One night stand

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CrazyPaul said:
If you know that girl as a friend or classmate, then it's not a one night stand.

A one night stand involves sex (any kind) with an unknown partner (or a stranger) for one night.

A date is to get to know each other better before sex. Sex could happen on a first date, by the way but it's not called a one night stand since both partners already know each other.

So if you know her but don't date her, she is a slut who would suck any dicks of men she knows.
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Well, I knew female names in my hometown where I grew up. I wasnt friends or classmates with them. So, I guess I had couple of one night stands. One of them had a bf and still polished my knob. :giggle: Never talk to her before but I knew her name b/c of her family.

deafbajagal said:
I always thought one night stand was a mutual agreement that there were no strings attached...or if one of them never called back after the act
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I agree with this post.

sunny_signs said:
You can have one night stand someone you know!
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True!
 
sunny_signs said:
I'm disappointed with all character judgements in this thread. How you can call person promiscuous, slut, creepy based on one one-night-stand? Might embarrass myself totally here, but I had one night stand night I made this thread (possible this already obvious). It brings my lifetime total sexual partners up to 2. Promiscuous? I don't think so. So easy judge when you don't know whole story. Yes, alcohol helped make less-than-magical night possible. Does this mean alcohol or sluttish behaviour problematic? No. Biggest contributing factor was break-up with Dallas, after 7 years together (since age 13)...heartbroken...think thus make that pain less...so wrong. Character judgements help? Not at all.
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Having a one night stand doesn't make you a slut.
 
I think the ones that calls people who have sex freely names are the ones that have the desire to go around, or regretted they didn't do that while they were young.
 
I think is easy to hide behind religious views and judge others...not so easy be willing stand and be judged. Besides, pretty sure all those judging others are usurping the job of a certain someone they claim worship.
 
DeafCaroline said:
Hmmm..so people who are not in a long term relationship should refrain from having sex? That doesn't sound healthy for mental, emotional and health reasons.
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I take it you do not watch daytime American shows where there is always a need for aD.N.A. test after a one night/one time sex. If you did you would notice these couples are really messed up emotionally, mentally and not healthy. And that is to say nothing about the baby(s).
 
I never think I will need tell adult this...but...prepare yourself...tv not real.
 
rolling7 said:
I take it you do not watch daytime American shows where there is always a need for aD.N.A. test after a one night/one time sex. If you did you would notice these couples are really messed up emotionally, mentally and not healthy. And that is to say nothing about the baby(s).
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Soap Operas and Reality shows will milk drama to get ratings and audience.
 
Very true but you can't lie...or they give you a test for that too.
 
DeafCaroline said:
Not that pitiful. And it's definitely worth considering because in real life, partners of those in long time comas do go out and cheat. They have fundamental needs for love, attention and sex. A persona in a coma cannot provide those things. It's romantic to think of lifelong fidelity but very few are capable of that in regards to being a partner of someone in a long term coma.

Until you're in their shoes, you can't really judge on such behaviours. It's a complicated matter.
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Exactly. This is an ethical dilemma that people face all the time. That is the reality and one of the consequences of medicine's ability to prolong "life". These issues need to be discussed in an adult and caring manner.
 
shel90 said:
No, an one-night stand is not love and affection and one should be able to understand that before engaging in it. If one expects love and affection from an one-night stand, then they are in for a rude awakening.

However, if two people just want to statisfy their sexual urges just to release the hormones or whatever gets pent up in our bodies, I am all for it. It did help me in a few occassions when I was single. Was nice to get that need met when it was really really really really pent up. I think some people here know what I am talking about. :lol:

Everyone is different. There is no wrong or right away at it. It is a private matter between two people.
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I agree with you 100%. And I can tell you from personal experience that what both parties believed was a one night stand can turn out to be much more. My current SO and I thought that was what was happening between us. It has been 7 years since that one night stand, and we are still in a relationship. We have defined explicitly what that relationship means to each of us, and have been honest about what we need, and what we don't want, in a relationship at this time in our lives. It may not be some people's idea of what a relationship should be, but it suits the two of us just fine. I am happy to say that one night stand was one of the best things to happen to me.
 
rolling7 said:
I take it you do not watch daytime American shows where there is always a need for aD.N.A. test after a one night/one time sex. If you did you would notice these couples are really messed up emotionally, mentally and not healthy. And that is to say nothing about the baby(s).
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Soap Operas are what you base your opinions on?:laugh2:
 
shel90 said:
Ok..then, that means I never had one. I cant have sex with someone I just met. I would be too uncomfortable and paranoid so that wouldnt be too exciting. :lol:

I guess I am like DeafBadger...had one-time benefits with friends. :dunno:
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The way I understand it, one night stand just means impulsive sex with a person for that one time with no intention of it going any further. Doesn't matter whether you know the person or not. You can have a one night stand with someone you know.
 
sunny_signs said:
I never think I will need tell adult this...but...prepare yourself...tv not real.
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But but but some TV shows and movies usually include facts of life.

For example, if you remember the old TV comedy series, "Everybody Loves Raymond", Raymond argued with his wife about his turn to watch their young kids and do chores so she could go out with her friends all day. That are facts of life. The show just made it funny. I did that with my wife. I am sure many husbands felt that way, too in a real world.
 
jillio said:
I agree with you 100%. And I can tell you from personal experience that what both parties believed was a one night stand can turn out to be much more. My current SO and I thought that was what was happening between us. It has been 7 years since that one night stand, and we are still in a relationship. We have defined explicitly what that relationship means to each of us, and have been honest about what we need, and what we don't want, in a relationship at this time in our lives. It may not be some people's idea of what a relationship should be, but it suits the two of us just fine. I am happy to say that one night stand was one of the best things to happen to me.
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Oh, sure it can happen that you unexpectedly fall in love with a strange woman after one night stand.
 
I'm sure this EXACTLY the show rolling7 mean by "daytime Americsn shows where there is always need for DNA test after one night stand".
 
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