How To Ignore False Rumors and Lies.....

Like what Katherine Hepburn said, "I don't care what is written about me as long as it isn't true."
 
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I was watching Entertainment channel one time last year... the beauty actress Julia Robert was laughing her ass off over the Enquirer about her. The Editor printed false statement about her and her long time boyfriend. The hostess asked her questions regarding that false statement and she answered directly. She said something like reasons like this she doesn't read the Enquirer. They're the type of people who mocks celebrities and Julia knows it. What does she do? Simple. Ignore it. She doesn't waste time worrying about what's being said in the paper. That's what I love about her and among her other qualities.

"How To Ignore False Rumors and Lies..... " ... Exactly what Socrates said, be a lady or gentleman and ignore it. I've had people come to me saying the most bullshittiest thing I've ever heard about me and of course, I'd tell them that is not true. If they don't want to believe me then I'd tell them they're wasting my time and I've got better things to do. If they're confused then I'd ask what kind of a friend are you?
 
Katzie said:
I was watching Entertainment channel one time last year... the beauty actress Julia Robert was laughing her ass off over the Enquirer about her. The Editor printed false statement about her and her long time boyfriend. The hostess asked her questions regarding that false statement and she answered directly. She said something like reasons like this she doesn't read the Enquirer. They're the type of people who mocks celebrities and Julia knows it. What does she do? Simple. Ignore it. She doesn't waste time worrying about what's being said in the paper. That's what I love about her and among her other qualities.

"How To Ignore False Rumors and Lies..... " ... Exactly what Socrates said, be a lady or gentleman and ignore it. I've had people come to me saying the most bullshittiest thing I've ever heard about me and of course, I'd tell them that is not true. If they don't want to believe me then I'd tell them they're wasting my time and I've got better things to do. If they're confused then I'd ask what kind of a friend are you?
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The Enquirer is a make up stories Magazine.. I never read those Crap..Most People know that those stories never true.

Be a lady and Gentleman and Ignore it is a good advice.. :mrgreen:
 
I am sure everyone knows what the Enquirer is. The point of my post was to say that the actress *ignored* the Enquirer.
 
i always tell them let them talk it all bullshit i just nodding and they say nothing
 
LOL!

I know what you mean there Rose, It the same thing when I was in a chat-room and someone would pc me about this woman I was talking in the chat room....all about what she had done in the past etc....and I just said well I personally don't know her so I don't feel comforable talking about someone I bearly know....but she did not stop she kept going on and on and then I ignored her, I went back in the chat room and talked to this same woman that I talked to before going in pc with this other woman ( whoever it was ).....I am smart enough not to fall for a rumor about someone that I bearly know!....If I didn't know someone I could never listen to any kind of rumors about them.... :smash:
 
YEAH, I was in deaf club i see some of tem talk bad i just say nothing beause i don't know what is going on one girl hate her ex she tell me about her i was like what can i do she say nothing I know she wants me to hate her too but i am not going to do that
 
When I read this thread from the first page to last, I cannot help but chuckle at a vivid scene this brings forth for me. Blame it on my vivid imagination but you all remind me of a group of church ladies sitting in a circle, sipping tea and swapping the latest news. It's quite ironic that you're discussing about "How To Ignore False Rumors and Lies..... " yet you are contradicting yourself. Just saying it as I see it. :)
 
Socrates said:
When I read this thread from the first page to last, I cannot help but chuckle at a vivid scene this brings forth for me. Blame it on my vivid imagination but you all remind me of a group of church ladies sitting in a circle, sipping tea and swapping the latest news. It's quite ironic that you're discussing about "How To Ignore False Rumors and Lies..... " yet you are contradicting yourself. Just saying it as I see it. :)
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:werd:

*sipping tea* Oh, did you hear about that whore wanna-be who lives across the street who was sleeping with this married guy whose wife is out of town having an affair with this guy whose brother is visiting my neighbor's cousin who might be gay because he's always blabbing about men? *sipping tea*
 
VamPyroX said:
:werd:

*sipping tea* Oh, did you hear about that whore wanna-be who lives across the street who was sleeping with this married guy whose wife is out of town having an affair with this guy whose brother is visiting my neighbor's cousin who might be gay because he's always blabbing about men? *sipping tea*
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yeah i did hear about that but I thought they were refering to you :mrgreen:
 
i laughed off at rumors they spread about me. Idiot from Las Vegas thought I was pregnant with a gay friend through a false rumor. Asshole from Cleveland, Ohio asked me if I was married to a lesbian. They are idiots anyway. :sure:

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Magatsu said:
I was going to edit my post and add few more but Deaf258 replied so I saw this as opportunity for me to post and add. Deaf258, heh yeah great minds think alike I guess.

Angel, I wish I have some real advices for you how to deal with rumors or lies but unfortunately I don't because I am in same situation as you do. One thing about deafies, rumors and "crab theory" are so common that these are practically part of their life. Of course it does affect hearing people as well but I am talking about my experiences, I have much less problem with hearings than I do with deafies. Oh well, here's few advices: do what you can do for yourself or believe in yourself to do whatever you need for yourself. No one can define how your life should be, only you can.

