I guess it depends on the person and who they are exposed to.
Thanks, Byrdie.
Exactly.
I guess it depends on the person and who they are exposed to.
Thanks, Byrdie.
I had one teenager that did that to me once. I let him have his moment with his friends and after everything was said and done--I went up to him and told him off in spoken English and I would never forget the look on his face...
My thoughts exactly...when I read that post, I was thinking of all the programs set up for children from poverished environments, neglected children, and etc..all these programs were made possible due to people advocating and fighting for these children's rights.
Why is it ok to say "yes, some deaf children will be neglected but not all" as an excuse to continue with the problems that many deaf children are put in?
Yes, parents' have rights but should their rights come first before children's needs or rights?
I would really want to know the answer to that question.
Thanks
Shel, from reading your post before, it seems to me that you have a different view from parents. You want to teach sign language and not care much about implementing the oral method if that's what the parent wants. You say you don't want to do much of it. I see that the way things are different now because more children are having CI, it's a reality. Things evolve if a technology emerges into the world.
Sometimes, it takes to get out of the familiar and learn new things even if you have your perspective. I asked what you thought about watching successful CI children with families or other schools to familiarize yourself about CI in a previous post. I know it's a deaf school, but it seems that there's no guarantee that deaf schools will stay open.
I know of a classroom for hearing impaired children I was in, and the teacher that was in the class no longer had hearing impaired children because they went to mainstream schools. She is a teacher for hearing children at the elementary school. You feel threatened that your degree will no longer be useful.
I don't know about that, but I do know that sometimes technology evolves overtime. It takes time to open our minds to a transition. It seems that you want to shut out parents who also have a say in what they want also for their children. It seems you want bi-bi only and throw out teaching speaking.
You know about ASL, and its education, but have you been open to learning about CI education for the other children as well?
Shel, from reading your post before, it seems to me that you have a different view from parents. You want to teach sign language and not care much about implementing the oral method if that's what the parent wants. You say you don't want to do much of it. I see that the way things are different now because more children are having CI, it's a reality. Things evolve if a technology emerges into the world.
Sometimes, it takes to get out of the familiar and learn new things even if you have your perspective. I asked what you thought about watching successful CI children with families or other schools to familiarize yourself about CI in a previous post. I know it's a deaf school, but it seems that there's no guarantee that deaf schools will stay open.
I know of a classroom for hearing impaired children I was in, and the teacher that was in the class no longer had hearing impaired children because they went to mainstream schools. She is a teacher for hearing children at the elementary school. You feel threatened that your degree will no longer be useful.
I don't know about that, but I do know that sometimes technology evolves overtime. It takes time to open our minds to a transition. It seems that you want to shut out parents who also have a say in what they want also for their children. It seems you want bi-bi only and throw out teaching speaking.
You know about ASL, and its education, but have you been open to learning about CI education for the other children as well?
I don't use the term "hearing impaired"..I use deaf or hard of hearing.
Again with the assumptions that I want to throw speech completely out the window...where have I stated I believe in ASL only with no spoken language for the children?
I have said this before to many others in many threads many times, I believe in both and expose all deaf children to both. I am kinda getting tired of clearing up the incorrect statements about my beliefs.
Just because I support ASL doesn't mean I don't support speech skills. I am more concerned with the children's language development and acquiring higher critical thinking skills than anything else.
The other statements u have made are totally false. Pls ask me before assuming all these things about me..
I have seen what happens year after year when children don't get both including implanted children and iam advocating for a better system for all deaf children so none of them will fall thru the cracks.
Nothing about throwing speech out the window. I even use spoken English with some of my students on an one-on-one basis and even those who get benefit from auditory input still need the support from ASL when learning new concepts.
It is all about giving them all the tools not just one tool over another whether it is ASL, speech and etc.
The BiBi approach allows for that which is why I believe in it strongly.
If others don't believe in it, fine. I am the one who works with these kids on a daily basis and I see that the same old problems still happen despite CIs.
