What did you learn today? Part II

Sunshine said:
I was.

I find this unnecessarily harsh.
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Are you saying you liked this type of upbringing? Children are more likely to be abused by a boyfriend (or girlfriend) than their own parents. I find it sad that women are willing to move from one man to another (especially when he just got rid of the last one). It may seem harsh to you, but I find it incredibly sad for the children.
 
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mbrek said:
Are you saying you liked this type of upbringing? Children are more likely to be abused by a boyfriend (or girlfriend) than their own parents. I find it sad that women are willing to move from one man to another (especially when he just got rid of the last one). It may seem harsh to you, but I find it incredibly sad for the children.
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Prefer this type upbringing to never have be born. Very judgmental. You know what is like?
 
mbrek said:
Are you saying you liked this type of upbringing? Children are more likely to be abused by a boyfriend (or girlfriend) than their own parents. I find it sad that women are willing to move from one man to another (especially when he just got rid of the last one). It may seem harsh to you, but I find it incredibly sad for the children.
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Are you talking about me? If so, I have been married to the same man for the last 7 years. Before that I dated for 3 years but never brought any of my dates home when my daughter was with me. :confused:
 
I've seen what it can be like for the kids. No one gets a choice in being born. Does it always come out bad? Of course not. But chances are greater for kids being abused in these circumstances, and I still find it sad to have kids see their mom tossed out when her boyfriend is done with her like she's garbage.
 
shel90 said:
Are you talking about me? If so, I have been married to the same man for the last 7 years. Before that I dated for 3 years but never brought any of my dates home when my daughter was with me. :confused:
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No Shel! I was thinking of women like your ex is with (and bringing in and out of your daughter's life). I find the circumstances sad.
 
mbrek said:
I've seen what it can be like for the kids. No one gets a choice in being born. Does it always come out bad? Of course not. But chances are greater for kids being abused in these circumstances, and I still find it sad to have kids see their mom tossed out when her boyfriend is done with her like she's garbage.
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I am lost. Are you talking about my daughter or the kids of my ex hubby's former girlfriends?
 
mbrek said:
No Shel! I was thinking of women like your ex is with (and bringing in and out of your daughter's life). I find the circumstances sad.
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Ohhh gotcha. Yea, I know. I still keep in touch with the first ex girlfriend. She and her 3 boys are fine now. As for the recent one, I never got along with her so I probably would never know how her kids will do after moving out from his house. I wish them well though.
 
mbrek said:
No Shel! I was thinking of women like your ex is with (and bringing in and out of your daughter's life). I find the circumstances sad.
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Hard to judge unless you have experienced it firsthand... It may seem sad from your viewpoint, but once having experienced it. It's completely different.
 
There are a lot of things I'll never experience first hand, but I can still have my own thoughts and opinions on. I've never been beaten by my husband. I don't think I need to before I can say how I feel about it.

What makes you think I haven't seen kids who live like this? I am still willing to stick my neck out here and find it sad. Think me a judgmental bitch? Fine by me. But remember, you'll be judging me if you think so...

I'm done with my little rant.
 
mbrek said:
There are a lot of things I'll never experience first hand, but I can still have my own thoughts and opinions on. I've never been beaten by my husband. I don't think I need to before I can say how I feel about it.

What makes you think I haven't seen kids who live like this? I am still willing to stick my neck out here and find it sad. Think me a judgmental bitch? Fine by me. But remember, you'll be judging me if you think so...

I'm done with my little rant.
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What I'm trying to say is that people who go through this kind of thing, they don't want your pity. They want your support. That's why I'm all like, don't be "judgmental." They don't want to see people standing around saying, "you can just leave him. You can do something about it. It's not hard!" When in fact you have no idea how difficult it is... How extremely painful it is...
 
mbrek said:
There are a lot of things I'll never experience first hand, but I can still have my own thoughts and opinions on. I've never been beaten by my husband. I don't think I need to before I can say how I feel about it.

What makes you think I haven't seen kids who live like this? I am still willing to stick my neck out here and find it sad. Think me a judgmental bitch? Fine by me. But remember, you'll be judging me if you think so...

I'm done with my little rant.
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what is wrong , oh sound your relationship problem!

I am shocked!
 
I can tell you after I divorced my husband, I made a promise to myself that I wasn't going to live like some women just moving in and out every time I have a new flame. Only problem is, after my divorce, I never had another flame, no serious flame anyways.

