Grendel,
We respect different modes of communication if it works for you, that's great. That is not the issue here.
Deafies, including myself, are very receptive to attitudes and vibes we sense from people. The undertones of the implications stated in each of the posts by the OP, yourself and FJ is - that if you don't have help from the 'professionals' with their therapies and experimential methods that a DHH child cannot acquire 'full and fluent language' and you spend a lot of your 'debates' on trying to prove just that. It is an insult to us to say the least.
I learned what I know of the English language purely from reading and my mother in particular spending time with me in a natural way as you would with any child.[/B]
IMO, If hearing parents could just quit spending so much money and time on therapies and methods to get 'perfect language' and actually spend that valuable time with their child instead. Sign language comes naturally to a deaf child, as it is visual. This, coupled with quality time with said child, is the most effective (and may I say economical way) to get a 'full and fluent acquistion of the English language' As for YOU as a hearing parent, this is the most important thing for you, in the 'best interests of your child', as you cannot seem to comprehend a constructive and happy life perhaps without it. I have news for you - You would be pleasantly surprised as to how much your child can communicate and learn (and yes even in English!) without all that. I am not against methods, but the emphasis having to subject a DHH child to so much overload as a means to an end is totally unnecessary.