then move out!

If you are not happy with my 3 answers then I would advise you see counsellor as soon as possible before it´s worst. They will help you to look for somewhere to live and support you with money...
 
gnulinuxman,

You are not going to like what I'm gonna say in here.

I do not think the problem you have with your mom's boyfriend is a big deal. It seems like you are either (1) trying to be a rebel or (2) looking for an attention. You rather to complain about the problem than work them out. Reba suggested you many solutions to your problems and you rather to weep about it.

You said that you are 19; therefore, you are not a minor anymore. You are an adult so act like one. If you want to live with your mom and her boyfriend, find a smart solution to the problem. You can always ignore his yelling and be polite to him. You are the only person who can change you and you can not change his behavior. He is the only person who can change himself.
 
Steel X said:
Ugh if he were my mom's boyfriend and he tells me to do everything for him, I tell him to go fuck a horse lol
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Oh, I once did, and it...uh...he started using very NASTY language about my fiancee. :roll:
 
Liebling:-))) said:
First of all, I´m very sorry how and what you had through.

I know my answer are sucker.

1. As long as you live under mother´s house then you have to follow her rules.

2. Your mother is an adult and has the right to make decision what she do with her life. I know it´s sucker but you can´t do anything to against your mother over her boyfriend. I can see from your posts that you had been tried to have a good talk with your mother about her boyfriend´s character but it doesn´t work... Unfortunlately you has to stick her rules as long as you live with her.

3. If you are not happy to live with your mother and her rules then move out!

If you are not happy with my 3 answers then I would advise you see counsellor as soon as possible before it´s worst. They will help you to look for somewhere to live and support you with money...
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Unfortunately, I have tried counseling services in the area, and they just tell me to go back home because they don't believe me (because I'm a man and they are biased towards women).
 
gnulinuxman said:
Unfortunately, I have tried counseling services in the area, and they just tell me to go back home because they don't believe me (because I'm a man and they are biased towards women).
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I wonder if ya bring your fiancee with ya to counseling services as an support.

How about if ya get an part time job at College or working near by college, so once ya finished classes, ya could work for couple of hours then go home, so ya could start saving up for your own car, and able to leave once your fiancee got the apartment. Since you are over 18 years old.
 
gnulinuxman said:
Oh, I once did, and it...uh...he started using very NASTY language about my fiancee. :roll:
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Here's my advice, if he is telling you a bad thing about your finance, you should say yeah I agree. Just nod your head and walk away. How hard is that? He will realize it didn't piss you off anymore and started to leave you alone. People like to push the hot button just to piss someone off. Once that button is not working anymore, they will have no reason to press that same button again.
 
Cane Corso said:
gnulinuxman,

You are not going to like what I'm gonna say in here.

I do not think the problem you have with your mom's boyfriend is a big deal. It seems like you are either (1) trying to be a rebel or (2) looking for an attention. You rather to complain about the problem than work them out. Reba suggested you many solutions to your problems and you rather to weep about it.

You said that you are 19; therefore, you are not a minor anymore. You are an adult so act like one. If you want to live with your mom and her boyfriend, find a smart solution to the problem. You can always ignore his yelling and be polite to him. You are the only person who can change you and you can not change his behavior. He is the only person who can change himself.
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I'm sorry but i have read this thread everypost from start to finish and i agree i'm having troubles with the school i'm at and my family so i'm leaving the state to go live with my aunt for college. I'm still a minor and am making huge choices such as leaving for college and probally my senior year of high school. I have a friend who is a minor and is living on her own with sister and brother because her parents arn't there for her if us as minors can do it and fix our problems such as i'm not allowwed to get a job other wise i might get kicked out of my house so what am i doing i'm getting a job so i can live with someone else. Your an Adult you need to stand up for yourself you sound like your useing your disabilities to hide and make excuses. Alot of places with hire you so you need to get off your butt and find a job because you'd be amazed who will hire people with disabilities
 
Lil_country_gal said:
Your an Adult you need to stand up for yourself you sound like your useing your disabilities to hide and make excuses. Alot of places with hire you so you need to get off your butt and find a job because you'd be amazed who will hire people with disabilities
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Huh? Your point is invalid and how many disabilities do you think I have? I don't need a job because I am in University.
 
GalaxyAngel said:
call police simple.. you have to rights your own protection reason why nobody believe you.... what more.. if he did beat you up.. unless if you have bruise or else.. tell police PROOF... that you're in pain and not comfortable..

You can tell police and want resitrain order your mom's bf... must get out the house!! Mom's bf cannot live w/you anymore.. you will not worry anymore..

Just my thought suggestion!
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Probably... When your mom's boyfriend verbal abuses or threating to beat u, you better to call oolice. He could get a battery or assult press charge if he hits you! Sorry, that is terrible to hear. Buy a hidden camera to tape this incident in order to proof.
 
WhoKnows said:
Probably... When your mom's boyfriend verbal abuses or threating to beat u, you better to call oolice. He could get a battery or assult press charge if he hits you! Sorry, that is terrible to hear. Buy a hidden camera to tape this incident in order to proof.
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The police won't do anything for verbal abuse or threats.
 
