When expecting a child, would you want it to be deaf?

Would you please excuse me for I am jumping here w/o reading all the replies but I wish to add my opinion.

the question is clearly:

When expecting a child, would you want it to be deaf?

Honestly no, I wouldn't,

but that doesn't meant that if I had deaf child I would reject it or think of it any less. I would love it all the same fiercely and would do anything for him/ her.
Why would I preffer it not be deaf? Simple. Because truth be said this world is overwhelmingly hearing world and for this child it would be better to hear. Only because of that.


Mothers (or fathers or grandparents or whoever) who reject their children because of disability- they are simply either scumbags or too weak to take the challenge of raising 'special needs' child.
They don't know what gift they received. Their big loss.

It's never the child's fault.

Fuzzy
 
Audiofuzzy said:
Would you please excuse me for I am jumping here w/o reading all the replies but I wish to add my opinion.

the question is clearly:

When expecting a child, would you want it to be deaf?

Honestly no, I wouldn't,

but that doesn't meant that if I had deaf child I would reject it or think of it any less. I would love it all the same fiercely and would do anything for him/ her.
Why would I preffer it not be deaf? Simple. Because truth be said this world is overwhelmingly hearing world and for this child it would be better to hear. Only because of that.


Mothers (or fathers or grandparents or whoever) who reject their children because of disability- they are simply either scumbags or too weak to take the challenge of raising 'special needs' child.
They don't know what gift they received. Their big loss.

It's never the child's fault.

Fuzzy
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Post 321 and finally someone who answered the question in the topic again. Your response is really appreciated. Thanks
 
It's funni hearing that coming from people here, about not wanted a deaf child. When I asked my son, Markus this question " When expecting a child, would you want it to be deaf?"

His respond was "I don't care, I'll be fine with it, if I did had a deaf child." You see how proud I am with my son, I raise him to accept everyone equally and that's the way it should be done. I'm proud of myself that I taught my boys proper matters, which means respect, treating others the way you want to be treated.

It's a shame that some of you aren't very accepting. *Shaking my head*
 
Cheri said:
It's funni hearing that coming from people here, about not wanted a deaf child. When I asked my son, Markus this question " When expecting a child, would you want it to be deaf?"

His respond was "I don't care, I'll be fine with it, if I did had a deaf child." You see how proud I am with my son
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Bravo about ur son! :thumb:
 
Cheri said:
It's funni hearing that coming from people here, about not wanted a deaf child. When I asked my son, Markus this question " When expecting a child, would you want it to be deaf?"

His respond was "I don't care, I'll be fine with it, if I did had a deaf child." You see how proud I am with my son, I raise him to accept everyone equally and that's the way it should be done. I'm proud of myself that I taught my boys proper matters, which means respect, treating others the way you want to be treated.

It's a shame that some of you aren't very accepting. *Shaking my head*
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That's great. The topic was about the question. It wasn't about 1 right answer. There is no right answer. When the answer comes from the heart, it's correct.
 
It's funni hearing that coming from people here, about not wanted a deaf child.
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Cheri I just wrote I would accept any child deaf or hearing- EQUALLY!..

Do you have a children? I do have one,
and I can tell you we do not want a child for OURSELVES, we want a child for a child. That means, when we think of our child we think what is best for the child not for us.

the question in this topic is a bit tricky, and I would say a bit unfair for it surely hurts some feelings of us deaf but at the same time I am sure everyone wondered about it at one point so why not in the open.

Once again please remember the questionn is not "if you want deaf child", the question is "would you want your child to be able to hear or not to hear"?


Fuzzy

ps my daughter is hearing.
 
If you are saying that because someone said they would PREFER to have their child be hearing over deaf is insulting, then you are doing the same when you say you prefer a deaf child over a hearing one. That's just as insulting to hearing people. If you want a deaf child, fine. No problem. Good for you. But don't be offended or insulted if someone IF THEY COULD CHOOSE, would choose hearing. This does NOT mean they wouldn't accept a deaf child. The question is would you WANT, meaning a PREFERENCE, your child to be deaf. They are simply saying if they had a choice, they would CHOOSE hearing.

I personally don't care if you want a deaf, or a hearing, or a blind, or a..whatever. You can want all you want. What you get is what you get. As long as you can take care of, and support your child without my help, that's all I care about.

If I change my mind and decide to have kids, I would probably PREFER them to be hearing, however I DON'T CARE if they're deaf. There is a pretty high chance my child would be deaf. That's fine with me.
 
Exactly, try to imagine this make believe:

You are pregnant, or your wife is expecting. You are like God, you can make it happen.
what would you do- grant the gift of hearing or not to the unborn child?

Fuzzy
 
Audiofuzzy said:
Cheri I just wrote I would accept any child deaf or hearing- EQUALLY!..
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Look at your respond, " When expecting a child, would you want it to be deaf?
Honestly no, I wouldn't,"<<This is your respond to the question. How is that accepting a deaf child??!!

Do you have a children? I do have one,
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Did you read my whole post, I did mention my son, Therefore that means, yes I do, I have two children, both are hearing.


Once again please remember the questionn is not "if you want deaf child", the question is "would you want your child to be able to hear or not to hear"?
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The question did not say what you said, the question Cloggy asked everyone was "When expecting a child, would you want it to be deaf?"





ps my daughter is hearing.[/QUOTE]
 
Look at your respond, " When expecting a child, would you want it to be deaf? Honestly no, I wouldn't,"<<This is your respond to the question. How is that accepting a deaf child??!!
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oops Cheri yes I forgot you wrote about your son.

