Reading this made my eyes teary.DoofusMama said:Sure Cloggy (the pita) hehe..
clarfiy this feelings.. sir..
My mom was not accepting my hearing loss when i was 18 months old, after I had my DTP vaccines (shots) and had fever.. I lost my hearings pretty much 40% loss.. I was like "hard of hearing" I still can hear alot of things with hearing aids, even I can talk on phone..
My mother tried as much she can to took me places like healings.. we went to many different events where PTL club, 700 Club, Jimmy Stwart.. she took me up on stage and asking God to give my hearing back.. went to chircaptor, hoping to get my hearing back.. took some medications..
till i was almost 15 years old.. I had this accpunture treatment.. I went through painful 3 months.. 3 times a week.. I start to notice that my hearing aids volume was turning little higher and higher.. the more i cant hear and it made my speech better that makes mom think it WORKED!!.. I tried to explain her that its NOT working.. showed her hearing aids that it set to 8-9 (before 3).. she dont believe me at all.. so I start to run away from home, she kept pulling me back in the treatment with physical abuse like drag me, pull my hair and dragged me in.. Till the accpunture dr said, it didnt work.. took me to hearing tests.. It showed proven that I lost 20% more.. my mother threw her best fits that I was b.s'ing her.. She found out about CI.. She told me about it.. (at 15 1/2 years old).. I told her.. Please accept my deafness and I am exhausted to go many places.. I am happy who i am.. She refused to accept that, she threw her fits that I MUST take this CI.. couple months later, she tricked me to go in hospital.. she said "we are going in for hearing test to get you new hearing aids".. we went in early morning.. I saw doctors, nurses with white gowns and mask.. I was like.. uh? mom said.. oh its new place for hearing test.... she acted so strange.. my guts said its not good.. Nurse came and asked me to change clothes into gown and get IV ready.. I said stop.. what i am here for.. she said.. you dont know? I said I am here for hearing test.. nurse noticed mom walking around nervously.. nurse called dr in, Dr explained that I am getting surgery for CI.. I jumped and ran away.. I never came home.. till my dad found me a new home with his best friend living in ranch, stayed there for 2 years to my graduations..
Now days, she still denied what she did to me.. and still bugged me to getting CI.. :/ and thinking that deaf cultures are dangerous and bad people.. :/
Look at me.. I have house.. 6 kids.. and wonderful man.. and wonderful friends.. (sigh)..
So, my point is.. discuss with children who are old enough about getting CI.. than forcing to get one or make your life miserable..
DoofusMama, I am so sorry about what you went through when you were growing up. I feel like wanting to give you a hug
Lillys_Dad, I am so sorry about the cold shoulder that some people had given to you at the expo but I do applaud you for wanting to expose your daughter to the deaf culture. DoofusMama's post is one of the reasons why some deaf people are not comfortable around hearing people who decide to implant their deaf children with CIs.
I really don't mind being friends with deaf people who have CIs as long as they don't push the deaf culture or me away. I am not for implanting babies and toddlers with CIs because I am concerned about how they would feel about it when they get older. I think it should be the individual to make the decision on whether to have a CI implanted in her or him, not the parents. I hope you don't hate me for saying this but it is just my honest opinion.