CyberRed said:
CyberRed said:
No humiliation is a poor tool. It´s NEGATIVE THING what a mother did to her daughter. It doesnt give her lesson but teach her into rebellion.
Health ? You don't know that for sure about takin' the daughter long time to forgive her mother. I believe that the daughter knows that her mother DID the right thing... just to HELP her get back to reality. Reality is not a joke. I mean this is REAL life. It ain't no fairytale like Princess and Prince livin' in a HUGE mansion. Gee
Huh? For your information, I know what I´m saying. I also know how to raise my children without harsh punishment and humilate them, too.
That's normal. Because, that daughter has no respect for her mother/teacher in the first place. She should have listen to them in the first place and tried her best when she can - but, no she choses to HAVE HER OWN WAY. "Me, me, me" That's aStudents will mock at her. That's her fault, not her mother.
You think bullied is normal? :jaw: wow. I´m speechless.
Affectionate? ***speechless*** Have you a good look at picture of a daughter´s impression? A mother only doing to show off how good she is and not care about her daughter´s feeling. That picture is the best proof.
Would love to smack the mother's grin face ? You can't. *chuckles* The mother have the rights to teach her daughter... that's TOUGH LOVE. You see the mother givin' her daughter a hug in that picture ? Well, the mother really cares about her daughter. She loves her daughter very much.
CyberRed said:That's your opinion, but I have to say that I disagree with you. I agree with the mother. She did a great job !
CrazyMomma said:I am here and please don't fight with me, and I am not posting no more. After reading all those posts, it drove me crazy. I agree with the mother too, and CyberRed and Reba..
I think the mother did the right thing and she did a good job. And I don't know why you want to hit her face with a bat. She was there and showing her how tough the world would be, and trying to teach her the education is good, the respect and the responsbilites, the challenges and so on. This mother want the best for her daughter. If the mother didn't do anything, that will make her look bad. But the mother was there, and showing her daughter and she is right, she is trying her best to show her daughter how to grow up in good manners with good respects, responsbilities, and so on. This teenager was a brat, spoiled brat and wanted to play more instead of study more and will involed in the bad crowd or having a hard life with low life job. The mother had to fight with her and get her to realize and get her to open up and go head to get a better educations and better life with a good job. I won't be surprised if this teen girl become a doctor after she get out from college, and her mother will getting a good reward from her daughter.
I was like the teenager when I was growing up. I failed a lot of classes and my mom told me to get out the house or get a job when I was 16 years old. No car, no movies, no allowance and no nothing or eat anything in under my mom's roof. My mom yelled and told me if you want to eat my food, you pay me, if you want to drive, you pay me for gas and insurance, if you want to go out to movie, how you go in and pay for yourself, if you want to eat in school, how you pay for it, there are many things that I never realized that. Getting a good education mean getting a good job in the future. That same for college too. My mom had to go hell with me and slapped my face for calling her names and everything and pushed me out the house. I remembered that she told me, you brought home bad grade, then pack your stuffs and get out the house. I was rebel and didn't care for her, she got me to the wall and yelled at me, and said, "I paid for this house, I paid for your hospital bills, I paid for everything for you, and don't realize how hard it is going to be. You better bring your grade up, you will have something or if not, you won't get NOTHING." I was like :-o Remember being teenager is not easy to work with. I realized that my mom wanted me to learn and open my eyes and see what the world is like. It is not easy. But I love my mom and my mom love me, but we fought like 2 hissy cats and scratching each other. And I realized that my mom won the battle and she was right about everything and I had to realized that making a good grades and I got better job, and staying out the trouble that i was not suppose to be in. My mom wanted me to have the best things for me (and my siblings too). I owe my mom for everything. She is the best, but she is tough but she know that she is always right. Now, we are the best buddies forever.
If my son, Kyler, is like that teen girl, I would go thru the same thing what my mom have taught me. I would yell at him and go hell with him. My husband would do the same thing, but one thing, my husband grew up in the Army and he know what his father would do to my husband while growing up, his father would yell, give commands, and make him run or sit up 100 times. Mostly like boot camp. But it worked for him. If Kyler become a lazy or stubborn in school or not learning, there are options that we will tell him what to do. If he won't bring home with good grade or hang out in the wrong crowds or something, I will send him to the boot camp or someplace. If refuse, then he is out of my house. Let him learn what is like to live on his own. Someday he would crawl back and say "Mommy, I am sorry, I will do better this time." I know I am right and my mother is right.