I don't know if you ever watch the miniserie, "Taken" by Steven Spielberg, I like one of these scenes where little girl, Allie said "Do you know why people like to hurt others? because they are scared" That is true in many area because of "crab theory".

Key is: Never never ever lower yourself to their pathetic levels/standards. I hope my advice is somehow helpful for you or your situation.. Cheers!
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Magatsu, :werd: Thank God, I aint one of them automatically addict reliable "crab theories" in their common cultures, emotions, and thoughts. Yes i knew deaf people are very dependable and habitual on "CRAB THEORIES" once entered their life for rest. because they feel compare them to themselves! how can they get out of this CRAB THEORY???? howww?? tell me could you solve this for real?? :roll:
 
Yes i knew deaf people are very dependable and habitual on "CRAB THEORIES" once entered their life for rest. because they feel compare them to themselves!
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ckfarbes, you have hit the nail right on the head for this whole controversial issue. "Crab Theory" is a controversial issue that a lot of Deaf people have experienced when they seem to have low-self esteem. No one is perfect and everyone gossips. I am guilty as charged of gossiping. I personally feel in order for the "Crab Theory" controversy to stop in the Deaf community, we have to face up to our self-esteem issues. We simply cannot stop acting all innocent of "Crab Theory" when you know deep in your heart, we must unite as a community. We shouldn't be doing this to our fellow peers when we feel we have been oppressed in the hearing community. Just saying it as I see it.
 
Its sad when people make up lies and gossip about others that are not true..its mostly themselves that have very low self esteem and no self confidence in themselves so they put down others to make themselves feel better..i have been a victim a few times due to vicious gossip mostly i think is jealousy. I dont pay no attention to these lies/gossip by just simply ignoring them cuz i know they do it cuz they are simply jealous or whatever.
 
^Angel^ said:
LOL!

I know what you mean there Rose, It the same thing when I was in a chat-room and someone would pc me about this woman I was talking in the chat room....all about what she had done in the past etc....and I just said well I personally don't know her so I don't feel comforable talking about someone I bearly know....but she did not stop she kept going on and on and then I ignored her, I went back in the chat room and talked to this same woman that I talked to before going in pc with this other woman ( whoever it was ).....I am smart enough not to fall for a rumor about someone that I bearly know!....If I didn't know someone I could never listen to any kind of rumors about them.... :smash:
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Yes I certainly remember that. It was occurred last summer of 2003. The Deafchat was gossip about you and your twins. I was very doubtful with their gossip. My ex husband said, he had wonderful visiting both of you. My ex husband tends to talk bullshit. I do not buy his story at first place. Other lady said, she believe my ex husband.

Until I get to know you and Cheri better with other deaf forms and this forms. I find that both of you are friendly and cherish about children and good mothers.

My ex husband loves to get a spot light to attention ! :eek:
 
Socrates said:
ckfarbes, you have hit the nail right on the head for this whole controversial issue. "Crab Theory" is a controversial issue that a lot of Deaf people have experienced when they seem to have low-self esteem. No one is perfect and everyone gossips. I am guilty as charged of gossiping. I personally feel in order for the "Crab Theory" controversy to stop in the Deaf community, we have to face up to our self-esteem issues. We simply cannot stop acting all innocent of "Crab Theory" when you know deep in your heart, we must unite as a community. We shouldn't be doing this to our fellow peers when we feel we have been oppressed in the hearing community. Just saying it as I see it.
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I have already mentioned the "Crab Theory" several times. I am glad you and ckfarbes recognize it! But I do wonder if everyone else understood what it is or not. Yes, the "Crab Theory" is a controversial issue that exist within the Deaf community, but also among the African-American community, Hispanic community, and other minorities. You really got the message out that I have been trying to express with my local Deaf community. My all of my roommates are Deaf, and we had a 4 hour meeting several weeks ago about how to be a better Deaf individual. We established various boundaries that gossip will not be tolerated in the apartment. Speak ill of another, then it's a one way ticket out the door! We also set rules of respect and common courtesy. It helped reduce our problems and now we are happier than we have been. During the meeting, I noted that to improve the Deaf community, we all have to work on ourselves first, because we are guilty of proving the "crab theory" in a small way.

So, yeah, you work on improving yourself, then you actually improved the Deaf community. Start with yourself, and things will follow and fall into the right places!
 
bbnt said:
yeah i did hear about that but I thought they were refering to you :mrgreen:
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Exactly, hmm that's what I heard about Vamp's pet
vomiting many times everywhere, sigh....
 
Speaking of Crab theory, I thought it's mostly
related to career peventing these deafies from
getting job promotions & pulling them down by
saying negative things about him/her...
 
Y said:
Speaking of Crab theory, I thought it's mostly
related to career peventing these deafies from
getting job promotions & pulling them down by
saying negative things about him/her...
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Yes, it is related but not limited to career. It's also a social thing.
 
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