If I lose my teaching job due to oralism, that's it with teaching for me. I can easily find another career because I am that determined so Iam not fearful as u mistakenly assumed. What I fear are those children who still need ASL or a visual language will be undereducated in the mainstreamed prgrams. Not all children benefit from CIs and I have seen proof of that over the years. Now, this is not a criticism..it is a fact.
I can safetly assume that you advocate for the parents' rights while I advocate for the children's rights so maybe due to that, we probably will have differing views and that's ok.
What I don't like is when people make assumptions about me without asking and I really didn't appreciate all the "you' statements about what goes on in my life or about howq I think. I am the only person who thinks for myself not anyone else so pls do not do that again. Thank u.
*getting off my soapbox about Deaf education and CIs*
Sorry Jillo.
Question: why teach a deaf person to speak when they can't hear themselves?
I don't use the term "hearing impaired"..I use deaf or hard of hearing.
Again with the assumptions that I want to throw speech completely out the window...where have I stated I believe in ASL only with no spoken language for the children?
I have said this before to many others in many threads many times, I believe in both and expose all deaf children to both. I am kinda getting tired of clearing up the incorrect statements about my beliefs.
Just because I support ASL doesn't mean I don't support speech skills. I am more concerned with the children's language development and acquiring higher critical thinking skills than anything else.
The other statements u have made are totally false. Pls ask me before assuming all these things about me..
I have seen what happens year after year when children don't get both including implanted children and iam advocating for a better system for all deaf children so none of them will fall thru the cracks.
Nothing about throwing speech out the window. I even use spoken English with some of my students on an one-on-one basis and even those who get benefit from auditory input still need the support from ASL when learning new concepts.
It is all about giving them all the tools not just one tool over another whether it is ASL, speech and etc.
The BiBi approach allows for that which is why I believe in it strongly.
If others don't believe in it, fine. I am the one who works with these kids on a daily basis and I see that the same old problems still happen despite CIs.
If I lose my teaching job due to oralism, that's it with teaching for me. I can easily find another career because I am that determined so Iam not fearful as u mistakenly assumed. What I fear are those children who still need ASL or a visual language will be undereducated in the mainstreamed prgrams. Not all children benefit from CIs and I have seen proof of that over the years. Now, this is not a criticism..it is a fact.
I can safetly assume that you advocate for the parents' rights while I advocate for the children's rights so maybe due to that, we probably will have differing views and that's ok.
What I don't like is when people make assumptions about me without asking and I really didn't appreciate all the "you' statements about what goes on in my life or about howq I think. I am the only person who thinks for myself not anyone else so pls do not do that again. Thank u.
*getting off my soapbox about Deaf education and CIs*
Sorry Jillo.
Question: why teach a deaf person to speak when they can't hear themselves?
You did great... !!Okay, I'll go along......... I grew up a CODA... in a time where there was no ADA, SSI, etc. I was my parents ears (for lack of a better phrase)and advocate. We did not have a phone in our home until I was 10 years old. My parents never saw the need. I would just walk up to town (3 blocks away) and use a public pay phone to make phone calls. I saw the injustice firsthand and experienced it. My mother (not my dad) threw it around that since she was Deaf, we were put on this earth to help her, nothing more. To her, that was the role of a hearing child. She was bitter and resentful of the hearing community and took jabs at me and my siblings every chance she got. My dad, on the other hand, complete opposite. He accepted who he was and worked very hard to provide a life for us. He owns two homes and has never asked for anything . As I became older, I became resentful of my mother's attitude towards me and life in general. I rebelled and told her that she was quite capable of doing things for herself- she didn't need me as her crutch. I remember the fighting when I resisted to do something- after all, my dad was capable, why wasn't she??? I wanted her to be as independent as much as she could, and she didn't want to. She clung to various family members to take care of her needs, and eventually they got tired and overwhelmed, and would push her aside. It took years of therapy to understand her and I do, but it doesn't change what has happened. I only share this with you so you understand that going forward, I was going to do everything I possibly could to make sure that if I ever had a deaf child, he/she would be independent. I became a job coach and an interpeter in the field, and I saw many, many heartbreaking situations in which Deaf children were left to fend for themselves, of being virtual strangers in their own homes. I remember making the committment at the time, "If I ever had a child who was deaf, I would defnitely send he/she to a bibi program". I remember the stories from my mom about how her hands would be tied up so she couldn't sign... and how my Dad didn't even know ASL until he was 22 years old.
