One night stand

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My true opinion...what people do behind closed doors is not my business so if people want to have one night stands as long as they take precautions, it is their right. As long as nobody is being coerced into it like date rape, for one.

I had a friend who was single and one time we went out with friends. We started dancing and just felt the urge so got into it. Sometimes, one night stands arent deliberately planned. Doesnt make people bad for them.
 
receive a bj from a girl is one-night stand? Im just curious.
 
DeafCaroline said:
with sunny_signs' go ahead, I will freely say that I don't think it's love to deprive someone of love and affection even through "health and sickness". If my husband fell into a coma and there's no chance he would wake up, I don't think he would have wanted me to live the rest of my life unloved and alone. And if he was the kind of guy who did want that, I wouldn't have married him in the first place.
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I don't see how love and affection equates to a one-night stand for sex.
 
No, an one-night stand is not love and affection and one should be able to understand that before engaging in it. If one expects love and affection from an one-night stand, then they are in for a rude awakening.

However, if two people just want to statisfy their sexual urges just to release the hormones or whatever gets pent up in our bodies, I am all for it. It did help me in a few occassions when I was single. Was nice to get that need met when it was really really really really pent up. I think some people here know what I am talking about. :lol:

Everyone is different. There is no wrong or right away at it. It is a private matter between two people.
 
All I know is that I refuse to go without intimacy for a long period of time...if my needs, including emotional, mental, physical, and sexual needs are neglected, I will do something about it. I went on the whole road of being the goody shoes wife. It was an awfully long trip. Never again. Women have urges and needs just like men...so why do some men still have the mentality that once their needs are met, that's it for the day? And we wonder why women are PMS-induced psychos. Just saying.
 
Many women got pregnant from unprotected sex with unknown partners for one night. Those guys got away with a child support. That's a fact.

If you have a one night stand with someone you don't know well and both of you didn't carry a condom, oral and/or anal sex are better than nothing.

Whoa, I am sick? Really?

BTW, I think many young people do that now to avoid pregnancy when a condom is not available during sex.
 
I have never had a one night stand ... I don't think I am wired for that kind of sex, and personally, I kind of look down my nose on people who engage in one night stands (for some weird reason I guess). It's just instinctive, not anything I really have any control over. If I knew someone was cheating on a spouse, or engaging in an "emotionally free no strings attached" conjugal party, I avoid that person. They are creepy - to me anyways.

Yes, I know I am being judgemental and perhaps offensive ... but who really cares? Maybe I should just ask my Congressman if I could be excused from having to pay taxes to support other people's children.

Now ... for the contradiction - I have a very good friend whom I grew up with. He and I have known each other since we were kids. He is a sex addict. He has one night stands about 2-3 times a day and spends a fortune on this. He is in therapy, is married, and his wife is "cool with it".

He is not "cool with it". He hates it.
 
DeafTim said:
receive a bj from a girl is one-night stand? Im just curious.
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If you know that girl as a friend or classmate, then it's not a one night stand.

A one night stand involves sex (any kind) with an unknown partner (or a stranger) for one night.

A date is to get to know each other better before sex. Sex could happen on a first date, by the way but it's not called a one night stand since both partners already know each other.

So if you know her but don't date her, she is a slut who would suck any dicks of men she knows.
 
Wait wait..

let me get this cleared up.

Are one night stands strictly only when you have sex with someone you just met the same day?

If so, then..no I never had one as I was never and never will be comfortable with having sex with people whom I didnt know.

What about going out with a group of friends and you just happened to get hot and heavy with one of your friends at the club or wahtever and end up "going home" with that friend?

That was what happened to me a few times.

Maybe I was confused with what the definition of what an "one-night" stand meant. I thought it applied to whether one knows the other person or not?
 
I always thought one night stand was a mutual agreement that there were no strings attached...or if one of them never called back after the act
 
shel90 said:
Wait wait..

let me get this cleared up.

Are one night stands strictly only when you have sex with someone you just met the same day?

If so, then..no I never had one as I was never and never will be comfortable with having sex with people whom I didnt know.

What about going out with a group of friends and you just happened to get hot and heavy with one of your friends at the club or wahtever and end up "going home" with that friend?

That was what happened to me a few times.

Maybe I was confused with what the definition of what an "one-night" stand meant. I thought it applied to whether one knows the other person or not?
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correct. a meaningless sex with some stranger you just met at wherever and never keep in touch again. just done and done.
 
Jiro said:
correct. a meaningless sex with some stranger you just met at wherever and never keep in touch again. just done and done.
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Then the following day, your brother introduces his girlfriend to you... and guess who it is? :lol:

Awkward!
 
shel90 said:
Wait wait..

let me get this cleared up.

Are one night stands strictly only when you have sex with someone you just met the same day?

If so, then..no I never had one as I was never and never will be comfortable with having sex with people whom I didnt know.

What about going out with a group of friends and you just happened to get hot and heavy with one of your friends at the club or wahtever and end up "going home" with that friend?

That was what happened to me a few times.

Maybe I was confused with what the definition of what an "one-night" stand meant. I thought it applied to whether one knows the other person or not?
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That is what a one night stand is. Having sex with someone you don't know. Having sex with a friend is entirely different.
 
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