2 deaf kids --- ci's???

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Since SL is a visual language, and since the born deaf or H-o-H child has natural predisposition to use signs and gestures and other instinctive ways to recompensate for lack of a hearing sense,
the SL will be picked up with no troubles at any time later on. This can not be said of achievieng optimal hearing and speaking abilities - for his type of communication and oral langauge development, time is extremely valuable, and fleeting.

Fuzzy

No trouble picking up sign later on? I'm rather skeptical of that one. As ASL and other Sign Languages are not the same as English, I sign with a rather strong English "accent" for want of a better word. I don't mean British English either. I don't sign like a native; I'd rather have someone learn sign early and ditto for English. I've gotten a lot of flack for not signing like a native ASLer from some deaf in the Deaf culture. Most Deaf and those who know sign well can tell that I am not a native user of ASL when I sign. I wish I could sign like a native user of ASL.
 
Ya know people can still use the sign language just to use it for fun even if they aren't deaf or hard of hearing and don't need to use it, and learning any language is a good skill to have... I'll still teach those who think sign language is universal to understand that every language is unique so as sign language...The students in my children's classroom are not deaf but they are still taught sign language because in their lifetime, they will meet deaf people, and it would be soo nice to be able to communicate with them in their language and when deaf people come across someone who is willing to sign, they get so excited, It's just... a wonderful feelings....inside really...:smiling:


There are many reasons why sign language is valuable..



Sign Language - Nonverbal Users


Isn't that awesome?....:D


Thank you for share your wonderful description and link here. Most hearing people find sign language beautiful and like to learn it...

Example at Fitness Studio, some members stared us sign and questioned my son how do he learn sign... My son replied :dunno: - he look at us and sign automatic... They were like wow and asked us to teach them how to sign good morning to good night, good day, bye, hallo, eat, drink, execrise... just pick simple word like that... They signed to me... :D
 
Fuzzy, just for the record, there's no such animal as ASL English.
 
oops, forgot about something :) :

Fuzzy "I like sun".
Cheri, Angel, Maria, Liebling, : "Oh you don't like moon".
Fuzzy: "No that's not what I said".
C,A,M, L: "yes you did. You never said anything positive about moon only sun, that means you don't like moon".
Cheri": "Fuzzy said in other thread she doesn't like moon, only sun".
Jillio: " You know what "sun" stands for, fuzzy? it's an acronym for "stupid, ugly, nincompoop".

Sadly, this is how the conversation here looks like most of the time.

First of all, ASL is NOT English, it is ASL. ASL is not a written language, it is a manual language. It has no standardized written form.
My point exactly. ASL users mix different grammar and syntax from ASL and mix it with written or spoken English. The more immersed in ASL, the more grammar and syntax of ASL in the way they write. Example - Smithr who wrote about his CI removal.
The more oral and immersed in hearing world also - the better grammar and syntax in written English. Example - Cheri.
Maria, Liebling, Angel- are in between.


If we're going to correct grammar errors, here, the bolded word should be "has" not "have".
True. English IS my SECOND language, self-taught. I am aware I too make quite often grammar mistakes. of course there is an explanation for it - I tend to use grammar from my native language. Nevertheless, my English grammar is closer to official English grammar than of those who mainly communicate via ASL.

Perhaps it is time for you to take care of your own problems with correct grammar before you deign to criticize another's grammar.
Oh, but I didn't CRITICIZE nobody's English.
It is very normal, understandable and expected even that a deaf person, who grew up signing use different syntax and grammar when writing or speaking.
This is nothing to be ashamed of, or improper about that. I just pointed this out as a factor -THE factor - that complicates communciation between those who grew up "hearing" and those who grew up "signing".
This is absolutely normal, common, understandable thing that simply exist.


Is this what you do? harshly judge others?
First of all I didn't judge no one - I pointed out the differences in how we communicate - you grew up in oral enviroment, and later learned to sign. this is why you write the way you write. I grew up in hearing enviroment, never signed, but in a foreign country - and this is why I write the way I do.
and that complicates our communication, there is no judgement in it - just stating a fact.

Why would I care about one person over many other people who thinks different as you.
Not maybe "care", but at least pay attention. maybe that other person wants to tell you something important?

