She is, but I know most of it is the inoperable brain tumor. She's now questioning whether or not to get the loan for the construction. She is the one who offered. Her reasoning for questioning now, is she just remembered a conversation hubby and I had about maybe moving back to Missouri. Now, this conversation was over 1 year ago. For the last 3-6 months we have been mostly trying to figure out how we can stay here. then she up and offers to sign over the property for her 2nd lot and the garage and offers to get the loan, using her house as collateral for us to have the money to convert the garage. I did not ask at all, and hubby swears on a stack of Bibles that he did not ask, but now, she is uncertain that we can make the payments and is thinking we are planning on moving back to Missouri. We explained that we could not return to Missouri as we no longer had our home and hubby would not be able to get his old job back. She listens to the advice of her nosy neighbor before believing her own family. She's now questioning whether the building will look like a home. Yes, it has a flat roof, but so do a lot of new homes in this area. Yes, it is a mostly squared up rectangle shaped building with no front porch, but so are a lot of the newer homes in this area. Yes, there will be a front yard with a lot of concrete. Well, helloooo, this was a 3 bay garage for heaven's sake. The driveway starts out as a single lane, then opens up for all 3 bays. We are not tearing out any of that concrete since we still have to park there and the kids use part for the basketball hoop.
I did a monthly budget plan and showed her where we could make the projected payments. I even estimated the electric and water to be very high and put the estimated mortgage to be $60 more than it really will be. She's concerned for the 2-3 months where hubby doesn't work full 40 hour weeks. I understand her concern, but in with this budget, I also made allowances for a savings account to help cover those months. Also, my mother is also going to start contributing to the monthly bills.
Ah well, I know it will get somewhat better. While she will never change, we will get a house that will mean that I will not be dealing with her 24/7.
*taking deep breaths and thinking happy calming thoughts*