Fast forward, I had a beautifual daughter... She was hearing... Then I had a set of twins, and I quickly suspected that something was wrong with one of them. I asked my MIL (there is deafness on my DH's side also) how did she know that she had a deaf child??? I remember her telling me that I was paranoid, the twins were premature, and I was over thinking the situation. But I knew in my heart that my son was deaf. I pulled strings and got him tested and sure enough at exactly 1 month old, my son was diagnosed as profoundly deaf. I was stunned. I always knew it could be a possiblity, but never really expected it. Until I met my DH, I never saw deafness go back to generations. I only knew of families that mother /father were Deaf and that was it. Never any children, or extended family. It was all new to me. I was devesated. I knew perfectly well what deafness would do to my child... I knew of the limiations and prejudice at work. I knew of people getting frustrated with a tty operator call and hanging up. I knew that REALISTICLY if my son wanted to be the President of a major wall street banking firm- it would most likely be out of the question. Not because he couldn't do it, but because of the barriers that other people have put up. I mourned for days. It was as if a part of me had died. I remember vividly that the last thing the audie said to me was that he was the perfect candidate for a ci. I immediately told her no thank you, we would not be interested and I knew which avenue to persue.
After my initial shock, I picked myself up and started the process of getting him enrolled in a program. I contacted EI and was told to look at ALL the programs in my area not just the one that I was familiar with. I told the social worker that it was pointless because I had already made up my mind as how my child was going to raised. She said she wouldn't be doing her job correctly if I didn't investigate every single avenue- so I went. And I remember vividly that day... I was in an oral only program with a pit in my stomach. I didn't even want to be there- it was against everything that I truly believed in (at the time). I walked into the classroom and really expected to see children struggling and sitting in hours and hours of speech. All the horror stories that my parents had told me growing up came flooding back to me. But then, I heard these children speak. It wasn't even about them speaking , as so much as it was that they were actually LISTENING and hearing what was being said. I couldn't believe my eyes. I was really stunned, to say the least. It was all new to me. There was no frustration on the children's parts and they were easily talking to each other and answering the teacher in appropriate ways. It truly was unbelievalbe. Right there and then, I had changed my mind. This was the route that we would choose for our child. This assistive device could actually bridge the gap from both worlds and the walls of isolation weren't that paramount any longer. We made this decision not because we didn't accpet our son- but because we wanted him to have a choice. Because if he , later on down the road , doesn't want the CI, he could always turn it off. If we waited, it's too late. My niece who eventually got implanted at the age of 9 1/2 says her biggest regret is that she was not implanted sooner. So I felt that by giving my son the CI, I gave him a choice later in life.
Because of my desicion, it became very ugly around our house- meaning extended family. Everyone had their 2 cents..and then it became worse with strangers. People I didn't even know would say the most nasitiest things to me- calling me a traitor, not accepting of a deaf child, and the worst of it all... my very own mother telling me that I am a lousy mother for deciding to implant my child.
As I have said in earlier posts, my son's deafness does not define him . It's just a part of who he is. I refuse to put him in speech for hours. That's not what it's all about. He is a child and I want him to grow up just like his brothers and sister. No hours upon hours of learning to speak- if he did great , if not so be it. Just because he is able to speak as well as a hearing child- that is just a bonus, but it was never expected. I would rather my child be out playing football (which he does) , baseball, basketball, and developing relationships with people than being stuck in therapy. I have offered deaf school to him in our many conversations and he is adamant about it- the answer is always no. I truly believe that we have given him the best of both worlds and because of this, he is extremely well adjusted child. He knows that he is deaf and is proud of who he is. I couldn't ask for anything more than that.
Ok, 20 pages into this thread, I am ready to comment.
