I still do not get it, cause the way I see it is that once a deaf person seek either CI or hearing aids, and is able to hear from it, then they changed into a " new " person because they no longer hear the silence but sounds...
Ok It is hard for me to explain so maybe I give you an example.
Suppose I am poor and I have this friend who is poor too and one day she won a million dollars in Lotto.
Since then, she can afford many expensive things that
I still can not,
and go places where I can not go.
she won't take me anywhere with her, and pretends she does not know me when we accidentaly come upon each other some place because I look poor.
Why does he/ she does that?
because she has bad morals, she does not understands the real value is not money but people. She is not interested in sharing her happiness with me, but only by herself. She does not care about me. never did.
As long as we were BOTH poor she had no choice but stick with me. There was no one better.
But as soon as she got rich she dropped me at tip of the the hat because that's how she is- rather phony and self- centred.
She is only thinking about her own well being, nobody else.
She does not want people know she was once poor, she wants to pretend she was always so cool, so she pretends she doesn't know me-
because me being poor and her knowing me tells other pple she must have been poor herself once- and she doesn't like that.
It's basically similar with deaf pple getting an implant and refusing to take TTY relay. Who the heck they think they are? Like you said they are basically still deaf.
Them dropping their old friend means they never were really good friends to being with.
You do NOT drop a good friend just because you got an implant.
You may have less time for her/him since you need to practice your new skills but you NEVER pretend you don't know her/ him anymore.
That's why it does not have so much to do with CI itself as it has with one's morality and personality.
There is even saying " a fair weather friend" - it means that as long as everything is nice and fine they are your best friend but as soon as you get into some trouble and need help -they disappear - and thus prove they weren't really your friends - ever.
Fuzzy
