How To Ignore False Rumors and Lies.....

Even though this is a great thread, it's sad to see low-ed people become the crabs in the "Crab Theory" degrade it to a soon-to-be-locked-thread.

I am tired of the same old threads about the same old problems with the same old bullshit! It's all cheap talk and no action. Nothing is really getting done about this problem.

If this keeps going with no resolution, I am leaving this forum for good and fuck all the Deaf forums for good!
 
Hey Hey That's Enough!

Once again, my thread refers to the topic of 'How To Ignore False Rumors and Lies ' ...We're to share ideas , thoughts and views of how each of us deals with the issue of rumors and lies in general....Subject matters such as 3rd parties , claims and or any other issue has NO bearing in this thread and also can we keep the bickerings out of here and stick with the topic at hand!!!!....

I started this thread in great hopes where we can come Together with ideas that will admonish us and become better people when it comes to handling false rumors and lies....With the show of support by the solutions expressed of others gives anyone the tools and the encouragements needed to rumors and lies.... :grouphug:

So, let's get back to the topic in this thread Pretty Pleaseeeeee...Have a great day! ;)
 
Deaf258 said:
If this keeps going with no resolution, I am leaving this forum for good and fuck all the Deaf forums for good!
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:werd: Me too....


It not about 3rd party... Someone Just don't get it...If that person have read the ranting post then that person will know what it is all about.. it not about 3rd parties it about people that involved with what was said and what was not true and what is true I do not care what is true cuz I admit that it happened that way but what is not true, What never took place needs to changed what was said Or Apology for Lying...

Just my 2 cent worth.
 
I was reading whole ADer's comment this thread....
Wait minute, Wait minute hold your horses...
In my brainstorm and came pop up...
All I'm here asking you about this repeatily...
^Angel^
r u refering talking about this post issues "outside or related ADer's" as about the topic "'How To Ignore False Rumors and Lies '.???
Please, Can you explain clarify them about this topic and make sure..Avoid misunderstanding thread... specific Outside or related ADers stick with tile ?
Can you willing bring brefity clarify this please?
 
***sigh***

Angel pointed out is share the discussion over her thread...'How To Ignore False Rumors and Lies ' mean is: She ask us to share our opinion & feeling with her on her post...

I find her thread is very interesting because I like to collect those experience from this thread to see if I´m wrong or right... I find some of your idea are great.. but I see all what you are upset over deaf forum, Ranting thread, 3rd party etc. etc.

Please stop it...
Please share your opinion how you deal with rumors...
 
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Bullym0m said:
I was reading whole ADer's comment this thread....
Wait minute, Wait minute hold your horses...
In my brainstorm and came pop up...
All I'm here asking you about this repeatily...
^Angel^
r u refering talking about this post issues "outside or related ADer's" as about the topic "'How To Ignore False Rumors and Lies '.???
Please, Can you explain clarify them about this topic and make sure..Avoid misunderstanding thread... specific Outside or related ADers stick with tile ?
Can you willing bring brefity clarify this please?
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I can see that some of you have misunderstood my thread or not clear on what we are discussing over in this thread....Let me make this clear we are to share our thoughts of false rumors and lies ANYWHERE, that means in other forums or on line sites , in here , in chats or in real life....Lies and etc. that have anything to do about AllDeaf doesn't belong in this thread and rumors or lies in other forums also don't belong in here....Generally this is more of How each of us is able to handle and ignore the false rumors and lies....

I hope this clear up any misunderstandings and Please let's do this in a good way by sharing our own ideas and respect one another..... :thumb:
 
^Angel^ said:
I can see that some of you have misunderstood my thread or not clear on what we are discussing over in this thread....Let me make this clear we are to share our thoughts of false rumors and lies ANYWHERE, that means in other forums or on line sites , in here , in chats or in real life....Lies and etc. that have anything to do about AllDeaf doesn't belong in this thread and rumors or lies in other forums also don't belong in here....Generally this is more of How each of us is able to handle and ignore the false rumors and lies....

I hope this clear up any misunderstandings and Please let's do this in a good way by sharing our own ideas and respect one another..... :thumb:
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Okay ^Angel^, Got it.. Thanks for your clarifty...

