One night stand

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That's a tricky question...perhaps all depends on how strong ur belief is with the marriage vows you took.....

Then again, we're all human and make mistakes. Doesn't mean you have to go out and pick up strangers to try to fulfill ur sexual desires/needs. The majority of the time, it will make you feel "worse". I feel it's something that you alone have to "deal" with in the best way you can, and not needing to broadcast it. Many people will try to take advantage of you. and the situation
 
deafbajagal said:
Suppose your spouse is in a coma forever. You love this person and is committed to caring for him or her. Would a night stand be justified? Or are you supposed to abstain from sex until the partner dies or if you divorced?
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I would do what I want. Seeing the person is in coma forever.

This question is bordering on religion beliefs. And that I don't really have any.
 
Good thing my hubby and I agreed that we just pull the plug on each other if each of us shud fall into an irreversible coma. :)
 
I burst out laughing because I'm trying to imagine my husband's face when I tell him we need to agree on the plug because I don't know if I can without sex. Lmao
 
deafbajagal said:
Suppose your spouse is in a coma forever. You love this person and is committed to caring for him or her. Would a night stand be justified? Or are you supposed to abstain from sex until the partner dies or if you divorced?
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Love is not just a feeling, it's behavior. Being unfaithful is not a loving behavior.

It's really pitiful that such a question even needs to be asked.
 
shel90 said:
Good thing my hubby and I agreed that we just pull the plug on each other if each of us shud fall into an irreversible coma. :)
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I hope you don't mean that literally or else you could end up in prison. Just think what that would do to your sex life.

If you mean you both have living wills or DNR statements, or some other legal form, that's different.
 
Of course she doesn't mean it literally. :rme: Get off your high and mighty horse.
 
Reba said:
Love is not just a feeling, it's behavior. Being unfaithful is not a loving behavior.

It's really pitiful that such a question even needs to be asked.
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Not that pitiful. And it's definitely worth considering because in real life, partners of those in long time comas do go out and cheat. They have fundamental needs for love, attention and sex. A persona in a coma cannot provide those things. It's romantic to think of lifelong fidelity but very few are capable of that in regards to being a partner of someone in a long term coma.

Until you're in their shoes, you can't really judge on such behaviours. It's a complicated matter.
 
DeafCaroline said:
Not that pitiful. And it's definitely worth considering because in real life, partners of those in long time comas do go out and cheat. They have fundamental needs for love, attention and sex. A persona in a coma cannot provide those things. It's romantic to think of lifelong fidelity but very few are capable of that in regards to being a partner of someone in a long term coma.

Until you're in their shoes, you can't really judge on such behaviours. It's a complicated matter.
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No, it's not just "romantic." Thru God's grace, people can be faithful to their spouses by making a commitment.

"... thru sickness and health..."
 
Reba said:
No, it's not just "romantic." Thru God's grace, people can be faithful to their spouses by making a commitment.

"... thru sickness and health..."
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I respect that this is your belief. I don't share it when it comes to spouses that have been a in long term coma.
 
OMG..there is no way I would literally murder anyone. Reba...that has gone too far. Of course, I meant legally with wills. Wow...
 
It's like a train wreck...so awful that you can't watch but you do because you can't look away. Tsk.
 
The OP asked for opinions. I gave mine, just like anyone else.
 
Is ok for me! Feel free turn any / all embarrassing-for-Sun threads into other topics :)
 
Reba said:
The OP asked for opinions. I gave mine, just like anyone else.
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That's right and I took note of a couple who apparently don't respect that right.....
 
with sunny_signs' go ahead, I will freely say that I don't think it's love to deprive someone of love and affection even through "health and sickness". If my husband fell into a coma and there's no chance he would wake up, I don't think he would have wanted me to live the rest of my life unloved and alone. And if he was the kind of guy who did want that, I wouldn't have married him in the first place.
 
There's stating your opinion and then there's putting down the opinion of someone else whose opinion doesn't harmonize with yours. Big difference.
 
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