worried woman

[Maria]

So you choose to have an abortion? Again, you made the choice to abort it, doesn't give you the right to tell other women not to abort it. The only thing you can do is to share your story.

That's all.

No, I did not choose to have an abortion. My parents were neeever discussed with me about it. They never told me that they were goin' to take me there for an abortion. They just told me not to eat anythin' until after the abortion was taken place. No communication nor sit down to discuss with me about how I felt, and all. Nothin'.

It was my mother who chose to abort it. Of course, I called her " murderer ". When my sister got pregnant at the age of 16, my mother gave her a baby shower and everythin'. I was only 2 years older than my sister.

My sister and I are not very close and we don't talk for more than 10 years until she finally asked me to add her to my friends contact list at MySpace. There's still " feelin' apart " from each other.

 

[Maria]

Wow Maria!
That sounds terrible from the way you describe it. My heart goes out to you and I know how awful it can be, been there done it.

That was more than 20 years ago. I was still scarred by it. I don't forget that easy, hun.

Thanks, Cheri.

 

[KarissaMann05]

It wasn't a rude question.

Nice try. I'm not buy what you just said. =/

 

[Cheri]

Simple: show them the money.

Could you please clarify what you mean--"show them the money"?

 

[shel90]

No, I did not choose to have an abortion. My parents were neeever discussed with me about it. They never told me that they were goin' to take me there for an abortion. They just told me not to eat anythin' until after the abortion was taken place. No communication nor sit down to discuss with me about how I felt, and all. Nothin'.

It was my mother who chose to abort it. Of course, I called her " murderer ". When my sister got pregnant at the age of 16, my mother gave her a baby shower and everythin'. I was only 2 years older than my sister.

My sister and I are not very close and we don't talk for more than 10 years until she finally asked me to add her to my friends contact list at MySpace. There's still " feelin' apart " from each other.

As much as I disagree with your views, I am really sorry that u had to go thru that. That's terrible and I dont blame u for how u feel.

 

[Cheri]

That was more than 20 years ago. I was still scarred by it. I don't forget that easy, hun.

Thanks, Cheri.

It never was easy, never will be either. I know sweetie. and you're welcome.

 

[Cheri]

No, I did not choose to have an abortion. My parents were neeever discussed with me about it. They never told me that they were goin' to take me there for an abortion. They just told me not to eat anythin' until after the abortion was taken place. No communication nor sit down to discuss with me about how I felt, and all. Nothin'.

That was so cruel of your parents.

 

[KarissaMann05]

No, I did not choose to have an abortion. My parents were neeever discussed with me about it. They never told me that they were goin' to take me there for an abortion. They just told me not to eat anythin' until after the abortion was taken place. No communication nor sit down to discuss with me about how I felt, and all. Nothin'.

It was my mother who chose to abort it. Of course, I called her " murderer ". When my sister got pregnant at the age of 16, my mother gave her a baby shower and everythin'. I was only 2 years older than my sister.

My sister and I are not very close and we don't talk for more than 10 years until she finally asked me to add her to my friends contact list at MySpace. There's still " feelin' apart " from each other.

Wow...
I'm very sorry.

But... I just don't understand how it was not okay for you to have a baby, yet it was okay for your sister to have a baby... uh, okay..

 

[Babyblue]

Maria sorry to hear about what happened to you.

A lot of people don't know this but now a days a child can refuse any medical procedures. All they have to say is don't touch me. And the medical professionals have to comply regardless of what the childs parents say.

 

[Hear Again]

My mother is deaf/hoh to begin with.... Your question doesn't apply.

good for you.

unfortunately, many other children born with disabilities aren't fortunate enough to have parents who believe that they have the right to live.

instead, they think their children should be aborted simply because they can't see, hear, walk, etc.

 

[Byrdie714]

Wow Maria!
That sounds terrible from the way you describe it. My heart goes out to you and I know how awful it can be, been there done it.

I agree. :|

No, I did not choose to have an abortion. My parents were neeever discussed with me about it. They never told me that they were goin' to take me there for an abortion. They just told me not to eat anythin' until after the abortion was taken place. No communication nor sit down to discuss with me about how I felt, and all. Nothin'.

It was my mother who chose to abort it. Of course, I called her " murderer ". When my sister got pregnant at the age of 16, my mother gave her a baby shower and everythin'. I was only 2 years older than my sister.

My sister and I are not very close and we don't talk for more than 10 years until she finally asked me to add her to my friends contact list at MySpace. There's still " feelin' apart " from each other.

Sorry to hear about that.

Nice try. I'm not buy what you just said. =/

That's okay Karissa-- I still like ya.

Could you please clarify what you mean--"show them the money"?

"Show them the money." It means bribery!

Kids will do anything for money, Lord knows, mine did! Sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn't!

 

[Cheri]

Kids will do anything for money, Lord knows, mine did! Sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn't!

You're bad!

 

[damienmommy]

No, I did not choose to have an abortion. My parents were neeever discussed with me about it. They never told me that they were goin' to take me there for an abortion. They just told me not to eat anythin' until after the abortion was taken place. No communication nor sit down to discuss with me about how I felt, and all. Nothin'.

It was my mother who chose to abort it. Of course, I called her " murderer ". When my sister got pregnant at the age of 16, my mother gave her a baby shower and everythin'. I was only 2 years older than my sister.

My sister and I are not very close and we don't talk for more than 10 years until she finally asked me to add her to my friends contact list at MySpace. There's still " feelin' apart " from each other.

Huh!? Why your parents wanted u to get abort it but not your sister?

 

[KarissaMann05]

That's okay Karissa-- I still like ya.

Heh, thanks. You should be glad that I don't dislike ya for disagreeing with you, too.

Let's disagree to agree.

