Legally Separated

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Hey, I wonder if anyone been experinced to have Legally Separated?

Well, I'm not know about it at all but heard about it.

But, i dont know if it's allowed to marry again after to having Legally Separated?
 
You can remarry only if the divorce are final after legal separation.
 
i was seprated for almost 4 yrs then finally got divorced last yr til after 60 days done then u can remarry..
 
Legally Separated mean you are still married to someone, but not living together or seeing each other till your divorce will be processing and due to be in the court for hearing. When the divorce is finally, you are FREE and able to marry someone.
 
I'm currently legally separated but not yet divorced. Ex is currently filing the papers and should be done within 6 weeks.
 
Legally separated is also a "cool-off" period before the divorce becomes final. It also gives the chance that both parties may change their mind about divorce.

......I'm gonna have to say this 'cause....

I got back together with the wife last weekend! It just happened when I called her to ask if I can see my daughter. She was like sure meet me at the gas station. Last Sat night I pick the kid up and talk for 15 mins before going home for the night with my daughter in tow. Next day I bring her back and talk with the wife in her car for 2 hours with the AC running due to a hot day.

Next thing I know I end up going to the hospital with the wife cuz my daugther had a visit to the doctor that morning last Tuesday. Spent the time talking what happened about things that led to the 8 months separation and the divorce filing. We took on the chance to work it out in the hospital cafeteria. After all we gotta try again for the girls' sakes.

Hope it is better the next time round for both of us and the girls....
 
Legally seperated mean your free to dating your new boy/girlfriend while your divorce is on proceeding.

Seperated - you are almost free from your spouse, no more obey/worship/permission from your estranged spouse!!! - you can also change your religious, moving house, changing your bank account (if joint-together) and the lawyer will recognised 12 months seperation before the divorce become finalised.
 
Tamara said:
Legally seperated mean your free to dating your new boy/girlfriend while your divorce is on proceeding.

Seperated - you are almost free from your spouse, no more obey/worship/permission from your estranged spouse!!! - you can also change your religious, moving house, changing your bank account (if joint-together) and the lawyer will recognised 12 months seperation before the divorce become finalised.
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but i got papers last yr, the law say if we are seprate, i cant date til i get divorce first then i can date... i just found out last yr, i was gulp.. cuz of i did dated my ex in past... oops...
 
sablescort said:
Legally separated is also a "cool-off" period before the divorce becomes final. It also gives the chance that both parties may change their mind about divorce.

......I'm gonna have to say this 'cause....

I got back together with the wife last weekend! It just happened when I called her to ask if I can see my daughter. She was like sure meet me at the gas station. Last Sat night I pick the kid up and talk for 15 mins before going home for the night with my daughter in tow. Next day I bring her back and talk with the wife in her car for 2 hours with the AC running due to a hot day.

Next thing I know I end up going to the hospital with the wife cuz my daugther had a visit to the doctor that morning last Tuesday. Spent the time talking what happened about things that led to the 8 months separation and the divorce filing. We took on the chance to work it out in the hospital cafeteria. After all we gotta try again for the girls' sakes.

Hope it is better the next time round for both of us and the girls....
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I hope it will work out with you and your ex wife. Sometimes after being divorced for awhile, some people realize they actually were meant to be together after all. Both you and your ex wife will need to work out some old issues to solve them in order to be able to be together forever. Will pray for you and your ex wife.
 
sablescort said:
Legally separated is also a "cool-off" period before the divorce becomes final. It also gives the chance that both parties may change their mind about divorce.

......I'm gonna have to say this 'cause....

I got back together with the wife last weekend! It just happened when I called her to ask if I can see my daughter. She was like sure meet me at the gas station. Last Sat night I pick the kid up and talk for 15 mins before going home for the night with my daughter in tow. Next day I bring her back and talk with the wife in her car for 2 hours with the AC running due to a hot day.

Next thing I know I end up going to the hospital with the wife cuz my daugther had a visit to the doctor that morning last Tuesday. Spent the time talking what happened about things that led to the 8 months separation and the divorce filing. We took on the chance to work it out in the hospital cafeteria. After all we gotta try again for the girls' sakes.

