What are you thinking about? Part IV

[jillio]

I don't know what you do or say in these sessions, but I don't know if it's even possible to change him. Nothing I've done has been good enough, that's why I gave up eons ago. So much for being a daddy's girl. I have no idea of what that's like and people tell me how wonderful it is. Well it's anything but wonderful for me. I just have to put on this grand facade that everything is just peachy. Damn I need to get back on my fucking happy pills.

It is never possible to change another person. The only thing you can change is what you are doing and how you react to him.

 

[jillio]

I wish you could spend time with my ex hubby. However, he has not bothered me since the whole custody battle is all over.

Just give me an address if he messes with you again.

 

[Jiro]

that's your view and you are entitled to it. I disagree with you, my friend.

that's fine but here's something to think about. Let's pretend that you're a very successful person. and you wish to inspire others. I have a strong feeling that you wouldn't even offer "UNPAID" internship to others.

I can't. I would offer something, anything. I'm not gonna act like an almighty smug and say - "I'm a very important, influential man. Being my intern will brings you a lot of opportunity to your future."

 

[shel90]

I don't know what you do or say in these sessions, but I don't know if it's even possible to change him. Nothing I've done has been good enough, that's why I gave up eons ago. So much for being a daddy's girl. I have no idea of what that's like and people tell me how wonderful it is. Well it's anything but wonderful for me. I just have to put on this grand facade that everything is just peachy. Damn I need to get back on my fucking happy pills.

What about your mom?Do you get along with her? I was never daddy's little girl either but my dad became much more affectionate and supportive when I was in my 20s.

 

[Dixie]

It is never possible to change another person. The only thing you can change is what you are doing and how you react to him.

Right now I just avoid him at all cost. I just come home, might eat, might not, go upstairs to our room, shut the door and stay there until time to go to work or someplace away from here. Family life doesn't even exist because if it did, it would just be hell.

 

[Jiro]

Because unless you have a career where a license is required, you didn't do a paid internship. You had an entry level job.

I had internship which was part of my college major requirement.

Entry level job? not at all... especially since I didn't have college degree at that time.

Like I said - "UNPAID" Internship should be outlawed. One shouldn't crawl and bark at their whim... and not get a treat in return.

 

[shel90]

that's fine but here's something to think about. Let's pretend that you're a very successful person. and you wish to inspire others. I have a strong feeling that you wouldn't even offer "UNPAID" internship to others.

I can't. I would offer something, anything. I'm not gonna act like an almighty smug and say - "I'm a very important, influential man. Being my intern will brings you a lot of opportunity to your future."

I cant answer your question because I am not weathly enough to hire people. LOL!

My hearing brother did unpaid internships at law offices while as an undergrad student because he planned on being a lawyer. Now, he can put that in his resume when he graduates from law school as opposed to someone who has zero real life experience with just a degree. Nowadays, a degree doesnt seem enough...need the experience and the degree to get ahead. I didnt get hired immediately for a teaching job after getting my degree because I had zero experience. Finally, I got it like 7 months later because a teacher quit when she had her baby in December.

 

[Dixie]

What about your mom?Do you get along with her? I was never daddy's little girl either but my dad became much more affectionate and supportive when I was in my 20s.

My mom and I get along fine. We can talk, just not too personally. We have a good relationship just not a close affectionate one like everyone else. Maybe it's me, maybe I'm just not open to affection for whatever reason. Come to think of it, I don't think we've ever really been a close affectionate family.

 

[shel90]

My mom and I get along fine. We can talk, just not too personally. We have a good relationship just not a close affectionate one like everyone else. Maybe it's me, maybe I'm just not open to affection for whatever reason. Come to think of it, I don't think we've ever really been a close affectionate family.

Does she give you the emotional and moral support you need?

 

[Dixie]

Does she give you the emotional and moral support you need?

Nah, not really. She just tells me to stay quiet and let him keep on because he *might* eventually shut up. I don't think I can take much more of this. Now I'm nearly in tears just thinking about it.

 

[Jiro]

I cant answer your question because I am not weathly enough to hire people. LOL!

that's why we're playing a pretend game. If you were a successful person, would you offer unpaid internship? I've answered that I can't because it's against my principle and moral. If others don't see it that way, that's fine.