I'm not here for misunderstanding.. Just All I want to make sure about your explaination which the best interest for everyones.. To avoid their misunderstanding of your defenation.. Thanks for your time..
I'm glad you did right thing bring this issues up... and to make sure how much they are felt pointview on their own emoitons.
Yes you made right choice of clear it up...
Thanks again :thumb:
 
Liebling:-))) said:
***sigh***

Angel pointed out is share the discussion over her thread...'How To Ignore False Rumors and Lies ' mean is: She ask us to share our opinion & feeling with her on her post...

I find her thread is very interesting because I like to collect those experience from this thread to see if I´m wrong or right... I find some of your idea are great.. but I see all what you are upset over deaf forum, Ranting thread, 3rd party etc. etc.

Please stop it...
Please share your opinion how you deal with rumors...
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Thank you Liebling *hugs* girly ...You got it right on the money!! :giggle: ..This is exactly what this thread suppose to be about and it's great to know that you are interested with everyone's ideas and etc and is glad you find this interesting and helpful!.. ;)

:ily:
 
Bullym0m said:
Okay ^Angel^, Got it.. Thanks for your clarifty...

I'm not here for misunderstanding.. Just All I want to make sure about your explaination which the best interest for everyones.. To avoid their misunderstanding of your defenation.. Thanks for your time..
I'm glad you did right thing bring this issues up... and to make sure how much they are felt pointview on their own emoitons.
Yes you made right choice of clear it up...
Thanks again :thumb:
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No problem at all.....I am pretty much glad I cleared this up!....You're very welcome BullyMom!... :grouphug:
 
^Angel^ said:
Thank you Liebling *hugs* girly ...You got it right on the money!! :giggle: ..This is exactly what this thread suppose to be about and it's great to know that you are interested with everyone's ideas and etc and is glad you find this interesting and helpful!.. ;)

:ily:
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Welcome, darling.... :thumb:
 
Liza said:
Great points girly! Mistakes are great teachers. It also matters how we react to something awful like gossip, lies, or whatever as we "see" them IMO. Because we're "supposed" to do something based on what we feel to be right, and it can be a conflict since everyone has a different idea of what is right. Do we ignore them and keep it to ourselves, or try to talk about them, or get mad? Or sad? Or upset? Try to write about it in a private journal? Talk to a counselor about it? Tell a teacher? Confide in a friend? Share this in a group? These are the choices we have.
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yes it does matter on how we react -- i think the way we react on rumors, lies and etc would reinenforce ppl's perceptions on how a person is -- some ppl knows how to react positively without making themself look foolish while others just simply become violently angry and thus would make themselves look more bad than they already are possibly

i tend to talk abt it with close pals and express my disgust with whoever that is the origin of the rumor/lies/whatever -- sure ppl would get mad but why get mad and be all bitchy when a person can just simply set the record straight with some sort of back up to support their saying its a lie/rumor whatever -- but ur comment abt the various choices we have are right -- we have those choices and how we make our choices and present ourselves makes a big difference -- be all defensive and not commenting on things that just simply doesnt make sense and/or is not on the issue at hand does not accomplish anything either or be calm and explain (if a person wishes to do so) and have a supporting proof (or what deafies often would say "evidence") -- then the result would be that other ppl who :bowdown: to rumors has the choice to believe the explaination or not but in the end the truth and nothing but the truth really does lies with the person who knows it all cuz they themselves went thru it and know exactly what has happened -- if between 2 ppl then its like a he said/she said, she said/she said, he said/he said kind of situation -- 1 may be lying while the other may be truthful but often times ppl dont really know -- this is especially true in cyberspace IMO
 
You know some heavy-thinking philosophers believe or rather theorized that truth and lies are based on perspective. Like which right and which wrong, it is based on perspective. I guess that's where gets muddled in many area.

Again, like what I stated in my other post about old saying; "if you don't like what others do to you, then don't do that to others". That's one I practice what I preach since it is perfectly perfect and working method for everyone who don't have enough picture which right or wrong thing to do (of course depends on measure of common sense).

Cheers!
 
People, let's all stay on topic, please. Let's not ruin a good thread Angel has created where we can all express our views, opinions and feelings on the subject without causing heat to the point where a moderator has to lock it.

Thank you. :)
 
Alex said:
People, let's all stay on topic, please. Let's not ruin a good thread Angel has created where we can all express our views, opinions and feelings on the subject without causing heat to the point where a moderator has to lock it.

