What did you learn today? Part II

KristinaB said:
I learned that hubby is planning on buying a boat with some of the loan money. He's also planning on telling his mother a falsehood about it. I told him, I did not want to know and if she asked or found out, that he was to make sure she understood that I was NOT a part of it.
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WHY is he doing this?? Can you talk him out of it?

At the very least I hope he doesn't spend any of this money on non-essential things until your house is finished, because I guarantee you that something or other is likely to come up where you'll need a little extra funds for this or that. Just the nature of the beast when you are building.
 
I'm still trying to learn something on this website. When looking through the posts sometimes I accidentally hit "like". If I try to change this it turns to "unlike". I sure hope I haven't made people mad for not knowing what I'm doing.
 
"Unlikes" don't show; it just removes the "like." Probably no one would notice.

Of course now that you've told the world, I'm going to be on the lookout. ;-)
 
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I never can keep a secret!!! Oh well learned something new again today, I also found an ASL tutor. Starting with her this Saturday. I don't think once a week is enough, but she lives like an hour away. It's a start though.:angel:
 
i waking up, i gasp notice many dark black bruise on my left and right arms. SIGHHHHS i hard signing asl bec hurt very bad!!!!!
 
Beach girl said:
WHY is he doing this?? Can you talk him out of it?

At the very least I hope he doesn't spend any of this money on non-essential things until your house is finished, because I guarantee you that something or other is likely to come up where you'll need a little extra funds for this or that. Just the nature of the beast when you are building.
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Seems that the contractor is working with him on this.

Hubby and I had a conversation early in our marriage, when he sold the first boat prior to our move to Missouri. It was basically that, I made him agree that once I got a home of our own, he could buy another boat, if we could afford it. Well, he eventually got to buy his boat, then later on, traded it in for a different boat and we moved that boat back here to Florida. Well, he sold that boat since it's actually too small for where he likes to fish and it is now back in Missouri. Hubby thinks that original conversation is still in force and mentioned to the contractor how he wants another boat and hopes there will be money to get one. Contractor is working with him with the guarantee that they go fishing together at times. Contractor has said that if MIL asks who the boat belongs to, just say it's his and then after we do taxes and pay off my car, we can say that hubby boat the boat from the contractor with the leftover tax money. Guess I should interject here, the contractor and his family are becoming good friends with us and we will be spending time together even after the house is done.

I just don't like being a part of the "duplicity" of this. Yes, hubby and I had that conversation back in 1996 and it was fulfilled. I didn't think he would bring it back up again.
 
KristinaB said:
Seems that the contractor is working with him on this.

Hubby and I had a conversation early in our marriage, when he sold the first boat prior to our move to Missouri. It was basically that, I made him agree that once I got a home of our own, he could buy another boat, if we could afford it. Well, he eventually got to buy his boat, then later on, traded it in for a different boat and we moved that boat back here to Florida. Well, he sold that boat since it's actually too small for where he likes to fish and it is now back in Missouri. Hubby thinks that original conversation is still in force and mentioned to the contractor how he wants another boat and hopes there will be money to get one. Contractor is working with him with the guarantee that they go fishing together at times. Contractor has said that if MIL asks who the boat belongs to, just say it's his and then after we do taxes and pay off my car, we can say that hubby boat the boat from the contractor with the leftover tax money. Guess I should interject here, the contractor and his family are becoming good friends with us and we will be spending time together even after the house is done.

I just don't like being a part of the "duplicity" of this. Yes, hubby and I had that conversation back in 1996 and it was fulfilled. I didn't think he would bring it back up again.
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Oh dear. Honestly, this sounds like very bad news. From what you've said, buying a boat should be WAY down on the priority list, after you have taken care of more pressing needs. Your own instincts about not wanting to be part of that duplicity are telling you something.

Speaking from experience - when we were building our house, the builder did build it to the contracted price, but after that, there were things that needed doing, from small stuff like drawer pulls (I bought some cute dolphin pulls from Restoration Hardware) to large things like furniture that all added up.

Won't you have things you'll have to buy, like your appliances and so on, or is all that already in the contractor's price? For us, all of our appliances came out of our own pocket; that's just the way the contract was written.
 
KristinaB said:
Seems that the contractor is working with him on this.

Hubby and I had a conversation early in our marriage, when he sold the first boat prior to our move to Missouri. It was basically that, I made him agree that once I got a home of our own, he could buy another boat, if we could afford it. Well, he eventually got to buy his boat, then later on, traded it in for a different boat and we moved that boat back here to Florida. Well, he sold that boat since it's actually too small for where he likes to fish and it is now back in Missouri. Hubby thinks that original conversation is still in force and mentioned to the contractor how he wants another boat and hopes there will be money to get one. Contractor is working with him with the guarantee that they go fishing together at times. Contractor has said that if MIL asks who the boat belongs to, just say it's his and then after we do taxes and pay off my car, we can say that hubby boat the boat from the contractor with the leftover tax money. Guess I should interject here, the contractor and his family are becoming good friends with us and we will be spending time together even after the house is done.