For instance, I asked my family if I can write in good English,
When and where did I say "BAD English"??? I said ASL English, written English, different English etc. How does that makes it "bad"?


They said of course I do, I even told them what you said about my grammar, and they said whoever thinks otherwise is an idiot.
This is your family. of course they are going to reassure you, and that's how it should be.
besides, I never said your English is "BAD". I said I can tell the way you write you are deaf, or signing. That does not make it "bad" English. In fact I would say your English is better than Angel, Maria, Liebling.
And why I said all that - to make you realise that it looks like you often do not understand what I wrote. And because you don't understand it, you don't know what am I saying. or not saying. and accuse me of things I didn't do.


When someone writes in ASL, they use brief explanation, like "I go store"
If I had time, I would happily search for my prolonged discussion with Deafdyke and others but mainly Deafdyke in 2005 about ASL language and English in general. But I don't. So, please just be assured that I know what ASL is.

Let's see here.........one person makes posts. Six people read those posts, and all six understand them the same way. What is the common variable? The one person making the posts
The variable is - the six people, except maybe one, YOU - have the same written English COMPREHENSION.
that's what the variable is, jill. no wonder they all don't get the point alike.
if you add the consensual reassuring patts on the back instead of listening to what I have to say - the communication disaster continues. sadly.

And you jillio would actually do them better service if you told them the truth.
your are not being quite truthful with your friends.

First of all, ASL is NOT English, it is ASL
Oh? and how do they hand spell a cat? Le Chat? El gato?
I am well aware what ASL is.

Why is it sooo important to you about who understands ASL English, not written English ?
because, sadly, half of my posts are either completely misinterpreted or partially misunderstood. by you as well.
don't you think that good understanding of each other is important?

You are no matched with doctor or lawyer or psychologist or psychiatrist's written skills or grammer.
you might be surpised, but they don't always have perfect grammar or spelling, either :)

I'm still trying to figure out how a parent who has a deaf kid, but has never, ever learned to sign is supportive of sign language
by your logic - if children are important to me and I support them, I should pop one out every nine months, then. otherwise I am not really supportive, am I, hmm?


I have never denied the implant to my son.
Of course you did, once - the moment you decided against early implanation - the MOST SUCCESSFUL implantation.

No trouble picking up sign later on? I'm rather skeptical of that one.
I believe it's definitely easier to learn gesturing for a late deafened than to learn to hear and speak for the born deaf.


Fuzzy
 
Angel, I am not being mean - but you must accept the fact that I, like Cloggy and Rick and Neecy and some other people - I, WE use WRITTEN English.
By more than half of your responses, also Maria's, Cheri's and most of all - Liebling's - it's obvious, CLEAR, you people MISS most of the point of my posts completely, no offense- but how CAN you when you don't understand?

This way you create your own ASSUMED opinion of what I've said, and accuse me of things I never did, said, or coneveyed.

Your written English? :hmm: You misspelled your English written in some of your posts, Mrs. Know-it-all.

You claimed that we misunderstand your post but what about Jillio and some posters? We have the same view on your posts... *shrug*

Sorry, your post make no sense.


Explain to me what sign language have to do with raising a HAPPY child?
In your opinion then, Lotte is UNHAPPY? because she STOPPED signing for NOW?

Your post make no sense... You accused us to see your post different...

Have a good look on your own post...


Fuzzy "I like sun".
Cheri, Angel, Maria, Liebling, : "Oh you don't like moon".
Fuzzy: "No that's not what I said".
C,A,M, L: "yes you did. You never said anything positive about moon only sun, that means you don't like moon".
Cheri": "Fuzzy said in other thread she doesn't like moon, only sun".

Look yourself what you said this...

[QUOTE].....Sign language have to do with raising a HAPPY child?
In your opinion then, Lotte is UNHAPPY? because she STOPPED signing for NOW


If you said that you like sun, that´s fine with us because we know it´s your preference but you tried to compare Lotto and sign language with sun and moon is a misinterpretation. The problem is you interpreted our post in the wrong over Lotto and Sign language. I don´t bother to repeat and repeat because you don´t want to understand.


