What are you thinking about? Part IV

[Jiro]

Because that degree of experience is required for you to have the degree that now says that you are qualified to hold the degree. Internships are not the same as volunteer work. Internships are required in fields where practical experience is mandatory for you to be qualified to do a particular job.

It costs money to pay my tuition, too, but I would not be able to practice without my degrees. Internships are required in fields where practical experience is necessary to be qualified to do a job where another's welfare is at stake. It is part of the training. An intern is under direct supervision of someone who has special credentials to supervise. It is intended as a learning experience.

I simply don't believe in "UNPAID" Internship. All internships should be paid in any shape or form - minimum wage, compensation for commuting cost or lunch, etc.

I'm sorry but a handshake and a pat on the back "hey thanks!" is just not good enough. It's an insult. I do stuff for them and they did none for me? That doesn't jive with me well. I don't care if working for big-namer means a huge opportunity later on. I wouldn't work for Microsoft or White House for free. It's still an insult to me. I can get the opportunity thru other way and I'm doing just fine. It's not the end of world and there are plenty of other choices. But hey - that's just me.

 

[Dixie]

You really and truly need to separate from your parents. They seem to be toxic for you.

Everyone's been telling me this for about 2-3 years now. And my mom informed me that it pains my dad to have to do anything for me as I noticed that he poured drinks for everyone else but did not pour a drink for me, this has been his way of showing me that I'm not wanted anymore - part of the time I don't even exist, part of the time I'm his proverbial punching bag, and part of the time he bitches when I don't have anything to do with him.

If I can get a job in Dardanelle/Russellville I'm gone. This is getting beyond ridiculous. Lord I pray for that damn USDA job, if it will ever come together. That might be my one-way ticket out of here.

 

[jillio]

I simply don't believe in "UNPAID" Internship. All internships should be paid in any shape or form - minimum wage, compensation for commuting cost or lunch, etc.

I'm sorry but a handshake and a pat on the back "hey thanks!" is just not good enough. It's an insult. I do stuff for them and they did none for me? That doesn't jive with me well. I don't care if working for big-namer means a huge opportunity later on. I wouldn't work for Microsoft or White House for free. It's still an insult to me. I can get the opportunity thru other way and I'm doing just fine. It's not the end of world and there are plenty of other choices. But hey - that's just me.

Why should you be paid for a job you are just learning to do? An intern is an intern because they don't have the level of expertise necessary to perform at a satisfactory level without direct supervision guiding them. Internships benefit the intern. For one thing, those required to do them can't be degreed or licensed without them. Secondly, I gained experience during my internships that makes me a better practitioner, because I interned places I would not have worked. But interning there gave me experience that benefits me and my clients.

I guess it just depends on how much value you place on learning. Just don't ever go into a field that expects you to have an above average level of expertise before giving your degree.

 

[Dixie]

What is your dad's problem? It seems like he resents having you living there with him?

He's resented me for as long as I can remember, all my life pretty much. Maybe I'm just a burden to him. I've always been last place to him.

 

[Glenn]

I simply don't believe in "UNPAID" Internship. All internships should be paid in any shape or form - minimum wage, compensation for commuting cost or lunch, etc.

I'm sorry but a handshake and a pat on the back "hey thanks!" is just not good enough. It's an insult. I do stuff for them and they did none for me? That doesn't jive with me well. I don't care if working for big-namer means a huge opportunity later on. I wouldn't work for Microsoft or White House for free. It's still an insult to me. I can get the opportunity thru other way and I'm doing just fine. It's not the end of world and there are plenty of other choices. But hey - that's just me.

If you took nothing away from an internship, you have missed the point.

Do you expect to get paid for everything you do? Should the grocery store pay you commuting costs so you can shop there?

 

[jillio]

Everyone's been telling me this for about 2-3 years now. And my mom informed me that it pains my dad to have to do anything for me as I noticed that he poured drinks for everyone else but did not pour a drink for me, this has been his way of showing me that I'm not wanted anymore - part of the time I don't even exist, part of the time I'm his proverbial punching bag, and part of the time he bitches when I don't have anything to do with him.

If I can get a job in Dardanelle/Russellville I'm gone. This is getting beyond ridiculous. Lord I pray for that damn USDA job, if it will ever come together. That might be my one-way ticket out of here.

Not only that, it is definately wrong for your DD to see your dad treat you that way. Gives her the wrong message about her mom. I'd like to have about 15 minutes alone with your dad.