Hope it is better the next time round for both of us and the girls....
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I hope everything will be okay for u and ur wife back together and work it out... :hug:
 
sablescort said:
Legally separated is also a "cool-off" period before the divorce becomes final. It also gives the chance that both parties may change their mind about divorce.

......I'm gonna have to say this 'cause....

I got back together with the wife last weekend! It just happened when I called her to ask if I can see my daughter. She was like sure meet me at the gas station. Last Sat night I pick the kid up and talk for 15 mins before going home for the night with my daughter in tow. Next day I bring her back and talk with the wife in her car for 2 hours with the AC running due to a hot day.

Next thing I know I end up going to the hospital with the wife cuz my daugther had a visit to the doctor that morning last Tuesday. Spent the time talking what happened about things that led to the 8 months separation and the divorce filing. We took on the chance to work it out in the hospital cafeteria. After all we gotta try again for the girls' sakes.

Hope it is better the next time round for both of us and the girls....
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i totally support ya dude. being divorced with the kid isnt easy for me, i tell ya. i still have this feeling for my ex. (i know it is normal for those divorced ppl having the feelings toward their ex spouses...) but i had no choice but move on. what more important to me is to make sure my daughter having happiness in her life.
 
sablescort said:
Legally separated is also a "cool-off" period before the divorce becomes final. It also gives the chance that both parties may change their mind about divorce.

......I'm gonna have to say this 'cause....

I got back together with the wife last weekend! It just happened when I called her to ask if I can see my daughter. She was like sure meet me at the gas station. Last Sat night I pick the kid up and talk for 15 mins before going home for the night with my daughter in tow. Next day I bring her back and talk with the wife in her car for 2 hours with the AC running due to a hot day.

Next thing I know I end up going to the hospital with the wife cuz my daugther had a visit to the doctor that morning last Tuesday. Spent the time talking what happened about things that led to the 8 months separation and the divorce filing. We took on the chance to work it out in the hospital cafeteria. After all we gotta try again for the girls' sakes.

Hope it is better the next time round for both of us and the girls....
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GOOOD, GOOD, GOOD LORD! CONGULATION!!!! I hope you and your lady work out in relationship.. don't give up! smile
 
Yep, you have to be divorced. Legal separation isn't usually necessary except if there are legal issues like insurance, or whatever that call for it. You don't have to be legally separated in order to get divorced.
 
I hate to say this, I am separated from my hubby....I am now alone w two boys... sigh. IT is not easy at all with the boys being so young at 3 and 1.

I wanted to work this out with him, he doesn't want to, he says it is over period. It was hard for me to accept the fact it is over, we have been married for 7 yrs.

I still have feelings for him, he doesn't anymore. At some certain points, he really makes me so mad and jump on him, but I know I can not do that at all. I have cried my heart out, emotionally drained, you name it all...Now I have all those hollow feelings, just very disappointed.

It will take a while to get a head start on legal proceedings bec it will take 6 months for this state...it varies on state procedures.

Sorry for getting off point here..I was just venting out here. Never mind me. :(
 
downing said:
I hate to say this, I am separated from my hubby....I am now alone w two boys... sigh. IT is not easy at all with the boys being so young at 3 and 1.

I wanted to work this out with him, he doesn't want to, he says it is over period. It was hard for me to accept the fact it is over, we have been married for 7 yrs.

I still have feelings for him, he doesn't anymore. At some certain points, he really makes me so mad and jump on him, but I know I can not do that at all. I have cried my heart out, emotionally drained, you name it all...Now I have all those hollow feelings, just very disappointed.

It will take a while to get a head start on legal proceedings bec it will take 6 months for this state...it varies on state procedures.

Sorry for getting off point here..I was just venting out here. Never mind me. :(
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Awwww downing! *Hugs tight!* I had no idea! That's some shocking news! I know exactly how you feel hun, really I do. Awww you poor thing, I wish I could give you a good hug personally. I know it's gotta get tough before it gets better, take it one day at a time, Your heart will heal just in matter of time, It might take a long time, It might take months or weeks. But, I know in my heart you can do it, You have two beauitful children that loves you very much, and needs you the most. Be strong sweetie, I know it's very hard, I believe you can do it. :hug: :ily:
 
downing said:
I hate to say this, I am separated from my hubby....I am now alone w two boys... sigh. IT is not easy at all with the boys being so young at 3 and 1.