 

[damienmommy]

Overburden over social services system where it can fall into the cracks and at taxpayer's expense. Real smart.



My mother is deaf/hoh to begin with.... Your question doesn't apply.

So many deaf and blind people got adopted by new parents. They don't like their adopted parents cuz most of them are strict. I ain't say all of them, I just saying most of them. Many kids complained about their adopted parents having too much rules than real parents with other kids.

 

[damienmommy]

By the way, when I copy this post story from facebook to paste in here, and I wasn't expect the argument around here. I didn't even know that people would debate about abortion and stuff. I only posted in here because it made me realized more about abortion so I thought maybe show the mothers who haven't decide about abortion or not. I am not here to make people debate about this story. If you don't like it, then don't waste ur time to debate in here because the doctor may never say anything to this mother. Just ignore my post and enjoying your time in other threads if you don't like this story.

Attacking, hurt, smartmouth to others. All this things is offense most of people's feel, it's not good for their health by fighting a lot on the threads. I am sure most of you in here feel so stress and it's not good. Try get free-stress which ignore this post. Ugh! I just don't mean to make this debate on threads. So people who don't like this post then please move on, go to other threads. Thanks.

You could say "I disagree with what doctor said.". That's all instead of yelling at me or trying to make me and other people to support abortion and stuff. I don't want anybody to trying to change my opinion.

 

[Hear Again]

So many deaf and blind people got adopted by new parents. They don't like their adopted parents cuz most of them are strict. I ain't say all of them, I just saying most of them. Many kids complained about their adopted parents having too much rules than real parents with other kids.

my (adoptive) parents were very strict raising me (with a strict catholic upbringing) and although i didn't like it growing up, i'm thankful this was the case because it helped keep me out of trouble. i've never done drugs, alcohol or smoked (even though i was pressured by my friends in middle and high school to do so) and i have my parents to thank for that because they were the ones who taught me about morals, ethics and how to be a respectable human being.

 

[Hear Again]

Overburden over social services system where it can fall into the cracks and at taxpayer's expense. Real smart.

what's the alternative? to kill a baby just to save the taxpayer's money?

in that case, perhaps my natural mother should have aborted me given how expensive it was to provide me medical care in the neonatal icu, medical care while growing up and an education in the public school system as well as a 4 year state university.

if money isn't spent in the social service arena it's spent elsewhere, so what's the difference? taxpayer's money is being spent either way.

 

[Oceanbreeze]

good for you.

unfortunately, many other children born with disabilities aren't fortunate enough to have parents who believe that they have the right to live.

instead, they think their children should be aborted simply because they can't see, hear, walk, etc.

It's not that simple. I am pro-choice and I have a disability that affects my ability to walk. If that was all that was wrong, I'd wouldn't bat an eye and agree with you. However, in my situation, life threatening complications arise and life is quite literally difficult. I had 11 brain surgeries by the time I was 3. I also had multiple infections and other things that put me in the hospital for the majority of the first year of my life.

If i were tell tell you exactly how many surgeries I've had, you'd have to pick your jaw up off off your computer desk. I've said this before, but it's the truth ... I cannot and would not put another child thru what I went through. I simply couldn't do it. I know that others would disagree with me and they have, but that's why we all have a choice in this country and I'm thankful for it.

If it was a simple matter of can't walk, can't see, can't hear, or can't whatever, then you're right. But, it's really not that simple for me and thats why I would choose to abort if I became pregnant. I also have health issues myself that would make carrying a child very very difficult. If I had to choose between preservation of my kidney function and terminating, or carrying the child term and risking kidney failure along the way, I'd choose termination.

That's pretty much it in a nutshell.

 

[Hear Again]

It's not that simple. I am pro-choice and I have a disability that affects my ability to walk. If that was all that was wrong, I'd wouldn't bat an eye and agree with you. However, in my situation, life threatening complications arise and life is quite literally difficult. I had 11 brain surgeries by the time I was 3. I also had multiple infections and other things that put me in the hospital for the majority of the first year of my life.

If i were tell tell you exactly how many surgeries I've had, you'd have to pick your jaw up off off your computer desk. I've said this before, but it's the truth ... I cannot and would not put another child thru what I went through. I simply couldn't do it. I know that others would disagree with me and they have, but that's why we all have a choice in this country and I'm thankful for it.

If it was a simple matter of can't walk, can't see, can't hear, or can't whatever, then you're right. But, it's really not that simple for me and thats why I would choose to abort if I became pregnant. I also have health issues myself that would make carrying a child very very difficult. If I had to choose between preservation of my kidney function and terminating, or carrying the child term and risking kidney failure along the way, I'd choose termination.

That's pretty much it in a nutshell.

ocean,

like you, i also spent the first 3 years of my life in the hospital with constant eye surgeries as well as reconstructive surgery for my forehead.

in fact, i only weighed 2 pounds at birth and almost died 3 times. doctors thought my prognosis was quite poor, but somehow, someway, i defied the odds and survived.

doctors also thought i would have permanent brain damage, cp, profound cognitive disabilities, heart defects, learning disabilities, lung disease and asthma.

i'm happy to report that i have none of those medical problems (although i did have a heart murmur as a child). the only disabilities i do have are being unable to see or hear.

i'd hate to think what would have happened if my natural mother would have aborted me.

by the way, i have a very good friend who went through similar experiences as you. she has spina bifida yet lives a productive life and couldn't be happier. she attends the local university and is expected to graduate with honors next year.

the potential to live a good life exists for all children. children are resilient and even when they face something as difficult as cancer, they still have the power to pull through and adapt emotionally. what a shame it would be to deny a child with a disability the chance to live a fulfilling life just because their parents thought they would be better off dead.

i'm afraid we're going to have to agree to disagree on this.