Parents are divorced, mom's bf won't accept me or my gf

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I fee bad for you. I have a guts feeling you will win in one day whatever you get prove them a wrongfull and terrible people that you will be freeee someday soon.
 
gnulinuxman said:
Damn it, I'm sick of being treated like I'm normal!
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Wow, that's a switch! Most of the people here complain if they are NOT treated like they are "normal".


I have autism (NOT audism...) and ADHD and the state dept. of vocational rehab isn't letting me move out. Just because my ears work, they expect me to be normal....
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If you can drive, use a computer, and attend college, then you must be coping rather well. At the very least you should be able to get a job with Goodwill Industries. (Don't knock it; I have friends who work for them, and they are doing quite well.)
 
gnulinuxman said:
...Oh and the college interpreters scheme with my fiancee's mom and believe her, so they treat her like she's stupid too (obviously in violation of the ADA), so they're not helping her either. (And I caught these interpreters lying to my fiancee on every meeting with her involved on this.)
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If the terps are violating their ethics, then they should be reported to their certifying organization (RID, NAD, or state organization).
 
Since mom's boyfriend humliated you enough, why not go on Dr. Phil and give them wake up call?
 
Reba said:
Wow, that's a switch! Most of the people here complain if they are NOT treated like they are "normal".
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Well, I'm not kidding about that.

Reba said:
If you can drive, use a computer, and attend college, then you must be coping rather well. At the very least you should be able to get a job with Goodwill Industries. (Don't knock it; I have friends who work for them, and they are doing quite well.)
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Interesting.
 
Reba said:
You are 19 years old. How can you "run away"? You are not a minor, so that is not "running away from home."

Don't say, "until I finish college, I can't get out." You can get out. You don't want to get out and support yourself. That's your choice. So really, you can't complain.
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That's what most people have been telling me. (that I can't move out until I finish college)
 
Reba said:
IMO:
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Reba said:
1. He is just mom's boyfriend, not her husband, not your dad. He has no authority over you.
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That's not what my mom says. She says I have to do EVERYTHING he says, and that he's like my dad now. (He even bought and paid for my real dad by convincing him.)

Reba said:
2. You are old enough to live on your own. If you really don't like the home situation, move out. Not easy, but possible.
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People keep telling me that's NOT an option.

Reba said:
3. If you decide to stay, then you have to accept the whole situation package deal. Just try to avoid getting into conversations with the bf.
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People are telling me that I have no choice but to stay here.

Reba said:
4. If violence happens, then call the police.
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I will.
 
coloravalanche said:
You are not sissy! It is OK not to like sports or fix cars...this guy is weirdo!
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No kidding...

coloravalanche said:
This is ridiculous! Can't you talk with your mom alone and tell her that her boyfriend ISNT your father? Why dont you live with your real father?
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My real father won't accept me. He says if I can't accept my mom's rules, I won't like his either because they're more strict.

coloravalanche said:
Try that...hope it works! Have you told your mom about the way he has been threatened you?
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I've told my mom, but she says he doesn't mean it and only yells at me because he loves me. :roll:

coloravalanche said:
Great! Tell her to call the HUD and remind them that she really needs to move out soon because of abusive home...

I suggest for your girlfriend to let the HUD know that she wants two bedroom...it is the rules for 2 people to live in 2 bedrooms..not 1 bedroom for 2 people...or you can ask your girlfriend to help you to apply at HUD?
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OK.
 
Reba said:
If the terps are violating their ethics, then they should be reported to their certifying organization (RID, NAD, or state organization).
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How would my fiancee and/or I go about this? Some interpreters say I have no qualifications to catch lies because I haven't been through an ITP (they even try to claim I'm not fluent in ASL, but my deaf friends know better).
 
Reba said:
Wow, that's a switch! Most of the people here complain if they are NOT treated like they are "normal".



If you can drive, use a computer, and attend college, then you must be coping rather well. At the very least you should be able to get a job with Goodwill Industries. (Don't knock it; I have friends who work for them, and they are doing quite well.)
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Not to mention that some people thought I couldn't learn multiple languages, but I became fluent in three of them so far.
 
gnulinuxman said:
That's what most people have been telling me. (that I can't move out until I finish college)
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Who are "most people"? Are they lawyers or government officials? What do they base that on?
 
gnulinuxman said:
That's not what my mom says. She says I have to do EVERYTHING he says, and that he's like my dad now. (He even bought and paid for my real dad by convincing him.)
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Regardless of what mom says, he is NOT your legal or biological father, so he has no authority to act as your father. He's not even married to your mom, so he is not even a step-father.


People keep telling me that's NOT an option.
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Are these people of authority?


People are telling me that I have no choice but to stay here.
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Again, who are these "people"? Lawyers, police, social services, chat friends ????
 
gnulinuxman said:
Not to mention that some people thought I couldn't learn multiple languages, but I became fluent in three of them so far.
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OK, so finding a job shouldn't be a problem.
 
Gnulinuxman, have you gone to the nearest Community Services for the Deaf to ask for their assistance in applying for HUD Section 8 apartment? Just wondering.
 
gnulinuxman said:
How would my fiancee and/or I go about this? Some interpreters say I have no qualifications to catch lies because I haven't been through an ITP (they even try to claim I'm not fluent in ASL, but my deaf friends know better).
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Check this source:

Ethical Practices System (Interpreter Complaints)
http://rid.org/eps.html
 
Reba said:
Regardless of what mom says, he is NOT your legal or biological father, so he has no authority to act as your father. He's not even married to your mom, so he is not even a step-father.
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That is NOT what my mom and the police told me.

Reba said:
Are these people of authority?

Again, who are these "people"? Lawyers, police, social services, chat friends ????
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Police, lawyers, social services, and parents.
 
gnulinuxman said:
That is NOT what my mom and the police told me.


Police, lawyers, social services, and parents.
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Something fishy going on.
 
Ugh if he were my mom's boyfriend and he tells me to do everything for him, I tell him to go fuck a horse lol
 
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