I got up early to talk to my mom this morning. Not sure she likes to be awaken this early. Please read the whole thing first before posting.
We need to remember the time in history. I was born in 1968, I started school in 1974. There was not a lot of services available for a child with a mild-moderate hearing loss. Occurring to my mom, she did try and get me into a Deaf school. Yes, I did not meet the criteria at the time. She believes she tried other resources within the Deaf community. She was not sure why she did not use those services. it could be she was not assisted, welcomed, or she felt scare. She can't rememeber all the details. You have to remember from past post I said that the doctors and audies did not help her either. I went from doctor to doctor to find out what was "wrong" with me. I went 7 years without a HA. This is during the most important part of languge development. So now she made her choice.
My mom chose to raise me oral. She chose to help me to develop my language and speech skills. She did not turn her back on anything, she just chose to do it her way. Even when we moved from upstate New York(Kingston area) to rural Georgia, she kept her outlook. When I was fitted with my hearing aid she make sure that the teachers knew what to do. She made sure I was in the front of the room and I asked for help when needed. A little background - Mom was a single parent most of the time with 3 girls. We were lower income. Both of my older sisters are gifted(both test and placed in gifted programs.) Honestly school was not difficult except for spelling.
As my hearing took a turn in high school, she was not sure where to turn so she went to Voc Reh. They worked with me in my Senior year and college. Remember I'm not failing school, I was active in school and mainstreamed. I did not use an FM system or any accommodations. My teachers looked out for me, by giving me the notes from other students and just taking care of me. Even with a profound - severe hearing loss I took Spanish. My Spanish teacher would sit in front of me and make the words so I could understand. During her planning period she would take time to do this. I asked she did not question. I was raised with to accept my hearing loss and ask for help as needed.
I do not blame the Deaf Community or even the Hearing Community. My mom made her choice to raise me oral because of her experiences back 35 years ago. To me it does not matter if it was a hearing person at the Deaf School or a deaf person, my mom did not feel she got the services she needed for me. So she created what I needed.
I became a regular education teacher back 15 years ago for one simple reason, I wanted to make sure all children were treated with respect in my classroom and in my school. I wanted to make sure no child was placed in the back of the room, no child was treated differently because of what he wore to school, and parents felt welcome to ask questions and help from me. I changed to special ed so I could assist the all students more. I used my personal experience to make a change in the educational system.
Now as an adult that is completely deaf with these wonderful CIs, I did seek out the Deaf Community. My first stop is here! Now there are two conclusions - one the door can be shut on me or two I can be welcomed in with a vary of resources I need to assist my family and myself. At this point It can go either way.