Steinhauer
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My ex was having an affair and tried to manipulate me into thinking I was just being paranoid. I mean, I went through the whole "maybe I am a manipulative control freak" phase and felt guilty about thinking she was having an affair (when she was).
She had an affair with one of my best friends ... and then some. I tried to do the right thing. I told her to stop the affair(s) go to marriage counselling, or leave. She replied by saying she was not my "property" and could do whatever she wanted to do and could do it with anyone she wanted to do it with. She was having one affair in our home.
She even threatened me several times saying that if I had mentioned the affairs to any judge, she would just make me out to be an abusive monster. Her words exactly were "And the judge will believe me because I am a woman."
In response to that, I told her I would subpoena our neighbors, friends, stepson's (her biological son from previous marriage) teachers and his principal. I left to go to work one day, and was served with a restraining order. Came back home, everything that wasn't nailed down was gone. She disappeared .... for four years.
She had changed her name several times, ran several real estate scams and re-married (bigamy) and had two children (one of which was born exactly 9 months after she abandoned the marriage), as well as left a crateful of boxes she had forgottent to take with her.
In those boxes was everything I needed to prove her affair to a judge. However, no one knew where she done r-u-n-n-o-f-t to. I also had proof she had lied in order to get the restraining order.
Then she was found, was served by a special agent and I got my divorce. Oh well .... that was one creepy lady I never have to deal with again.
My attorney was very good, had DNA evidence as well as birth certificates. We even were able to find out she had tried to scam her first husband's family by pulling the same victim crap.
She had an affair with one of my best friends ... and then some. I tried to do the right thing. I told her to stop the affair(s) go to marriage counselling, or leave. She replied by saying she was not my "property" and could do whatever she wanted to do and could do it with anyone she wanted to do it with. She was having one affair in our home.
She even threatened me several times saying that if I had mentioned the affairs to any judge, she would just make me out to be an abusive monster. Her words exactly were "And the judge will believe me because I am a woman."
In response to that, I told her I would subpoena our neighbors, friends, stepson's (her biological son from previous marriage) teachers and his principal. I left to go to work one day, and was served with a restraining order. Came back home, everything that wasn't nailed down was gone. She disappeared .... for four years.
She had changed her name several times, ran several real estate scams and re-married (bigamy) and had two children (one of which was born exactly 9 months after she abandoned the marriage), as well as left a crateful of boxes she had forgottent to take with her.
In those boxes was everything I needed to prove her affair to a judge. However, no one knew where she done r-u-n-n-o-f-t to. I also had proof she had lied in order to get the restraining order.
Then she was found, was served by a special agent and I got my divorce. Oh well .... that was one creepy lady I never have to deal with again.
My attorney was very good, had DNA evidence as well as birth certificates. We even were able to find out she had tried to scam her first husband's family by pulling the same victim crap.