I wanted to work this out with him, he doesn't want to, he says it is over period. It was hard for me to accept the fact it is over, we have been married for 7 yrs.

I still have feelings for him, he doesn't anymore. At some certain points, he really makes me so mad and jump on him, but I know I can not do that at all. I have cried my heart out, emotionally drained, you name it all...Now I have all those hollow feelings, just very disappointed.

It will take a while to get a head start on legal proceedings bec it will take 6 months for this state...it varies on state procedures.

Sorry for getting off point here..I was just venting out here. Never mind me. :(
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Huggs.. Aww Dear... Hang in there.. You got the boys who love you the most.. I know its hard.. Try not be negative yourself what you have done.. but you can always start new with your boys.. there are alot of happy years ahead of you with your boys.. Have faith!..

Huggs.. :ily:
 
downing said:
I hate to say this, I am separated from my hubby....I am now alone w two boys... sigh. IT is not easy at all with the boys being so young at 3 and 1.

I wanted to work this out with him, he doesn't want to, he says it is over period. It was hard for me to accept the fact it is over, we have been married for 7 yrs.

I still have feelings for him, he doesn't anymore. At some certain points, he really makes me so mad and jump on him, but I know I can not do that at all. I have cried my heart out, emotionally drained, you name it all...Now I have all those hollow feelings, just very disappointed.

It will take a while to get a head start on legal proceedings bec it will take 6 months for this state...it varies on state procedures.

Sorry for getting off point here..I was just venting out here. Never mind me. :( >> IT IS OK TO VENT OUT... YOU ARE HURTING TERRIBLY! GIRL :(
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i am so sorry downing!!! :( :hug:

why did he give it all up JUST like that??? :( you stood by him through the tough times!!! sheesh... and this is the THANKS YOU GET FROM HIM! :ugh: but doofusmama is right ... you got wonderful boys and many more GREAT AND HAPPY years ahead of you! :thumb:

i wonder if it is because he is all DRAINED OUT EMOTIONALLY from his PARENTS' FAILING health??? I JUST WONDER!?!? :roll: i don't mean to be nosey here... i just wonder cuz i know men like that tend to use that as a "cop out" AND run away w/o dealing with their emotions and other problems that come up, etc... sheesh! :( :hug:
 
FeistyChick said:
i am so sorry downing!!! :( :hug:

why did he give it all up JUST like that??? :( you stood by him through the tough times!!! sheesh... and this is the THANKS YOU GET FROM HIM! :ugh: but doofusmama is right ... you got wonderful boys and many more GREAT AND HAPPY years ahead of you! :thumb:

i wonder if it is because he is all DRAINED OUT EMOTIONALLY from his PARENTS' FAILING health??? I JUST WONDER!?!? :roll: i don't mean to be nosey here... i just wonder cuz i know men like that tend to use that as a "cop out" AND run away w/o dealing with their emotions and other problems that come up, etc... sheesh! :( :hug:
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Pretty much He flew the coop

Yes, he did give all up just like that,,, even I stood by him through difficult time with his dad having the Alzhiemer's disease and now I just found out that his mother also have the Alzhiemer's disease too. His parents are in Assisted Living which is 30 miles from where I live.

My hubby just took off and lives out of state....leaving me to deal with the house, one income (he has no job and will be starting next week for 7 an hr), babysitter and bills.

I will have to get legal papers done such as legal separation, divorce, child custody, etc etc.. whatever it goes... it is all so complicated!!!! ugh. But good part, he is very supportive and willing to help me to deal the mess, he is here right now to help to fix the house, take care of boys before he starts the job. So I know he is not deadbeat dad at all. He is not like other dads takes off and go into war for legals.. he is very cooperative and I am bit glad for that part. We are taking it as adults, make compromises and working out kinks to make this work for the boys sake.

I will be ok. Thx! You guys rock.
 
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