This is perhaps a little difficult for me to say, as it is saying something against my Mom.
Mom did what she thought was best for my interests. She never asked me what I wanted or needed. Then again, she never asked Dad if he was watching the show when she claimed ownership of the TV remote either.....
Therewithin lies the rub. Mom thought what was good for me. I was too young at the time to have an opinion or to know what I needed.
Certainly, I was uninformed. Who is between the ages of 3 and 18? We have faith in our folks as kids.
I never knew another deaf person until some years after I left home. I got angry because I thought I was the ONLY deaf kid in the world and found out there were others! (a few more than the 4400 LOL).
My sister tells me recently that Mom felt guilty about my hearing problem and what went with it (but she didn't tell me!)
I am hoh, my Mom is hearing. I had to fit into the hearing world, with few minor concessions. Mom always said that I have to fit into the real world anyway,
So in many ways Pek1 (Pete) and Jillio are both right and wrong at the same time! This, by the way, is no criticism of either person...
Jillio, you can ask your son what he wants/needs, but he can't really tell you, because he doesn't REALLY know. You can mostly offer answers from your hearing world perspective. I can offer some from my world and others will offer answers from the totally deaf world and so on. None are all wrong and none are all right.
Pete, I can feel where you are coming from and I can see you mean no offense to Jillio.
Jillio, I have never met a touchier lot than us deafies. Please understand that we are not the world's best communicators and may say some inappropriate things, but insult is not necessarily intended, even though there are some dickheads amongst us who look for nothing but trouble. We aren't so different to the ordinary world in some ways after all, are we?
It is difficult to really appreciate the different worlds that exist with any disability. Jillio seems to have an inordinate empathy with us and is mature enough to realise that she doesn't know the experience. There's a smart lady for you...We should be grateful for those who TRY to understand, instead of cracking off at them..That only shows us as stupid and/or bigoted.
Pete, I support your discussion, however I also suppoort Jillio.
Hope I made some sense here