Cheri I am not sure if you understand the question and my reply.
There is huge difference. There is a difference between not wanting your unborn child to be deaf, and have a deaf child and accept it.

Remember, the questions is if you want your child to hear or not. Not if you accept your deaf child or not.

When you were pregnant, did you wanted your child to be deaf? or hoped he will be deaf? or you thought it would be nice if he could hear?

Fuzzy
 
If the question was 'choice' then no, I doubt anyone would actually choose to have a deaf child, or a blind one, or a child with most disablements. This is nil to do with respecting or acceptence, the question was would you CHOOSE. Obviously if you have a child with any disablement then you will love it just the same. The issue actually disrespects child rights, i.e. the child's inherent right to not have a disability or issue. Do I sue the the deaf community if I have a deaf child because they told me it is OK, it's my 'right', then my child sues me for a lifetime of perceived Isolation or cruelty ? At the end of the day the parent has the responsibility (And the bills !), not the Deaf community. I really do not think in this instance the Deaf HAVE any right whatsoever to tell a parent what he or she should be doing, especially when a parent may well see this sector talking from a stance of almost total isolation from mainstream,and with little will to be really included in it.
 
In other words, what would you choose for your child- deafness or ability to hear? if you could choose?

Fuzzy
 
a old friend of mine who is deaf also. she told me once that she wished her child would be deaf and thinks it would be cool. i was like you never know what future holds. i personally would hope the best for my child. god has a plan for everyone.
 
Audiofuzzy said:
When you were pregnant, did you wanted your child to be deaf? or hoped he will be deaf? or you thought it would be nice if he could hear?
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I didn't even think of any of that, All I thought about during my pregnancy was hoping my unborn was healthy growing inside my womb.

How would your child feels when he/she sees you talking that way, in fact wishing or dream of wanting a child that isn't deaf, and once your child is born, if a child is deaf, that would make you guys feel shitty inside, cuz I know it would be for me, that's why I don't talk that way. a baby is a baby, a child is a child, who cares rather a child was born deaf, nor hearing. You'll love the child no matter what, at least I hope so. :)
 
Cheri- I see where you are coming from.
Your mother rejected you because you can't hear, and you look at the deaf topics thru this rejection. I am so very sorry for what happened to you. If you were my child you'd be my princess.

But the question is not about if we would love deaf or hearing child better.

Suppose your mother loved you like she supposed to have loved you, and you would look back at your life and say- boy it sure would have been easier to hear..
wouldn't you?

I would have no plm telling my deaf child (if asked) that yes I hoped he/she could hear for it's own good because it IS easier to hear,
but I would also reassure him/her it does NOT make a difference to me whether it's deaf or not and he/ she is as precious to me as any child- no difference.

Please understand I don't want to child be hearing for ME - I would like the child to be hearing for him/herself. To have easier life in this world.
For me, it doesn't matter..

Let me ask you this, then- if you were like God or a Fairy Godmother and could grant wishes - what would you grant- a hearing or a deafness?

Fuzzy
 
Audiofuzzy said:
Cheri- I see where you are coming from.
Your mother rejected you because you can't hear, and you look at the deaf topics thru this rejection. I am so very sorry for what happened to you. If you were my child you'd be my princess.
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Thanks :Oops:


Let me ask you this, then- if you were like God or a Fairy Godmother and could grant wishes - what would you grant- a hearing or a deafness?
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Honestly, I would grant both, because truth, I have two hearing children, they are aware of my deafness, they learned signs for me, they even speak slowly for me to understand, I believe there's are goodness in people even hearing and deafness, Why would I wanna choose or wishes for a hearing or deafness?
 
Why would I wanna choose or wishes for a hearing or deafness?
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I suppose only for the child to have easy in life, for nothing else.
That would be my motivation. For myself, deaf, hearing, blind, no limbs- doesn't matter what child.

You are great person Cheri. Your mother is .... I am not gonna say what, but it's negative.

Fuzzy
 
Audiofuzzy said:
I suppose only for the child to have easy in life, for nothing else.
That would be my motivation. For myself, deaf, hearing, blind, no limbs- doesn't matter what child.

You are great person Cheri. Your mother is .... I am not gonna say what, but it's negative.

Fuzzy
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I really appreciated that you understood how I feel, Thanks! and You're a great person too, Fuzzy. ;)
 
You have to wonder, WHY, some deaf wants deaf children.... I can't see how rights or culture come into it, pandering to some cultural perception is one thing, leaving a child with no choice in the matter seems cruelty, and anti human rights. All these 'pro-deaf children' people state 'choice' and 'right' as justification, when in reality neither really exists, I cannot 'Choose' to have a deaf child, even if I desired that, if I COULD choose I would allow my child to be fully able-bodied and hearing to get the best possible start. If as an adult he or she then chose to go 'deaf' that would be another issue ! Currently deaf wannabees already exist and self deafenen themselves in obscene ways, the deaf community abhors these people, why, when they want everyone deaf like them anyway ? (I should point out the context here, I oppose 1000% any deaf wannabee aspiration, I'd want them locked up somewhere !).
 
Honestly I really never thought for wish to have deaf children... All what I think is HEATHLY...

Deaf is also healthy as hearing as well... I can´t understand why some of posts consider deaf as unhealthy... :dunno:
 
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