What did you learn today? Part II

Dixie said:
I can tell you after I divorced my husband, I made a promise to myself that I wasn't going to live like some women just moving in and out every time I have a new flame. Only problem is, after my divorce, I never had another flame, no serious flame anyways.

I don't want to be like my aunt - remarried five times before she landed with her current husband and they've been married 20+ years now. I have a friend of mine that's going through the same thing, she's been married 5-6 times in the last 7 years, twice to the same guy. Now she's going through another divorce. I finally had to ask her if it was exhausting getting married and divorced like that. She just kind of gave me a look.

I'm sure I would be more marketable if I lived on my own and had a good job, but alas I don't. I work all the time and I never go anywhere and I live with my parents and I have a kid of my own - so I'm unmarketable.

I just don't think it's good for kids to see people treating each other as being so disposable like disposable plates and cutlery like you get at Taco Bell. Use it, then just toss it away.

I only saw what my cousin went through growing up with her mom re-marrying and divorcing every time she blinked, for her it seemed to hurt that much more each time her mom divorced. Just about the time she thought she was going to have a real father figure in her life for good, boom it was over. She was 14/15 years old by the time her mom finally found the one and married for good. It took her a long time to warm up to this new guy because she was afraid that he was going to leave again just like all the others. She was 18/19 before she even acknowledged him as being a part of the family. Now she is willing to tell anyone that my aunt's husband was the one who was more of a dad to her than her real father ever thought about being. She's now in her 30's and while she has a family, and lives with the father of her children, she is DEATHLY afraid to marry him for fear that he might leave.

As for myself - I don't think that would be a good situation at all for my DD. Yet, she needs a positive father figure in her life. My dad is her grandfather, but that doesn't make him a father figure.

I have a feeling that if I ever date seriously again that my DD is going to have a heck of a time with it. She won't adjust to it easily I don't think. Sometimes I wonder if she imagines that me and her real dad might remarry and that we will live happily ever after? She is 8, so it's possible. But yet she's never asked about her dad. I guess she's just accepted the situation for what it is and has gone along with it all these years. I wonder if she even imagines me as ever getting remarried. I don't know.

I just refuse to put myself and my DD in that type of situation that She90's daughter is in.
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And that is what a responsible parent does.
 
mbrek said:
Are you saying you liked this type of upbringing? Children are more likely to be abused by a boyfriend (or girlfriend) than their own parents. I find it sad that women are willing to move from one man to another (especially when he just got rid of the last one). It may seem harsh to you, but I find it incredibly sad for the children.
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I find it sad too.
 
shel90 said:
My daughter still has my hubby and I as good role models (so far...*knock on wood*). It is her dad that is doing the disposing of women. However, it is those womens' kids that mbrek was concerned about.
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Yes, those women's kids, and the message he is giving your daughter, too. Her only saving grace is the fact that you and hubby model a normal, stable relationship for her.
 
I have a friend who has married twice.. When I first went to her facebook page, I am confused by all her names. She lists both names from her marriages plus her maiden name as well on her fb. Some of her customers still calls her by her first married name.
 
I have a friend whose mother has married about 6 or 7 times... His life was quite ustable..
 
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I learned that hubby, at age 53, still has not learned what "NO!" means.
 
Just got a text from a friend from church. Seems this deaf/blind lady will not be getting transferred to a nursing home for rehab today. There is not a nursing home in the tri county area here that will accept a deaf/blind person who is unable to communicate. Even if she has a person to do the interpreting for her 24/7, they will not accept her. The doctor's are currently looking to see what can be done before she is transferred to Alabama.
 
KristinaB said:
Just got a text from a friend from church. Seems this deaf/blind lady will not be getting transferred to a nursing home for rehab today. There is not a nursing home in the tri county area here that will accept a deaf/blind person who is unable to communicate. Even if she has a person to do the interpreting for her 24/7, they will not accept her. The doctor's are currently looking to see what can be done before she is transferred to Alabama.
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That sucks.
 
That an undecorated tree is still an undecorated tree. AlleyCat, GET YOUR BUTT MOVING.
 
AlleyCat said:
That an undecorated tree is still an undecorated tree. AlleyCat, GET YOUR BUTT MOVING.
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We have ours up but not decorated. It was pre-lit and since all of the decorations are in storage, we are making paper ornaments. Also, we didn't want the cats to break any of the ornaments. Just found out, they will not go near the tree. The previous owner used to have a 8 foot tree with all hand-blown glass ornaments and white lights. The cats left it totally alone.
 
Last year my cat climbed up in the middle of the tree. Lots of plastic decorations up high at our house. lol
 
^^^Mine does that, too! It sure is funny to see the whole tree shaking back and forth.
 
mbrek said:
^^^Mine does that, too! It sure is funny to see the whole tree shaking back and forth.
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and the worst thing you can do is jump up and yell "GET OUTTA THERE!" Because then you have to pick the tree up off the floor and return all the unbroken ornaments to the tree. And yes, I've made this mistake before... sigh. :(
 
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