Thank you. :)
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Hear hear!! *ahems*...Stickin' to the topic...but first, 'off the topic', thanks Alex for re-opening this thread!...

It has been good to see different ways handling false rumors and lies...many good points have come about in this thread...and I'm sure there are more ideas and ways to go about 'ignoring' the false rumors or lies...like in real life, sometimes, (and why not? *chuckling*) I'd turn my hearing-aid off! Heck, it works sometimes! :laugh2:

Let's all stay on the same 'train'...meaning, to stay on the right track with the topic here without having to 'point' fingers at others...and for myself, I do apologize for I did it once myself...for that, I'm sorry and will let it go and move forward! :D
 
I don't believe I did "offtopic" in this topic at all :/

or I misread Alex's comment?
 
Magatsu said:
I don't believe I did "offtopic" in this topic at all :/

or I misread Alex's comment?
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Relax Magatsu...you weren't off the topic in here...if you got any more good ideas about how we can 'ignore false rumors and lies', go for it.... ;)
 
Fly Free said:
yes it does matter on how we react -- i think the way we react on rumors, lies and etc would reinenforce ppl's perceptions on how a person is -- some ppl knows how to react positively without making themself look foolish while others just simply become violently angry and thus would make themselves look more bad than they already are possibly

i tend to talk abt it with close pals and express my disgust with whoever that is the origin of the rumor/lies/whatever -- sure ppl would get mad but why get mad and be all bitchy when a person can just simply set the record straight with some sort of back up to support their saying its a lie/rumor whatever -- but ur comment abt the various choices we have are right -- we have those choices and how we make our choices and present ourselves makes a big difference -- be all defensive and not commenting on things that just simply doesnt make sense and/or is not on the issue at hand does not accomplish anything either or be calm and explain (if a person wishes to do so) and have a supporting proof (or what deafies often would say "evidence") -- then the result would be that other ppl who :bowdown: to rumors has the choice to believe the explaination or not but in the end the truth and nothing but the truth really does lies with the person who knows it all cuz they themselves went thru it and know exactly what has happened -- if between 2 ppl then its like a he said/she said, she said/she said, he said/he said kind of situation -- 1 may be lying while the other may be truthful but often times ppl dont really know -- this is especially true in cyberspace IMO
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True - I have been very fortunate that my friends have never made me choose sides. Those are the true friends we have in life to hold dearly, and to support. It's also good to have a support system when you feel there were spiteful rumors or lies floating around that are about you. If I am asked feedback about a situation, I will say something with consideration for both sides' feelings. I truly wish both sides have their support system that works for them, and they will be able to find peace for themselves. Sometimes people just want someone to listen to them venting their frustrations or about a situation without needing advice. It is up to the listener how to process that information, but it depends on what agreements he/she makes with her/his friend who chooses to confide in her/him about problems or stuff.

There are all types of manipulation unfortunately, that I think we are subjected to - emotional manipulation (guilt tripping, draining another's energies, etc) is really popular with a person who wants others to really believe or accept their words as truth, period. I think that's how rumors keep on going. I think you can get out of it by maintaining your boundaries even if you already created them - for instance, put somebody on your ignore list AIM, forums, etc, if that person doesn't respect your boundaries even if you told him or her about them already. It's a different story if you haven't really told the person what your boundaries are - expecting them to read your mind. I think that's when real problems start, too.

For me, I process others' information about others with a grain of salt and I hope they do the same for me. I think rumors die quickly that way, as soon as we realize we have the power in how we look at things and what we say about them.
 
Magatsu said:
You know some heavy-thinking philosophers believe or rather theorized that truth and lies are based on perspective. Like which right and which wrong, it is based on perspective. I guess that's where gets muddled in many area.
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"False words are not only evil in themselves, but they infect the soul with evil." Our wise philosopher, Socrates, said those words and it's too bad he's not around with us anymore to share his infinite knowledge and intelligence. I have read this thread from the beginning and I can sense mixed vibes from each person. It is okay to feel so passionate about how you feel about defending yourself but sometimes the best way of defense is the silent form. It is best to lay low and not to fan the heat. If you have a quarrel with a friend, it is best to keep it between your friend and not involve others. It is known as dragging others down or being an "energy vampire". The most loving thing you can do for yourself when you feel indundated by false rumours, lies and/or stories is simply ignore it. If your heart says you are right, listen to your conscience.
 
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