When expecting a child, would you want it to be deaf?

[Etoile]

Nobody would know if the baby is deaf inside the womb until after birth or later.

LOL - I knew that, I swear! My brain is sooooo not working this morning.

 

[Malfoyish]

Nobody would know if the baby is deaf inside the womb until after birth or later.

Ummm...why does this matter? Deafness isn't an impairment that will limit the child to the point where the child cannot enjoy life. In deciding to have a baby, you make a commitment to that child, even BEFORE he or she is born...I know this. If the child is hearing, then we are inclined to accept that. If the child is deaf, we also accept him or her. I'm certainly not considering deafness to be something to abort a beautiful, brand-new life over.

 

[Cheri]

Ummm...why does this matter? Deafness isn't an impairment that will limit the child to the point where the child cannot enjoy life. In deciding to have a baby, you make a commitment to that child, even BEFORE he or she is born...I know this. If the child is hearing, then we are inclined to accept that. If the child is deaf, we also accept him or her. I'm certainly not considering deafness to be something to abort a beautiful, brand-new life over.

Did I say it matters? I was only informing Etoile that nobody will know the baby is deaf while in the womb, I thought she/he meant that nobody will aborted a baby if the baby was deaf, How can they? When they don't know. That's my point. You misunderstood me.

 

[Malfoyish]

Did I say it matters? I was only informing Etoile that nobody will know the baby is deaf while in the womb, I thought she/he meant that nobody will aborted a baby if the baby was deaf, How can they? When they don't know. That's my point. You misunderstood me.

Gotcha.

 

[Etoile]

me = she

I'm certainly not considering deafness to be something to abort a beautiful, brand-new life over.

Me neither, and I said as much - WE wouldn't abort a deaf baby! (Assuming we could know before birth that it was deaf.) But I think it's entirely possible there are people out there who would. It was hypothetical mostly.

 

[Malfoyish]

me = she


Me neither, and I said as much - WE wouldn't abort a deaf baby! (Assuming we could know before birth that it was deaf.) But I think it's entirely possible there are people out there who would. It was hypothetical mostly.

We're on the same page, then. *cheers!*

I agree with you too - it's mainly fear and selfishness that drives those who are capable of making such hasty choices.

 

[Cloggy]

If we found out through the screening that something was terribly wrong with our fetus, we would be unable to do anything about it. We would be forced to carry to term or miscarriage a child that wouldn't live outside of our body, How would that make us feel? Nobody would want a baby that would possible not survived, now that would be heart wrenching. That's why most new parents or parents want to be holding a healthy baby in their arms, a baby that would have life not death. That is different between wanting a hearing child.

Sorry to hear about that.
But it was not what I was talking about. I hope you understand that. Give me a pm if you want me to elaborate.

 

[Cloggy]

I think you can get an abortion for babies that will not survive outside the mother. I'm not sure though.

Nobody HERE on AllDeaf would abort a deaf baby of course. But I wonder if people who know NOTHING about the Deaf community would consider it. :Ohno:

I have never heared about determining if the baby is deaf before it has been born. Am I missing something?

I was missing the following posts..... Ignore this post!!

 

[Liebling:-)))]

I have never heared about determining if the baby is deaf before it has been born. Am I missing something?

Yes, the doctors can find out your unborn baby is deaf or not... I learn it from my British friend who had been through.

Her husband had 6 deaf kids with his first wife. My friend has 2 hearing children with her ex boyfriend. He wish to have a child from my friend. They went to Specialist to find out either their future baby will be deaf or not. The Specialist took their genes to work out and then informed them that their future baby will be deaf. After that, they had 7 years old deaf child.

 

[Cheri]

Yes, the doctors can find out your unborn baby is deaf or not...

They said that I would have deaf children because of my twin sister and I are both deaf, didn't happen, I end up with two hearing children.

 

[highlands]

They said that I would have deaf children because of my twin sister and I are both deaf, didn't happen, I end up with two hearing children.