I don't want to be like my aunt - remarried five times before she landed with her current husband and they've been married 20+ years now. I have a friend of mine that's going through the same thing, she's been married 5-6 times in the last 7 years, twice to the same guy. Now she's going through another divorce. I finally had to ask her if it was exhausting getting married and divorced like that. She just kind of gave me a look.

I'm sure I would be more marketable if I lived on my own and had a good job, but alas I don't. I work all the time and I never go anywhere and I live with my parents and I have a kid of my own - so I'm unmarketable.

I just don't think it's good for kids to see people treating each other as being so disposable like disposable plates and cutlery like you get at Taco Bell. Use it, then just toss it away.

I only saw what my cousin went through growing up with her mom re-marrying and divorcing every time she blinked, for her it seemed to hurt that much more each time her mom divorced. Just about the time she thought she was going to have a real father figure in her life for good, boom it was over. She was 14/15 years old by the time her mom finally found the one and married for good. It took her a long time to warm up to this new guy because she was afraid that he was going to leave again just like all the others. She was 18/19 before she even acknowledged him as being a part of the family. Now she is willing to tell anyone that my aunt's husband was the one who was more of a dad to her than her real father ever thought about being. She's now in her 30's and while she has a family, and lives with the father of her children, she is DEATHLY afraid to marry him for fear that he might leave.

As for myself - I don't think that would be a good situation at all for my DD. Yet, she needs a positive father figure in her life. My dad is her grandfather, but that doesn't make him a father figure.

I have a feeling that if I ever date seriously again that my DD is going to have a heck of a time with it. She won't adjust to it easily I don't think. Sometimes I wonder if she imagines that me and her real dad might remarry and that we will live happily ever after? She is 8, so it's possible. But yet she's never asked about her dad. I guess she's just accepted the situation for what it is and has gone along with it all these years. I wonder if she even imagines me as ever getting remarried. I don't know.

I just refuse to put myself and my DD in that type of situation that She90's daughter is in.
 
Dixie said:
I can tell you after I divorced my husband, I made a promise to myself that I wasn't going to live like some women just moving in and out every time I have a new flame. Only problem is, after my divorce, I never had another flame, no serious flame anyways.

I don't want to be like my aunt - remarried five times before she landed with her current husband and they've been married 20+ years now. I have a friend of mine that's going through the same thing, she's been married 5-6 times in the last 7 years, twice to the same guy. Now she's going through another divorce. I finally had to ask her if it was exhausting getting married and divorced like that. She just kind of gave me a look.

I'm sure I would be more marketable if I lived on my own and had a good job, but alas I don't. I work all the time and I never go anywhere and I live with my parents and I have a kid of my own - so I'm unmarketable.

I just don't think it's good for kids to see people treating each other as being so disposable like disposable plates and cutlery like you get at Taco Bell. Use it, then just toss it away.

I only saw what my cousin went through growing up with her mom re-marrying and divorcing every time she blinked, for her it seemed to hurt that much more each time her mom divorced. Just about the time she thought she was going to have a real father figure in her life for good, boom it was over. She was 14/15 years old by the time her mom finally found the one and married for good. It took her a long time to warm up to this new guy because she was afraid that he was going to leave again just like all the others. She was 18/19 before she even acknowledged him as being a part of the family. Now she is willing to tell anyone that my aunt's husband was the one who was more of a dad to her than her real father ever thought about being. She's now in her 30's and while she has a family, and lives with the father of her children, she is DEATHLY afraid to marry him for fear that he might leave.

As for myself - I don't think that would be a good situation at all for my DD. Yet, she needs a positive father figure in her life. My dad is her grandfather, but that doesn't make him a father figure.

I have a feeling that if I ever date seriously again that my DD is going to have a heck of a time with it. She won't adjust to it easily I don't think. Sometimes I wonder if she imagines that me and her real dad might remarry and that we will live happily ever after? She is 8, so it's possible. But yet she's never asked about her dad. I guess she's just accepted the situation for what it is and has gone along with it all these years. I wonder if she even imagines me as ever getting remarried. I don't know.

I just refuse to put myself and my DD in that type of situation that She90's daughter is in.
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My daughter still has my hubby and I as good role models (so far...*knock on wood*). It is her dad that is doing the disposing of women. However, it is those womens' kids that mbrek was concerned about.
 
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