Angel star, first off, I want to thank you for the encouragement. As previously stated, I too have dealt with the same type of person that looks at me with disgust in the same fashion.
I want my daughter to look at the narrow minded asl only militants the same way she would look at any other closed minded person, with sadness. These people go hand in hand with the closed minded person that refuses to let a child wear a hearing aid, or refuse to let a child learn sign ASL. Teaching a child to pass judgement on a person based soley on how they chose to communicate is the same as teaching them to pass judgement on someone based on skin color, income, what kind of car they drive or any other thing besides their character and actions. If my daughter grows up to be this closed minded, I failed as a parent. A child learns from mom and dad, and that is a double edged sword in terms when relating to the health of a society.
I do not agree with not taking Lilly to deaf functions. She is deaf. I feel very strongly that you must embrace who and what you are, regardless of what defines you. If I do not expose her to the deaf culture, she will never truly understand it. When she gets old enough, I want her to make that choice for herself. I can only expose her to it and let her decide. Life is about a series of choices. The more you are informed, the better choices you are capable of making to effect the course of your life. This is one the reasons that I almost feel sad for some of the people that look at me in disgust when they see my daughter has a CI. They dont know me or my family but they feel justified in passing judgement on us.
As far as the response about being in St.Louis may cause some to pass judgement on us because there are so many oral schools here. In my opinion, thats not good enough. They are still forming an opinion on us without knowing anything about us. Here is an example of how I pass judgement on people. Being a police officer, I have to form opinions of people all the time (sometimes split second decisions where life/safety can be compromised). When initiating contact with someone, I do so in a guarded manner. Unless you know ALOT about defensive tactics and police work, you will never notice the defensive stances, body positioning, and body language. I do this on pourpose so if you become a threat, I am ready. When talking to a person, (I was raised this way) I always give someone enough respect to do 1 of 2 things,1. they can continue to earn more and more respect by treating me with equal respect. Or 2. they can act like an idiot and lose any respect they have earned. If you act like an adult, you get treated like an adult. If you avt like a fool, you get treated accordingly.
When those people look at me with disgust, in my mind they are showing that they are merely fools.
Gotta go to work. BYE