HH scientist
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At the post-wedding party, DH was glued to my side, answering every question for me, as I could not hear a word and just worked on keeping the fake smiling beaming and holding back tears. People pointedly stared at me when I couldn't answer them directly. I didn't feel like explaining, "Excuse me, I'm deaf" 300 times over and over. Hated every minute; I could not feel an ounce of gratitude towards my in-laws for throwing the party - this makes me feel like a selfish ingrate because a normal person would've loved the party and felt honored. But what's the point of throwing an expensive party when the "guest of honor" has to struggle through their worst nightmare?
I have no personal experience from what you have experienced, but it feels hard to read what you have been going through.
I have been to two weddings in my life. At the first one, a friend was getting married. I knew some people there and at the post-wedding party dinner, I was sitting amongst them. It was good enough to hear everyone there and I was quite satisfied. At another wedding, a cousin of mine was getting married and I was not seated amongst friends/relatives at the post-wedding party dinner and it was much bigger as well. I could not hear a thing, so I ended up starring at a wall, the food or the ceiling or other things. It was not pleasant.
In both cases, the organizers were highly aware of my HOH status. And I told them explicitly beforehand that it could very well happen that I would not be enjoying the wedding because of the hearing issue, and if it were to happen, then they should not bear blame because they had not committed any fault as such. They did not take any offense both before and after the wedding, so did I.
But that is my experience and can only speak for myself.