I just don't like being a part of the "duplicity" of this. Yes, hubby and I had that conversation back in 1996 and it was fulfilled. I didn't think he would bring it back up again.
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This doesn't sound good, I've gotten the impression over the past few months that you and your hubby are struggling financially and now he wants to have a second boat even though he already has one in missouri? Have you two sat down and worked out your finances first?
 
shel90 said:
The ex-girlfriend that my ex hubby broke up with over Thanksgiving weekend told me that her oldest daughter is my ex hubby's biological daughter So, that means they were involved back in 1998 before we moved to MD. She said yes for one year. I told her that she was wrong for being involved with a married man and that karma got back to her with him cheating on her and then breaking up with her over Thanksgiving weekend. Karma is a bitch. Wow.
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lanapoo said:
I wouldn't trust her words... DNA test?
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my god. I agree that to be make sure.

it did happen in my relatives. too much too mess too handful to handle it. :hug:
 
DeafCaroline said:
This doesn't sound good, I've gotten the impression over the past few months that you and your hubby are struggling financially and now he wants to have a second boat even though he already has one in missouri? Have you two sat down and worked out your finances first?
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He sold the other boat.

We bought one in Missouri. Traded that in for another. Brought the 2nd to Florida then he sold it to an ex-coworker who moved to Missouri. We currently do not have a boat. He wants to get one since he misses having them around.


Now, the appliances are figured into the price of the full build. The total price including all the little things is somewhere between $80-$84,000. We will have close to $100,000 after all is said an done. We will use part of the extra to go into an account for property taxes and incidentals, then we will use part to buy some furniture that is needed. After that, there will be some available that MIL will not let us use for anything except the house. I'm not sure how hubby plans this, and quite frankly, I don't want to know as long as I get the necessary and required things. The account for the construction money is going to be 2 signatures required so he will have to let me know what's going on.

All in all, we do have financial difficulties and I am trying to cut things here and there. We will be able to make mtg payments with no problem. I just don't want hubby wasting the money on constantly going out to eat, so I tell him we have nothing. I am working on building a savings on the sly so he doesn't try to empty it. He knows I am doing it and I am open with the info, but he can't get to it and he doesn't know how much I have. The account is joint between son and myself.
 
What I not understand is how/why MIL "not let" you spend money certain way. Is not her money, is not her business. You adults. Why she have any consultation?
 
Sunshine said:
What I not understand is how/why MIL "not let" you spend money certain way. Is not her money, is not her business. You adults. Why she have any consultation?
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The loan for our construction is in her name, not ours, so technically, it is her money. We will be paying the loan.
 
Sunshine said:
But still...you adults. Not understand why she think she have any say.
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Right, I get that. This is just the way she is and it's why 16 years ago, her mother told us to move away and to never come back. Hubby came back since his mother had no one to help her. He feels that since we have had my mother with us for so long, that it's now time to help his mother.
 
Well I got my new HA today and I learned one thing: the world is a very noisy place and that I am probably one of the noisiest people in it! I belch loud, I walk loud, I make weird loud sucking noises when I play with my tongue while driving, my iPhone is loud, even my DD is very loud when she had a stomping fit! I also grunt a wheeze a lot (probably due to poor posture, indigestion, and smoking). Geez, I need to turn down MY volume a bit. I haven't tried talking on the phone yet, but we will see how that goes.
 
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i am CRAP mood. bec i fighting with my friend. he misunderstand me and take my word wrong way. i not like when people is twist my word and make me bad person. now he ignore me, i wait he come back. i need discuss with him very important.
 
After a conversation with the contractor, he is planning on fulfilling a wish from daughter. My daughter has a treasured teddy bear that she got at 2-3 days old from my Uncle and Aunt on my Dad's side. The bear is named for their daughter who was murdered in MN back in 1991 or thereabouts. Well, Cathy is a GUND bear and has been so well loved that she has lost quite a bit of her fur. GUND offered to replace Cathy, but daughter was so heart-broken about losing Cathy thay she didn't sleep for 2 weeks. We decided not to go this route as it would be too traumatic for my daughter given all her issues. Well, Daughter will be 18 on March 29th and Cathy will be 18 on March 31 or April 1st. Daughter asked if the contractor would build a box to put Cathy into where we could have a way to slide a piece of glass out and get to Cathy. Contractor is going one better. Actually a bunch better!! He will be building a bod and insetting it into the wall next to daughter's closet. (The box will actually be in the closet) We will have a special frame and glass just like a picture with Cathy sitting in a padded covered inside of a wood box. Daughter is over the moon about this.
 
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