 

[Jiro]

Why should you be paid for a job you are just learning to do? An intern is an intern because they don't have the level of expertise necessary to perform at a satisfactory level without direct supervision guiding them. Internships benefit the intern. For one thing, those required to do them can't be degreed or licensed without them. Secondly, I gained experience during my internships that makes me a better practitioner, because I interned places I would not have worked. But interning there gave me experience that benefits me and my clients.

I guess it just depends on how much value you place on learning.

and I gained experience and learning thru paid internships. Like I said - it's a matter of principle. One should expect to give something when other helps out.

Can't even pay minimum wage? or even $5 lunch? c'mon...

 

[shel90]

I simply don't believe in "UNPAID" Internship. All internships should be paid in any shape or form - minimum wage, compensation for commuting cost or lunch, etc.

I'm sorry but a handshake and a pat on the back "hey thanks!" is just not good enough. It's an insult. I do stuff for them and they did none for me? That doesn't jive with me well. I don't care if working for big-namer means a huge opportunity later on. I wouldn't work for Microsoft or White House for free. It's still an insult to me. I can get the opportunity thru other way and I'm doing just fine. It's not the end of world and there are plenty of other choices. But hey - that's just me.

that's your view and you are entitled to it. I disagree with you, my friend.

 

[jillio]

and I gained experience and learning thru paid internships. Like I said - it's a matter of principle. One should expect to give something when other helps out.

Can't even pay minimum wage? or even $5 lunch? c'mon...

What license do you have? There is a difference between an internship and an entry level job.

 

[shel90]

Everyone's been telling me this for about 2-3 years now. And my mom informed me that it pains my dad to have to do anything for me as I noticed that he poured drinks for everyone else but did not pour a drink for me, this has been his way of showing me that I'm not wanted anymore - part of the time I don't even exist, part of the time I'm his proverbial punching bag, and part of the time he bitches when I don't have anything to do with him.

If I can get a job in Dardanelle/Russellville I'm gone. This is getting beyond ridiculous. Lord I pray for that damn USDA job, if it will ever come together. That might be my one-way ticket out of here.

When will you find out if you get the job or not? What about applying for out of state jobs?

 

[shel90]

He's resented me for as long as I can remember, all my life pretty much. Maybe I'm just a burden to him. I've always been last place to him.

did you ever ask him if he really feels that way?

 

[Dixie]

Not only that, it is definately wrong for your DD to see your dad treat you that way. Gives her the wrong message about her mom. I'd like to have about 15 minutes alone with your dad.

Shit I don't even like being alone with him for 15 minutes. It's just bad, just bad.

As for what my DD has seen, sadly she's seen worse from him. I'm regretful of that.

 

[Jiro]

What license do you have? There is a difference between an internship and an entry level job.

license? where did that come from?

and I've never talked about entry-level job.

 

[jillio]

Shit I don't even like being alone with him for 15 minutes. It's just bad, just bad.

As for what my DD has seen, sadly she's seen worse from him. I'm regretful of that.

You aren't the one that should have regrets. He is.

Oh, I enjoy spending time with abusive people. Trust me.

 

[jillio]

license? where did that come from?

and I've never talked about entry-level job.

Because unless you have a career where a license is required, you didn't do a paid internship. You had an entry level job.

 

[Glenn]

and I gained experience and learning thru paid internships. Like I said - it's a matter of principle. One should expect to give something when other helps out.

Can't even pay minimum wage? or even $5 lunch? c'mon...

Your worldview is a little too rigid.

 

[Glenn]

Shit I don't even like being alone with him for 15 minutes. It's just bad, just bad.

As for what my DD has seen, sadly she's seen worse from him. I'm regretful of that.

Your dad sounds very dysfunctional. I hope you can find a way to resolve the situation as soon as you can.

 

[jillio]

Your worldview is a little too rigid.

A little too limited. That attitude won't work in a lot of places.

 

[Dixie]

You aren't the one that should have regrets. He is.

Oh, I enjoy spending time with abusive people. Trust me.

I don't know what you do or say in these sessions, but I don't know if it's even possible to change him. Nothing I've done has been good enough, that's why I gave up eons ago. So much for being a daddy's girl. I have no idea of what that's like and people tell me how wonderful it is. Well it's anything but wonderful for me. I just have to put on this grand facade that everything is just peachy. Damn I need to get back on my fucking happy pills.

 

[shel90]

You aren't the one that should have regrets. He is.

Oh, I enjoy spending time with abusive people. Trust me.

I wish you could spend time with my ex hubby. However, he has not bothered me since the whole custody battle is all over.