Lillys dad said:
Correct, I am aware that the CI does not allow one to hear as a hearing person, I misspoke about that.
Thanks for correcting yourself.
Lillys dad said:
As far as not bring up a ci during a conversation with a deaf person, I never got the chance. All someone has to do is look at my daughter and they see it. When they saw it, I got that disgusting look. And by that point, there is no point of even trying to talk to that person.
Well, I don't know what to say about that. But you could just try signing "hi".
Lillys dad said:
As far as docs, and so forth, pushing ci dont peoples throat. I'm not a dr. Just because my daughter has a ci, I dont think that everyone should. I support those that have a Ci the same as someone that doesnt want one. Life is about choices, and your choice is exactly that YOURS.
They don't know you. Perhaps they misunderstood you or you misunderstood them.
Lillys dad said:
Those that feel they dont want a ci or dont want to have a ci shoved down thier throat (your words)look at my daughter and assume that I'm there to force the issue. They never even gave me a chance to show them otherwise. That is called stereotyping. I hope that you dont (or try not to) stereotype a person based on race correct? If you see a black guy standing on a corner, do you assume he is a drug dealer? Maybe hes waiting for a bus.
Well, maybe you don't do that, but they probably misunderstood you or just don't know you don't feel that way. Remember, many of them have had to go through many arguments with hearing parents who loved cochlear implants.
Lillys dad said:
If you do not stereotype that situation, why is it ok to stereotype me?
Well, it may not be OK, but perhaps it's just a misunderstanding. Most hearing parents who get cochlear implants for their children recommend to everyone to get them for their deaf children and then say it's so great to hear. Maybe you don't, but they don't know you.
Lillys dad said:
I have learned a very valuable lesson because of my experience at deaf nation and the conversatons on this webpage. I have learned that ignorance is alive and well within the deaf community just like any other community. Because I have not made the same choices that you or your parents have, I am not worthy of respect or even the time of day. Thats fine, If those people want to show thier ignorance, good. It makes it that much easier to figure out who is a decent open mided person and who is a narrow minded idiot.
Well, true, but there are lots of people who are forced to get a cochlear implant. There are Deaf people who are against the CI because they don't understand it, too. But most just are tired of it getting thrown in their faces a lot.
Lillys dad said:
The people that look down on me and my daughter (in my opinion) are no better than the KKK, black panthers, or neo-nazi skin heads. They hate us because we are different than they are. They are afraid of anyone that does not see they world the same as they do.
Uh, some do, but I, a hearing person, have been accepted into the Deaf Culture and participate somewhat actively in it. It isn't about ability to hear or not--it's about acceptance of who your daughter is. Many don't see implanting your daughter as accepting who she is, and they don't think you'd accept them either.
Lillys dad said:
And yes, I have plenty of experience dealing with the afforementioned groups. I have stood on a police line and had to defend the rights of these hate mongers. I have gotten in thier faces and arrested them. I have been shot at by "black sepratists". In high school I used to hang out with a group of skin heads called "circle of equality" This is a group of skinheads that were anti racism. They spent most of thier free time protecting minorites from racist skinheads. In fact for fun and recreation, they had a hobby of stomping nazi skinheads. And based on my experiences, all of these hate groups are a bunch of pussies. In mass, they are strong and will jump anyone that disagreese with their philosophies. In a one on one setting, they run away crying like a little school girl.
Interesting point.
Lillys dad said:
I am beginning to form the same opinion of the anti ci deaf sepratists that look down on me and mine because I am doing what I feel is right for my daughter. Not thier daughter, just mine.
Well, you may feel what's right for daughter was the cochlear implant, that decision is not very well liked by Deaf people because many people in the Deaf culture (myself included) are against the CI in children. I will just agree to disagree, I guess.
Lillys dad said:
I realize that this is a bit harsh, and I apoligize for the roughlanguage but this is the conclusion that I have reached based only on my observations. If ya dont like it.......too bad.
Responses??????
Well, this is my opinion on your post.