I agreed with CyberRed and Reba...
I guess people have different ways of parenting to their kids. This mother and teenager are almost like what I have grew up with my mom.
jazzy said:
Liebling:-))) said:
))... I had to disagree with you.. I will smack you back with bat if you hit that mother.. cuz she did the right thing.. she is TRYING TO IMPROVE her daughter so she can live fullifull with life in future.. and mother spend damn money and spend her times with troubled daughter, still yet she didnt learned lessons for long run till that mother kick her to curb with poster. so Of course I agreed with that mother!
Momoftwo said:Hi
Wow, I never posted here because I was too busy with my life and so focused on God and bible in the other thread on this message board. I don't have time for reading other threads. Somehow, I found the time to read this thread.
The mother was so amazed because it showed me how much she loves her daughter very much and she really cares for her daughter's future. Her daughter unfortunately did not listen to her mother in the past. The mother struggled for a long time so she thought that she put her daughter to public and show the sign. In the long term, I'm sure that the daughter would say, "Mom, thank you so much and I realized what you have done to me was right." The mother wants her daughter to be on the right track because she will live here on the earth for many years and her mother wants her daughter to have enough money to support herself like food, clothes if she lives on her own - I mean if no husband to support her. It is VERY IMPORTANT for all children to OBEY their parents. Just like we must obey to God to what God wants us to be. God is the father and we are His children. God disciplines us. It is the same thing for the mother to discipline her daughter. Unfortunately, her daughter was wayyyyyyyyyyy toooooo stubborn so the mother HAD to do something like put her in the public. Yes, the mother was very brave. I praise her!!!! Because this is very very embarrassed for the daughter so this is how she LEARNED a big time!
It was NOT abused to the daughter at all. It's a "wake up".
I praise the mother for doing the right thing.
Momoftwo
Hi DoofusMama,DoofusMama said:
And your welcome!
CrazyMomma said:
Huh? Nobody here fight with you but debate with agree and disagree since the creator ask for our opinion.
Okay, it's your opinion.
Yes, look at her "grin" face and boast to the world how great she is. It's suppose to be privately between a mother and daughter, not to the public and also to the world.
Disagree - it teach her daughter low esteem. SuperNanny will say the same thing.
Look example of SuperNanny's positive discipline. A mother should take SuperNanny's example if she want to help her daughter to improve her behavior.
No what a mother did is unprofessional because it could harm daughter's health.... She should take SuperNanny's example.
How do you feel when you were in daughter's shoe? Would you like what your mother did to you to the public and get the reporters to take picture of you and your mother to spread out to the world and let your friends and schoolmates bully you after read the newspaper? I bet you would HATE your mother for that. You should be very glad that you are not daughter's shoe. Can you image it?
Yes, a mother thought she can help her daughter but she didn't know what it could cause mental health. ***Dialing SuperNanny and Dr. Phil***.
I'm disagree how and what your mother did to you. You said yourself in other threads somewhere that verbal abuse is not okay but you said this yourself here that you were being verbal abuse by your mother, don't she?
But you said yourself in your previous post that you convinced your mother at last that you don't want school but job. Your mother give in and support you at last.
Who won? of course YOU, not her. Question: What if your mom say NO to filfulling your wish for get job instead of college? You made it successful to convince your mother at last that you want job instead of college. Right? You are very lucky that your mother give in and support you at last. Can you image what if your mother said NO?
If you want your son to be good teenager to respect you then make positive and right discipline. I'm not saying that the children are 100% well behave and prefect as angel but it's important is develop good self-esteem on them. I'm surprised that you think it's okay but a lot of people including me find it's not okay what we had been through in the past and know what it alike. You said yourself here that you were rebellious against your mother. It proves form of your mother's discipline how to expose you like this. It's same thing what my parents exposed me like this until I smacked my father's face for a first time when I was 16 years old... I can image how I feel if my children do that to me what I did to my father... No Way!!!! That's why I positive my discipline to expose my children into good and health self-esteem, not low esteem, mental health, etc.
jazzy said:
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