GalaxyAngel said:
I read whole thing.. Break my heart.
I've been ther experience in my past..
Okay. I'm willing open my heart for you everything details..

Deeper.. *exhales* okay.
When I got abused by my Adopt father and ran away have no place to live... Went to downtown and asking for help seek place to stay... The lady tells me go shelter.. I do not understand what is all about it.. Next day, I refused return home because I'm 16 yrs old.. and went to Deaf Agency ask for seek a help... Finally gave me info about Hostel youth shelter centre.. I went there.. I'm so very happy and secure safe place.. They did helped me goes through lot and got income support living by welfare and everything foods and clothes ... Provide me Bus Fare goes to school...

I never forget that place was so good helps me.. Thanked to Hostel youth shelter centre.. called "Under 21 youth Hostel" in Toronto, Ontario. Canada

*exhale* I'm okay now.. not easy for me bring my hell memories about my Adopt parent.

Anyway I encourge you GO ...
http://www.timeoutabuseshelter.com/
or
http://www.baddteddy.com/abuse/abuse_shelters_wisconson.html

That where near your home area or other town.. TRY GO
WHERE YOU NEED SAFE PLACE better than sorry you stay your mom's home around mom's bf there.. isn't good place for you stay stick w/it. You'll suffer more..
not good health for you.. Honestly..
Please listen me I suggest you DO IT.
I beg you do it.. pretty please..
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I second to that!! Pls go!! God help them!
 
I am not sure how I can say this... as u can see what others had a bad expreinces past....

But still YOU MUST GO OTHER PLACE, NOT TO THAT POLICE WHO NOT BELIEVE U......OTHER PLACE IF HAVE TO, YOU MUST!!! CUZ OF UR AGE U ARE FREE TO WHATEVER U WANT THAT WAS OUR USA LAW SAY SO!! (AM I RIGHT, GUYS AND GALS?) **BIGH SIGHS** I AM VERY MUCH SCARED FOR U, YOUNG MAN!! From my own expeinces I have been thru that but that was very long time ago!! TODAY is the day u have a right to do so!! IN ur state which is all stupid law and all wrong......u must go other place different town to get some helpppppp GO TO THE BUS, IF U MUST!!! or u will never make it thru in ur life!! THIS AD MEMBERS ARE ALL BUG U TO DO SO!! I have had read thru and my god I feel so werid and chilling feel that I have never felt that way before......my god pls GOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!! GODDMANIT! We dont want to see u that happened like others did which never make it! I do not want to hear of that damn thing anymore again and again all over the newspaper!!! Damnit do it!!! pleaseeeeeeeeeee!
 
I'm sorry to say it but I don't believe any of it in this thread. I will give you some reason why I don't believe is because

1) both of them - gnulinuxman and deaflinuxgeek joined on same month of March 2006

so something isn't right. Its all game BUT then again I might be wrong.
 
AnnyGuy said:
I'm sorry to say it but I don't believe any of it in this thread. I will give you some reason why I don't believe is because

1) both of them - gnulinuxman and deaflinuxgeek joined on same month of March 2006

so something isn't right. Its all game BUT then again I might be wrong.
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Maybe those are two screen names are using by the same person?
 
Read here!!

AnnyGuy said:
I'm sorry to say it but I don't believe any of it in this thread. I will give you some reason why I don't believe is because

1) both of them - gnulinuxman and deaflinuxgeek joined on same month of March 2006

so something isn't right. Its all game BUT then again I might be wrong.
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I(deaflinuxgeek) entered alldeaf.com shortly after my fiance(gnulinuxman) joined and told me on how cool it was and all. And this is a real situation, whether you believe or not.

bye

Deaflinuxgeek
 
Cane Corso said:
Maybe those are two screen names are using by the same person?
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If you pay attention, we have very different writing styles. I'm Dan and deaflinuxgeek is Kim. Why the heck would I lie and say I'm deaf??? If you look under my screen name I indicate that I am a hearing person, and Kim's screen name (deaflinuxgeek) indicates that she is deaf (and she really is).

We have similar avatars because we're both Samantha Manson fans (the cartoon girl in them).

If you don't believe us, then TOUGH, because it's the truth.
 
Cane Corso said:
Here's my advice, if he is telling you a bad thing about your finance, you should say yeah I agree. Just nod your head and walk away. How hard is that? He will realize it didn't piss you off anymore and started to leave you alone. People like to push the hot button just to piss someone off. Once that button is not working anymore, they will have no reason to press that same button again.
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Then I get punished for ignoring him.
 
AnnyGuy said:
I'm sorry to say it but I don't believe any of it in this thread. I will give you some reason why I don't believe is because

1) both of them - gnulinuxman and deaflinuxgeek joined on same month of March 2006

so something isn't right. Its all game BUT then again I might be wrong.
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We joined in the same month because we both wanted to. That doesn't mean it's a game.

And for the record, we're normally active in other areas of the forum and are not seeking pity--we're looking for real answers (and we have gotten some fresh ones here--thanks to everyone who helped!)
 
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