What did you learn today? Part II

drphil said:
Hope the adult "labelled still a child" deals with the matter forthwith before one is at "seniors age level". Labelled as an "old child" isn't "pleasant".
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:lol:
 
Cheetah said:
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My gf is alergic. I cannot eat an shell fish and the give her a simple kiss. So, when I'm with her, I refuse to eat any shell fish.
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I'm the same way with clams and avocados.. A single bite of avocado can make me ill all day so I avoid them like the plague. I used to love them till I ate a whole avocado and then threw up for the next 3 days.
 
I learned last night that we will get a little more than hubby thought with the loan. Now, I most likely will get my back porch with the solid roof. We are lucky in the fact that our mortgage payments are going to be lower than the combined mortgage payment and lot rent we had in Missouri. In Central Missouri, our housing came out to be $300 (mtg) and $195 (lot rent) and in Eastern Missouri we had $300 (mtg, same home) and $210 (lot rent). Now, we will have $440 mortgage. Not bad at all.
 
I learned that my son is not my daughter's only blood sibling. I learned that she has a half sister who is 13 years old.
 
jillio said:
Oh, wow! That is a shocker! Does she know?
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Nope...and neither does the other girl. At this point, my mind refuses to process this new information. I think I have been through too much drama involving my ex hubby that I just cant take it anymore.

And think about it...my daughter is 14. This girl is 13.

Yep, figure it out. Just wow...
 
shel90 said:
Nope...and neither does the other girl. At this point, my mind refuses to process this new information. I think I have been through too much drama involving my ex hubby that I just cant take it anymore.

And think about it...my daughter is 14. This girl is 13.

Yep, figure it out. Just wow...
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I think that is good news if you think about it.
 
shel90 said:
I learned that my son is not my daughter's only blood sibling. I learned that she has a half sister who is 13 years old.
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Wow Shel.

I hope after you've processed this information you'll be able to help your daughter through it as well. That's got to be tough, even given the fact that the two of you are long divorced.

The ideal scenario (I would think) would be that eventually they get to know eachother through letters and phone calls, and maybe develop a relationship. The sad thing is how that can be such life changing information, and can have a tremendous impact on them. In good ways and potentially some challenging ways.

I hope you'll be able to come to peace with this soon, and continue making new and productive steps in your life. :hug:
 
Cheetah said:
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My gf is alergic. I cannot eat an shell fish and the give her a simple kiss. So, when I'm with her, I refuse to eat any shell fish.
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Oh,yes. Food allergies are the worst. It only takes a very small exposure to trigger a reaction. Food allergies and medication allergies (particularly antibiotics) are the most dangerous.
 
shel90 said:
Nope...and neither does the other girl. At this point, my mind refuses to process this new information. I think I have been through too much drama involving my ex hubby that I just cant take it anymore.

And think about it...my daughter is 14. This girl is 13.

Yep, figure it out. Just wow...
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Oh, man! What a mess.
 
shel90 said:
Nope...and neither does the other girl. At this point, my mind refuses to process this new information. I think I have been through too much drama involving my ex hubby that I just cant take it anymore.

And think about it...my daughter is 14. This girl is 13.

Yep, figure it out. Just wow...
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Shel,
I've gone through a similar thing - I found out from a reliable source that my DD has a half sister that lives not far from here actually, and they are very close in age.

There is also an older half-sibling in OK that was born not long before me and my ex were married.

Turns out my ex-husband gets around really well. I would not be at all surprised if more half-siblings turn up.

As for now, I am not going to push the issue of letting the girls get to know each other. I would think it would feel strange that this woman whom I don't know has a child by my daughter's father thinks the girls should get to know each other.

However, if the girls met on their own and realized they were related by having the same father, that's another thing. That can be more easily explained at a later age when they understand that men can have multiple children with multiple women.

I had a similar incident as a child when a classmate and I realized we were related by marriage - my aunt had married her father. They didn't stay married long and she didn't get to attend the wedding as it was her mother's weekend to have her and we were both very young. Aged 6 or 7 I believe, I barely remember the wedding. About the time they were divorcing we were talking about it then we put two and two together. There were no ill-feelings between us.

I say it's best to let the girls discover it on their own rather than be placed in an awkward position by the parents.
 
what i learn. i not very emotionals like some people and i never has much feeling. i wondering if this make me bad insensitive person??? i just want follow my head and using logics solve problem instead waste time crying all time. wow i am sucks for being empathy. my best friend sit with me and she cry say "boyfriend cheat on me then break up with me what I dooooooo" i have stonewall face no emotion and i say "come on, move on girl you can finding better man later.first go thinking about your life not waste time worry about men. relationship not very important" she gasp and call me very insensitive :dunno: maybe i am tin man from wizard of oz movie bec i has no heart?
 
jillio said:
Oh, man! What a mess.
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This is pretty common, I believe....I have a "half sister" also...only saw her once, many years ago. My father had so many "girl friends". And my true son admitted he was the father of a child in another state, (that I've never seen).

And another "shocker" a few years ago. This lady, who was a friend of the family, told me that her son (now age 16) was my grandson!...A DNA has never been done yet, tho'. So I'm pretty skeptical about it all. When I did meet the boy for the first time...I noticed many things that reminded me of my true son.

I'm sure there are many, many other cases out there.
 
Ask me in about 6 weeks what I learned yesterday (from my married daughter). Right now I have to keep it hush-hush. :)
 
Learned today that it's my teenager's "anniversary...(that's what he said)....and when I said...."Whaaaat?"...seems he and his girlfriend have been together "2 months" and he wants to go over to "hang out" there today....So I said...."as long as her parents are home, it's fine.".....Plus, they'll exchange Xmas gifts.....ahhhh! Remembering my own "puppy loves."!
 
rockin'robin said:
Learned today that it's my teenager's "anniversary...(that's what he said)....and when I said...."Whaaaat?"...seems he and his girlfriend have been together "2 months" and he wants to go over to "hang out" there today....So I said...."as long as her parents are home, it's fine.".....Plus, they'll exchange Xmas gifts.....ahhhh! Remembering my own "puppy loves."!
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Oh my :giggle: add the "keep the door open" rule to the parents being home haha.
 
I learned a neighbor had her dog impounded by Animal Control today. The dog is now labeled as vicious and may possible be put to sleep. Seems, this dog who is all of 1 year old, dug her way under the fence and proceeded to maul and kill another neighbor's dog. Never mind the fact that the other neighbor never keeps an eye on their pets and generally has 4 or 5 dogs running loose.
 
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