The third child
Isn't it enough to have two ?

I personally don't have any preference about deaf or hearing child !

 

[GalaxyAngel]

I am warmed by the compassion you feel for my daughter, really. But do not assume I am afraid of my child being deaf. And do not assume that I do not give my daughter lot's of love. Where does that idea come from?

To support your child's future and trying to effort learning sign language.. and much more.. you'll become closer your child as your overprotective.. secure lot of love...

I do secure my 3 children *honestly I can communcation them as well* My 3 children accept 2 different world as Hearing and Deaf Culture adapt it..
Which I'm proud of my 3 children.

I hope you could give chance your child's future..
Good Luck!

 

[CutePommie]

Yes, it's better to say don't mind. But I get the feeling that some people "don't care". You're not one of them.

You said: "i just get on with it" and that's great. My daughter doesn't have to get in the situation that she "iust has to get on with it". There will be other issues, like why doesn't everyone has a thing on their head.

You said: "i do not care of you keep bashing me".... Where?. You have called me all kinds of names in this and other theads. I have answered politely - at least so far as I am aware off.
Please tel me where I bashed you. Looking forward to learn where I went wrong.

Sigh! Never mind ... !!! let you do anything what you want to wish for ... i am out of here bye !!

 

[Cloggy]

To support your child's future and trying to effort learning sign language.. and much more.. you'll become closer your child as your overprotective.. secure lot of love... I have - I am - I allready told you.

................................

I hope you could give chance your child's future.......Insunuating that I have not given a chance to my child as of now.
I am assuming that I am understanding you wrong...

:roll:

 

[GalaxyAngel]

:roll:

Wha....ever your choice..

*wait and see Your child grow up* your daughter will answer this..

ain't mine..

~done no further comment more..

 

[jshumko]

My husband became deaf at age seven. His parents wanted him to fit into the hearing world. He was picked on in school because he was deaf.

I became fat around age seven. My parents wanted me to be thin. I was picked on in school because I was fat.

My husband spent most of his life trying to come to grips with his deafness.

I spent most of my life trying to come to grips with my fatness.

We are now 51 and 52 years old. He is still deaf and I am still fat. We accept each other just as we are. Life is great.

(Cloggy, you do what you feel is best.)

 

[Cheri]

The third child
Isn't it enough to have two ?

Where did I say that I have three children? I said two.

 

[sequoias]

a child is "it"? should say he/she....look at the title. That's kind of amusing to say It to a living orgasm. Anyways, I don't mind if a child of mine is born deaf or hearing, no matter what happens. I would teach them sign language BEFORE they learn to talk.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

They said that I would have deaf children because of my twin sister and I are both deaf, didn't happen, I end up with two hearing children.

Really, you got me curious... How the doctor know that your future children are deaf before you had 2 hearing children? Did he/she took your genes or what?

Doctor took blood test from my friend and her husband... I beleive it´s something do with her husband´s sperm and my friend´s blood... I can´t remember what/how they did with their genes... She told me about this at 4 years ago. I will ask her again when I saw her on msn online anytime this weekends.

 

[Angel]

Very good question. There's nothing wrong with that. But being born hearing would prevent getting finding out about it, fitting HA's, adjusting HA's, operating CI, fitting CI, learning to listen.

I think you knew the answer allready :roll: What do you really want to ask me... go ahead.....

The only reason why I keep asking you that question is cause you keep repeating saying you prefer or wish to have a hearing child because they can hear sounds, but its the same applies to deaf children they can hear sounds with the help of CI implants or hearing aids...I don't see no difference unless some parents want a perfect baby


Beside it shouldn't matter whether or not your baby is hearing or deaf, when most of us know there are device out there to help our children and every parents has a right to choose, if they rather to leave their children be deaf thats fine, if some want to implant their children with CI is fine too or hearing aids whatever they want since they're the parents and they have that right ...