What are you thinking about? Part III

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deafskeptic said:
The color that my parents chose for the kitchen was anything but cheery. They chose a very dark shade of red and painted the doors and trim and windows with that color. They had patterened wallpaper to match.
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Goth!
 
I am now thinking...."How much longer!!!!??????" My mother is driving me up a wall. Constantly talking and talking and talking. Telling me I am no good and that I need to learn how to do things her way and that I am ignorant and stupid. The doctor tells me it is her dementia talking, but geez, how much longer do I have to put up with it? There are days I wish I could put her in a nursing home or send her to one of my brothers, but they would commit her and not take care of her. I do my best, but man, oh man!!

Okay - I will stop for now. I will be staying in my room for the rest of the evening and not eating dinner due to this mess. No one will be hurt, I promise. I will do no harm to myself or to my mother.
 
This hangover bites. I'm glad I stayed home for NYE. Lots of Gatorade, leftover pizza and football.

I might still go to home depot if the headache subsides.
 
deafbajagal said:
I need to win the lottery.
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I thought the same thing! We need the lottery! When I come to visit, we'll chip in for a ticket, deal? ;)

KristinaB said:
I am now thinking...."How much longer!!!!??????" My mother is driving me up a wall. Constantly talking and talking and talking. Telling me I am no good and that I need to learn how to do things her way and that I am ignorant and stupid. The doctor tells me it is her dementia talking, but geez, how much longer do I have to put up with it? There are days I wish I could put her in a nursing home or send her to one of my brothers, but they would commit her and not take care of her. I do my best, but man, oh man!!

Okay - I will stop for now. I will be staying in my room for the rest of the evening and not eating dinner due to this mess. No one will be hurt, I promise. I will do no harm to myself or to my mother.
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Ouch, that's tough, girl. My grandmother had dementia and boy, some of the things she said was a shocker because she never had said anything like that before. So, try and not take it personally. :hug:

Shel90,
Sorry to hear about the passing of your student. :(
 
KristinaB said:
I am now thinking...."How much longer!!!!??????" My mother is driving me up a wall. Constantly talking and talking and talking. Telling me I am no good and that I need to learn how to do things her way and that I am ignorant and stupid. The doctor tells me it is her dementia talking, but geez, how much longer do I have to put up with it? There are days I wish I could put her in a nursing home or send her to one of my brothers, but they would commit her and not take care of her. I do my best, but man, oh man!!

Okay - I will stop for now. I will be staying in my room for the rest of the evening and not eating dinner due to this mess. No one will be hurt, I promise. I will do no harm to myself or to my mother.
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I'm sorry you had a rough day. I hope your evening gets better!
 
KristinaB said:
I am now thinking...."How much longer!!!!??????" My mother is driving me up a wall. Constantly talking and talking and talking. Telling me I am no good and that I need to learn how to do things her way and that I am ignorant and stupid. The doctor tells me it is her dementia talking, but geez, how much longer do I have to put up with it? There are days I wish I could put her in a nursing home or send her to one of my brothers, but they would commit her and not take care of her. I do my best, but man, oh man!!

Okay - I will stop for now. I will be staying in my room for the rest of the evening and not eating dinner due to this mess. No one will be hurt, I promise. I will do no harm to myself or to my mother.
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I am sorry to hear this. I hope tomorrow will be a better day. Hang in there!
Hugs!!
 
KristinaB said:
I am now thinking...."How much longer!!!!??????" My mother is driving me up a wall. Constantly talking and talking and talking. Telling me I am no good and that I need to learn how to do things her way and that I am ignorant and stupid. The doctor tells me it is her dementia talking, but geez, how much longer do I have to put up with it? There are days I wish I could put her in a nursing home or send her to one of my brothers, but they would commit her and not take care of her. I do my best, but man, oh man!!

Okay - I will stop for now. I will be staying in my room for the rest of the evening and not eating dinner due to this mess. No one will be hurt, I promise. I will do no harm to myself or to my mother.
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awful but... curious - why not just walk away?
 
Jiro said:
awful but... curious - why not just walk away?
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I did walk away when I finished what I was doing. She came to find me and asked me what was bothering me. I did not want to tell her, but did as she asked and told her. She denied saying it and then started crying herself. Both my son and my MIL heard her comments. I was good, I did not get angry to her or say anything back to her as I know she would not understand. I calmly finished and left the room.
 
KristinaB said:
I did walk away when I finished what I was doing. She came to find me and asked me what was bothering me. I did not want to tell her, but did as she asked and told her. She denied saying it and then started crying herself. Both my son and my MIL heard her comments.
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oh good lord.... :grouphug:

it's a hard spit to swallow but... how about just playing along just for her own sake? I assume you've done that many times and it's tiresome?
 
Jiro said:
oh good lord.... :grouphug:

it's a hard spit to swallow but... how about just playing along just for her own sake? I assume you've done that many times and it's tiresome?
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I usually am able to ignore it and "let it roll off like water on a duck's back", but this was the first time she said hateful, hurtful things. The worst is, she doesn't remember it. Ah well, I am feeling a little better since I know there's nothing that can be done. the doctor is aware of it and has said as much.
 
KristinaB said:
I usually am able to ignore it and "let it roll off like water on a duck's back", but this was the first time she said hateful, hurtful things. The worst is, she doesn't remember it. Ah well, I am feeling a little better since I know there's nothing that can be done. the doctor is aware of it and has said as much.
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right. you are deaf so use your deafness. pretend to hear :)
 
Kristina I know how you feel, my dad is the same way only he doesn't have dementia. I just walk away and pretend it doesn't hurt or I bite back with a sharp comment, depending on my mood. Hopefully I will be out on my own before I retire and I will no longer have to put up with this.
 
Well - at least we were able to talk later and get it taken care of. She is planning on calling her doctor on Monday. Not sure what he can do, but this is upsetting her to know how much it upsets me. She knows I have so much to worry about and take care of. My brother called and wanted to know what he could do. I had him talk to mom. Also, both her brothers called to check in on her, so she is happier all around. Her baby brother just turned 66 today.
 
I hope she calls and gets an appointment. Dementia sufferers aren't just those with the dementia, it is the entire family. Is there a support group nearby that you can tap into for help??
 
What I think I want to do sometimes after reading a certain poster's nonstop posts.

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