My hearing brother did unpaid internships at law offices while as an undergrad student because he planned on being a lawyer. Now, he can put that in his resume when he graduates from law school as opposed to someone who has zero real life experience with just a degree. Nowadays, a degree doesnt seem enough...need the experience and the degree to get ahead. I didnt get hired immediately for a teaching job after getting my degree because I had zero experience. Finally, I got it like 7 months later because a teacher quit when she had her baby in December.

that's fine. on the other hand, I did paid internships and I landed a job. my friend did paid internship at a law firm. As I said before, there are other ways to get experience. I'm not against others doing unpaid internship but I'm against it myself.

 

[shel90]

Nah, not really. She just tells me to stay quiet and let him keep on because he *might* eventually shut up. I don't think I can take much more of this. Now I'm nearly in tears just thinking about it.

Cry it out...it will help.

 

[jillio]

that's fine but here's something to think about. Let's pretend that you're a very successful person. and you wish to inspire others. I have a strong feeling that you wouldn't even offer "UNPAID" internship to others.

I can't. I would offer something, anything. I'm not gonna act like an almighty smug and say - "I'm a very important, influential man. Being my intern will brings you a lot of opportunity to your future."

That feeling would be wrong. Successful people offer unpaid internships all the time. Really, jiro...you are in to something here that you really don't know much about.

 

[Jiro]

damn Dixie. what a miserable hell that no one should go thru. I'd exchange my place with yours and give him a hell

 

[shel90]

that's why we're playing a pretend game. If you were a successful person, would you offer unpaid internship? I've answered that I can't because it's against my principle and moral. If others don't see it that way, that's fine.


that's fine. on the other hand, I did paid internships and I landed a job. my friend did paid internship at a law firm. As I said before, there are other ways to get experience. I'm not against others doing unpaid internship but I'm against it myself.

I dont know, honestly. I cant say that I will do this or that until it actually happens because as an old and wise women, I have done things that I thought I would never do.

Like I may set my alarm at 3AM to watch the Royal Wedding. If someone asked me if I would do that last week, I would have said "Hell no!" Now, I am all caught up with it. I am not consistent. LOL

 

[Jiro]

That feeling would be wrong. Successful people offer unpaid internships all the time. Really, jiro...you are in to something here that you really don't know much about.

Even if I were a successful person, I wouldn't offer unpaid internships. I'd pay for intern's commuting cost.

 

[jillio]

I had internship which was part of my college major requirement.

Entry level job? not at all... especially since I didn't have college degree at that time.

Like I said - "UNPAID" Internship should be outlawed. One shouldn't crawl and bark at their whim... and not get a treat in return.

Whatever, jiro. I guess some people are grateful for the experience that makes them proficient in their careers and are thankful there are those that agree to mentor, and then there are those that think that they are experts just because they've spent a little time in a classroom.

 

[Dixie]

Cry it out...it will help.

Nah, probably won't do any good. Besides, if I start, I probably won't stop. I think the county is flooded enough as it is.

 

[Glenn]

I had internship which was part of my college major requirement.

Entry level job? not at all... especially since I didn't have college degree at that time.

Like I said - "UNPAID" Internship should be outlawed. One shouldn't crawl and bark at their whim... and not get a treat in return.

Why not outlaw recessions instead? My internship was with Washington School for the Deaf, which is a state agency. Because of the recession's impact on the state budget, there wasn't money to pay me. I am sure that holds true for many businesses as well. If times were better, perhaps there would be more paid internships and everyone would be happy with that.

 

[Jiro]

I dont know, honestly. I cant say that I will do this or that until it actually happens because as an old and wise women, I have done things that I thought I would never do.

Like I may set my alarm at 3AM to watch the Royal Wedding. If someone asked me if I would do that last week, I would have said "Hell no!" Now, I am all caught up with it. I am not consistent. LOL

It's not the same as simply making a plan and see if you feel like it or not at that moment. It's about your principle that you've had for life. Something that you strongly believe in.

Example - you raised your child that way because of the way you grew up and believe in.