Exactly, WHY DOES NOW? At the moment, Lotte is interested in HEARING.
That does not mean she won't go back to signing sometime later.
I understand your concern Angel about her not being immersed in deaf enviroment. Keep in ind though, Lotte WAS, right now she needs to practice hearing and speaking. Lotte is -what - FIVE years old now? for god's sake, this little kid have plenty of time to go back to signing, NO TIME to learn to hear and speak!



No, the hearing or deaf children should not depend to train to hear the sounds and speaking only... sign language should be including.

I disagree that you think it´s too early for 5 years old to sign...

I signed my children when they were babies... They started to develop their sign languages when they were 8 and 10 months old. Of coursé it´s same with deaf children with HA or CI as well. It´s cute to see babies/toddlers sign languages. It develops quick and easy...


Ok, but may I point out saying "I'm speechless" doesn't have antyhing to do with topic either?? - what is Cheri really doing she is putting Rock's reply down -off topic!, and unneccessary remark.

:confused: Here is my interpretation post for you... Cheri is total surprised over Rick´s comment for support sign language.

And Liebling? Liebling lately seem to be interested in ONE thing only - to pick and pick and pick and pick on me, nothing else. Just look at her posts to me.

Pick on you? *scratch on my head* I only remind or correct your post with NO insult/attack/bash because I remember your posts in some threads. What you think is your problem, not mine.
 
Fuzzy, just for the record, there's no such animal as ASL English.

maybe technically not, but we have to describe undescribable at one point, don't we. feel free to describe the way how, for example Smithr writes. what English is that? I'll be happy to follow.

Fuzzy
 
:Sigh:


I willing to take the blame for this mess, so therefore I decide not to post in these CI threads anymore and this is going to be my final post, this has became too diffcult for me to handle and we will always be the ones look like "bad" guys here and it seem like no one wants to listen to us anymore, so it just not worth it ... :(


Cduskey -- Please accept my apologize, I wish you and your family all the best!! :walk away quietly:

I had no idea who started it first and to be honest, my eyes start to glaze over a bit with threads that go a bit out of control and go on about people's parenting and the need to take one's medicine and as a result, I do a fair bit of post skipping.

Anyway, for all I know Cduskey might be on the edge of her seat with rapt attention so I better not become a de facto moderator and to be honest my post has already proven to be a waste of time.

The first lot of posts from both "sides" (do we really have to be on "sides?") who responded to her were great though.

Maybe after a break you might feel ready to post again? :)
 
Yep. I am sure I had a quite a part in derailing as well, my apologies.
here's my two cents;
as a person who was able to hear relatively well with HAs for most of my life, I definitely appreciate the ability to hear and speak.
No matter what direction is taken - deaf culture or "hearing culture" - to hear and speak is good.

So, if I was a mother of one, or two or three or x number of kids- I would defnitely go for both for all hearing impaired kids - the CI and sign language.
One does not exclude the other, but being fluent on both is most beneficial.




Fuzzy
 
Fuzzy,

Soon or later, I wouldn't be surprised that you will be banned by one of the moderators.
 
Oh, and I meant to ask - if I may- since you mentioned that the hearing loss is most likely genetic- do you or your husband have or had anyone in a family, including some generations back - who have/had hearing loss, or some neurological diseases/disorders. like Meniere's?

Fuzzy
 
And we don't??!! I supposed we were writing in Spanish. :giggle: that included Jillio also since she agrees with us. Hummm....
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Hi Cheri to be honest when speaking with a co worker who's first language is Spanish, she does slide into the spanish what of saying things when speaking in english. She does like to have it pointed out when she does so, it's her way of not wanting to sound like she doesn't know english that well. I can also say the Bosnians, russians etc all occasionally do the same.

So those of you who use ASL alot do sometimes slip into that type of english when writing. It is understandable but soemtimes confusing. When someone asks you a question it just might be that they really are not getting what you are trying to say. So to can those of you who use ASL mistake what those of us who use speech as a primary language are actully saying.