As some of you know, my child was born severe/profound. She was diagnosed at birth. I cannot express how devastated I was. Not my husband. (We are both hearing) He just kept telling me it would be ok. I do not quite know how to explain my feelings. I was worried about her futur, obviously. I have to be honest and say that I also was scared. I did not have a clue about raising a deaf child. I knew enough to know that it wasn't going to be the same as raising our other daughter. I immediately worried about what she would have to face in the world. I have seen the prejudice with my own eyes - long before she came along...(please forgive me for my choice of words and bear with me.. I am much better face to face, typing my thoughts has never been a strong suit of mine)
I randomly met a doctor who performed CI surgeries. He took the time to talk to me about my child. Told me how much this would help. Of course I believed him and still do think this was a great idea. Only thing is, we were also told that we should discourage the use of ASL. (I've said all of this in other posts) That is where I think the problem lies. Immediately set us up to reject the deaf community. (Not saying we didn't play a part in it) What I am saying is that we were trying to do what the professionals recommended to maximize the benefit of the course we chose. We were told all of the same things, "if she signs she won't be oral" and "deaf kids only read on a fourth grade level"...We were also told that "deaf people are really against CIs, look it up on the internet, blah, blah, blah. Bottom line is, we didn't know what to do. I trusted the medical profession. (My husband has always left this type of decision up to me) While I had no reason to doubt this decision, I always had a nagging feeling that some day we would end up here.
She is still deaf and I absolutely want her to embrace that. Just as I want my oldest to embrace the fact that she is Greek.
I hope that made some sort of sense.
Shel, good post- number 585.. Jillio, you have created a great thread here, kudos to you for keeping it under control!!
Yeah, I wondered about that when they went for Oralism in 1800's. I once saw an old film where a man said that since a deaf child has voice so teach that child to speak. I was thinking... hey, hearing people have hands so why they don't learn to sign. I find that sick.
And what about the ones who are succeeding? Is it ok if they are in an auditory setting?
I am not bothered by the word hearing impaired. I don't see that as negative, and I think when we are asked to stop using that term is why it's so hard to get along sometimes. Many people find the word hearing impaired to work for them in real life other than deaf. I think we should let each individual use whatever word they want. Some might get offended, but why? It's not like we are putting them down with it.
Sorry Shel, my post were stating what I think you seem to have come across in other posts. Sorry for all the "you" statement. Didn't mean to get you defensive or offended.
Also, I can understand why parents want to have speech skills all day. It is part of the CI auditory skills and speech, whether or not sign language is used. It's part of the development of auditory skills. Not just on one-to-one group situation. It's a skill that is part of auditory skills everyday, but if you don't want to speak all day as it seems, then I don't know how someone can help you with that.
You don't explain to me if you care to see how other successful CI children do to help you with your CI children in your classroom or learn methods that could help you and your student. I am not saying you'll make your students successful, but I think maybe you could learn something. Auditory skills and speech are different things from ASL. I am sure there's other methods to teach children in oral education or CI that isn't taught in Deaf Education. If it's because your only belief is Bi-Bi, then there's nothing more to say.
I am not bothered by the word hearing impaired. I don't see that as negative, and I think when we are asked to stop using that term is why it's so hard to get along sometimes. Many people find the word hearing impaired to work for them in real life other than deaf. I think we should let each individual use whatever word they want. Some might get offended, but why? It's not like we are putting them down with it.
Sorry Shel, my post were stating what I think you seem to have come across in other posts. Sorry for all the "you" statement. Didn't mean to get you defensive or offended.
Also, I can understand why parents want to have speech skills all day. It is part of the CI auditory skills and speech, whether or not sign language is used. It's part of the development of auditory skills. Not just on one-to-one group situation. It's a skill that is part of auditory skills everyday, but if you don't want to speak all day as it seems, then I don't know how someone can help you with that.
You don't explain to me if you care to see how other successful CI children do to help you with your CI children in your classroom or learn methods that could help you and your student. I am not saying you'll make your students successful, but I think maybe you could learn something. Auditory skills and speech are different things from ASL. I am sure there's other methods to teach children in oral education or CI that isn't taught in Deaf Education. If it's because your only belief is Bi-Bi, then there's nothing more to say.
To open doors and to faciliate easier communication with hearing individuals.