What Ticks You Off (Most) About Hearies?

[DeafCaroline]

I don't like when P E O P L E T A L K L I K E T H I S. The slower you go, the harder you are to understand. And I like it even less when they look at me like I'm stupid when I tell them that.

I really hate that too!

Another thing I don't like is when people wear sunglasses while talking to me. I find it really difficult to lipread when they wear them. I once asked one guy if he minded taking off his sunglasses so I could understand him better and he refused and made some jackass comment like "I can wear my sunglasses if I want to" or something stupid like that. Then he kept talking but I walked away.

 

[deafskeptic]

I don't like when P E O P L E T A L K L I K E T H I S. The slower you go, the harder you are to understand. And I like it even less when they look at me like I'm stupid when I tell them that.

That will raise my blood pressure big time!

 

[plasticdinosaur]

That will raise my blood pressure big time!

Oh yes, I was raised oral. But I do know some signs. So I signed at him that he was an ass wipe and left the store. I was pretty pissed. And before that he was talking to me with his back to me, and when I asked him to turn around, he got all huffy. Jeesh I'm deaf, not a stupid two year old.

 

[plasticdinosaur]

I really hate that too!

Another thing I don't like is when people wear sunglasses while talking to me. I find it really difficult to lipread when they wear them. I once asked one guy if he minded taking off his sunglasses so I could understand him better and he refused and made some jackass comment like "I can wear my sunglasses if I want to" or something stupid like that. Then he kept talking but I walked away.

Or when people go, "That has nothing to do with my lips." or "You don't need me to do that.", like they OBVIOUSLY understand better than me, who's been hoh since I was little and they've had normal hearing their whole life. FOR SURE.

 

[KristinaB]

One guy at our deaf club actually went above duty for me. He signs and speaks during the deaf church, so I can follow along when our terp is not there. Well, he realized I was having a problem reading his lips and without me saying anything, he went into the men's room and promptly shaved off his mustache. He said he never thought about it before and he knocked a good 10-15 years off since his mustache was grey.

 

[jak2011]

When someone turns away when talking to me-the worst is when they keep turning and talking over and over....I will NOT chase your mouth

When people notice my HA's and start talking as loud as they can and usually over ununciating.

When hearies assume because I have HA's that we cannot communicate, and they look for someone else to help them

When people apologize to me for my deafness!!!

I have read a lot about people saying Im sorry that ticks deaf people off. But most of the time, the hearing person is saying sorry for not knowing, and not trying to speak so you can understand. Like if someone is talking super fast (you know how when someone gets excited and talks like lightning) so mostly its a sorry not because they feel bad about you being deaf, but more for their ignorance at not knowing how to communicate with you.

 

[jillio]

I really hate that too!

Another thing I don't like is when people wear sunglasses while talking to me. I find it really difficult to lipread when they wear them. I once asked one guy if he minded taking off his sunglasses so I could understand him better and he refused and made some jackass comment like "I can wear my sunglasses if I want to" or something stupid like that. Then he kept talking but I walked away.

My son has developed the habit of responding in kind to the slow talkers that over enunnciate. He will even slow his sign down and become exacting in the production and movement.

 

[Bottesini]

Arrgghhh. Everybody knows how I feel about this, so I won't even mention that hearing people explaining stuff to us in this thread annoys me.

Lalalala , skipping off down my garden path.
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(Not you Jillio, see above.)

 

[deafskeptic]

Arrgghhh. Everybody knows how I feel about this, so I won't even mention that hearing people explaining stuff to us in this thread annoys me.

Lalalala , skipping off down my garden path.
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(Not you Jillio, see above.)

LA LA LA is the right word. :P

 

[Bottesini]

I have read a lot about people saying Im sorry that ticks deaf people off. But most of the time, the hearing person is saying sorry for not knowing, and not trying to speak so you can understand. Like if someone is talking super fast (you know how when someone gets excited and talks like lightning) so mostly its a sorry not because they feel bad about you being deaf, but more for their ignorance at not knowing how to communicate with you.

