One night stand

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CrazyPaul said:
Having a one night stand doesn't make you a slut.
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I agree to a point. One night stands every once in a while is fine, but if you do it all the time and don't have a psychological reason (i.e. sex addiction) then that's another thing. Personally, I wouldn't do that, but I'm not everyone. Just stay safe, and be prepared for consequences.
 
Reba said:
The original posted question was:

"What your opinion one night stand??"

If someone posts such a question seeking opinions, then one must be prepared for opinions that might not be to the questioner's liking.

Now, if the poster is seeking affirmations instead of opinions, it should be stated thus.
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OP made grave error judgement. Assumed opinions (as asked for) about what was then hypothetical situation would not directly call her a slut when hypothetical became reality.
 
Sunny- don't feel bad. You're at "that age" where people tend to kick up their heels a bit, and live a bit on the wild side. I'd be willing to bet that a large segment of the population has had a one night stand. It doesn't in any way make you sleazy. As long as you are a willing participant, you take precautions, and you know what you're getting into, it's all good.

If it becomes a pattern, then perhaps that's cause for concern.

For now, just focus on you as an individual. Your identity has been tied up with smothers for a while, so it'll take time to get your center back. Good news is, it's there and all is well in the world ;-)
 
jillio said:
The old "Don't ask the question if you don't want the answer" caution.
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That was mentioned because, at some point along the way here, the OP turned pouty at some of the opinions proffered. Dunno how old she is but what was she expecting????
 
StevieMont927 said:
I agree to a point. One night stands every once in a while is fine, but if you do it all the time and don't have a psychological reason (i.e. sex addiction) then that's another thing. Personally, I wouldn't do that, but I'm not everyone. Just stay safe, and be prepared for consequences.
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Well said. People have the free will to do whatever they desire. Although with free will also comes with great responsibility. Use it wisely and you will live a happy life.
 
Tousi said:
That was mentioned because, at some point along the way here, the OP turned pouty at some of the opinions proffered. Dunno how old she is but what was she expecting????
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I have to admit, I didn't read the thread all the way through. But the "Don't ask the question..." is a caution I throw out to people all the time.:giggle: Generally when questions like that are asked, it is affirmation being looked for.
 
I am laughing at this thread, and amazed it has been civil so far.
 
sunny_signs said:
OP made grave error judgement. Assumed opinions (as asked for) about what was then hypothetical situation would not directly call her a slut when hypothetical became reality.
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Don't base your opinion of yourself on what other people have to say. And here is a good rule to go by: if it is a situation that you feel that you aren't certain and need to question it, there is a more than probable chance that it's something you need to postpone doing.

Getting over relationship break ups is a process. You have to learn to go on with your life without the person being there. But first, you have to unlearn that belief that they are there and available to you. Unlearning that is more difficult than learning to go on without them. There are no magic cures, and a new relationship is the worst possible way to try to cure the sadness from a break up. Give yourself time to go through the process. If you do that, you will be much more prepared for the next relationship, and will have more to bring to it.
 
For me, one-night stands are a thing of the past. Early on I would brag to my buddies about them, but finally kept mum. That is all I will say. :lol:
 
Tousi said:
That was mentioned because, at some point along the way here, the OP turned pouty at some of the opinions proffered. Dunno how old she is but what was she expecting????
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She adult over age of majority, thank you. Not "pouty", insulted at some names being called. Big difference.
 
Beowulf said:
For me, one-night stands are a thing of the past. Early on I would brag to my buddies about them, but finally kept mum. That is all I will say. :lol:
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They better be a thing of the past at this point in time!:P
 
posts from hell said:
I think the ones that calls people who have sex freely names are the ones that have the desire to go around, or regretted they didn't do that while they were young.
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I am SO happy I got a chance to be a" slut" after my divorce. Got that off my chest so I will not have any regrets looking back. I actually did have fun. :giggle:
 
jillio said:
I agree with you 100%. And I can tell you from personal experience that what both parties believed was a one night stand can turn out to be much more. My current SO and I thought that was what was happening between us. It has been 7 years since that one night stand, and we are still in a relationship. We have defined explicitly what that relationship means to each of us, and have been honest about what we need, and what we don't want, in a relationship at this time in our lives. It may not be some people's idea of what a relationship should be, but it suits the two of us just fine. I am happy to say that one night stand was one of the best things to happen to me.
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Wow! YOU!!! :eek3:

Just kidding...glad that it all worked out for you!
 
When you meet them again, after the act, any problems? The relationship has to be redefined at certain points, so that makes for interesting conversations.
 
Beowulf said:
When you meet them again, after the act, any problems? The relationship has to be redefined at certain points, so that makes for interesting conversations.
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for very few, theres issues. But for the rest of them - awesome.
 
Beowulf said:
When you meet them again, after the act, any problems? The relationship has to be redefined at certain points, so that makes for interesting conversations.
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I am still friends with some of my one night stands. Whenever I see them, I dont think about it...it is all in the past. We have forgotten about the fact that we "did" it with each other because it was so long ago...like 7 or 8 years ago.
 
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