Oh, heck. DO you really think we don't know that\?

 

[jak2011]

Arrgghhh. Everybody knows how I feel about this, so I won't even mention that hearing people explaining stuff to us in this thread annoys me.

Lalalala , skipping off down my garden path.
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(Not you Jillio, see above.)

How are you supposed to get both sides of the story? You dont know what a hearing person goes through when trying to communicate and I dont know what a deaf person goes through when trying to communicate. Everyone has to learn from each other.

 

[jillio]

Arrgghhh. Everybody knows how I feel about this, so I won't even mention that hearing people explaining stuff to us in this thread annoys me.

Lalalala , skipping off down my garden path.
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(Not you Jillio, see above.)

Already saw that one, and declined to correct it!

 

[Bottesini]

Already saw that one, and declined to correct it!

I couldn't help myself, and hope it just results in a new thread and not an argument with me again.

I keep my hostility for this thread! Why can't they see that!

 

[jillio]

How are you supposed to get both sides of the story? You dont know what a hearing person goes through when trying to communicate and I dont know what a deaf person goes through when trying to communicate. Everyone has to learn from each other.

I know what a hearing person goes through to communicate. And unless they are making an effort to communicate based on the deaf individual's needs, rather than asking the deaf individual to acccommmodate the hearing person, they aren't going through anything of any significance.

 

[Bottesini]

How are you supposed to get both sides of the story? You dont know what a hearing person goes through when trying to communicate and I dont know what a deaf person goes through when trying to communicate. Everyone has to learn from each other.

Shut up, shut up, shut up!!!!!!!

 

[jillio]

I couldn't help myself, and hope it just results in a new thread and not an argument with me again.

I keep my hostility for this thread! Why can't they see that!

LOL! I am accused of spreading mine every where I go!

I had to break down too, after seeing the second explanatory post.

 

[jak2011]

I know what a hearing person goes through to communicate. And unless they are making an effort to communicate based on the deaf individual's needs, rather than asking the deaf individual to acccommmodate the hearing person, they aren't going through anything of any significance.

But saying Im sorry is not apologizing for you being deaf..
most of the people I know, that have interacted with a deaf person and havent learned ASL will apologize if they are turning their head while talking, or, again, speaking really fast, because they dont know the person is deaf. So they will say sorry, as in, sorry for not realizing it, and then go about talking so that the deaf person can understand.

 

[deafskeptic]

Oh, heck. DO you really think we don't know that\?

Some of us have had to deal with this our WHOLE life. :P

 

[KristinaB]

But saying Im sorry is not apologizing for you being deaf..
most of the people I know, that have interacted with a deaf person and havent learned ASL will apologize if they are turning their head while talking, or, again, speaking really fast, because they dont know the person is deaf. So they will say sorry, as in, sorry for not realizing it, and then go about talking so that the deaf person can understand.

Then there are the idiots who say sorry, and still keep doing what they are apologizing for and don't learn from it. That's the annoying part. It's those who don't learn. We hard of hearing and deaf people have had to conform to the hearing world and we would just like to have it reversed a little. At least, I would, I can't speak for everyone.

 

[jillio]

But saying Im sorry is not apologizing for you being deaf..
most of the people I know, that have interacted with a deaf person and havent learned ASL will apologize if they are turning their head while talking, or, again, speaking really fast, because they dont know the person is deaf. So they will say sorry, as in, sorry for not realizing it, and then go about talking so that the deaf person can understand.

"I'm sorry" is an innapropriate response to being told someone is deaf, no matter what the intent.

If one is apologizing for their own lack of capability in the communication dept, they will show the sincerity of that apology by saying, "What do you need me to do to facilitate communication?"

"I'm sorry" is an insulting response that the deaf/Deaf have endured from the hearing for centuries. Would you apologize to someone who spoke Spanish, or any other language that impeded communication?