While those of you who use ASL as your primary language may understand Cloggy, Fuzzy, Neecy, Rick, and myself to be saying things in one way, why is it we read it completely differently. English is in and of itself a pretty hard language to master. You all do very good at expressing yourselves, but somewhere there seems to be a disconnect between what we are expressing and what you all are understanding (including Jillio) Perhaps is has to do with the many different meanings words have and how we interpet them differently. With my very limited knowledge of languages my guess is it is the only one that doesn't say the sentences backwards. :) There might be others but I really think most say it backwards from my point of view.

Back on topic I do hope this family can come together to do what is best for their kids and the family as a whole. It isn't our decision to make. And I do hope they come to a mutual decision over the next few months as more information on the hearing loss of their new born is learned.
 
Havent been here on AD much this week so my eyes popped out at this thread. :eek3:


Anyways, to Cduskey..I am glad that you are learning sign language and pls dont stop. As for whether to implant your daughter or not, that is a decision for you and your husband to make. Maybe your husband saw something with the implant that he didnt like? Or it could be he feels very protective of your daughter since she is so little and doesnt want to think about implanting her?

Pls do stay here and keep us posted.

:welcome: to AD! Congrats on your new bundle of joy! :)
 
Can you please use "end-quotes" and "starting quotes" in posts, because they become difficult to read...
s is why I, and I feel also Rick, Audiofuzzy, Neecy and other, can say something like that, but still believe sign is valuable.

Signlanguage is so "sacret" here, that any statement that can be interpreted in a negative way will be used to slap the posted on the ears.... Starting an avalanche of misinterpretation.

If it is considered to be a valuable tool, then one also includes it. Once only ceases to include the use of sign with a deaf child, when one decides it is no longer valuable. Perhaps you don't see the circular track your reasoning takes. Nor, obviously, do you see the ironly of a poster who has never used sign, never learned sign, and still does not know sign, nor use it with his own CI implanted daughter at this point in time, or any point in time, suddenly advocating for the use of sign. Particularly in light of the fact that he made a direct statement reagrding those who raised their children with the use of sign as taking "the easy way out".
CIrcular... hardly, but ah well, you love those kind of remarks. Anything to put someone down.

Irony: No, there's no irony. CHinese can be very valuable.... but I have no use for it.... So, when a parent has no need for it, it's absolutely reasonable to state it can be valuable, but not use by himself.
 
I am just curious as to why your husband was ok with implanting one of your children but has reservations about the other? Did something happen with your first child that caused this?
 
Why int he world would I want to go somewhere that supports such narrow minded views as oralsim? I deal with the effects of it on a daily basis....the teenagers who are miserable because they have never been permitted accessto sign or dea culture, the students who are delayed because their parents believed that denying them sign would help their oral langauge development, the young adults who have succeeded, but are still miserable because they never felt a connection to their hearing parents because the parents refused tolearn sign, the young adults that rarely visit their parents because their parents refuse tosign and their children feel estranged from them, and on and on and on. I get my fill of that. ................
So glad you're not biased after meeting those children.. and keeping such an objective and open mind....
 
We understand both ASL English and written English. Do you have any idea how ASL English is written? I believe not because you never sign in your whole life.

When someone writes in ASL, they use brief explanation, like "I go store" Have you seen any of us write like this? No!!

Exactly...

I do not see anything that we use ASL written to make our posts here... Honestly, I really has no idea why Fuzzy see our posts different. :dunno2:

Example:

She interpreted our posts as bullies, offend, etc when we tried to postive our posts toward posters in respectful way...

Opposite:

We interpreted her posts as disrespectful and offense when she label us as liar, manpiative, etc but she see her own post as respectful and opinion...

Is it that´s way of English written? :dunno2:
 
Shame on you, Cheri! You should have told me I wasn't writing in English!:giggle:

Let's see here.........one person makes posts. Six people read those posts, and all six understand them the same way. What is the common variable? The one person making the posts. Looks to me like the problem is not in the six people's understanding, but in the one person's posts! The problem is not with the receptive end of language use, but with the expressive end. Go figure!

Exactly!!!
 
Hi Cheri to be honest when speaking with a co worker who's first language is Spanish, she does slide into the spanish what of saying things when speaking in english. She does like to have it pointed out when she does so, it's her way of not wanting to sound like she doesn't know english that well. I can also say the Bosnians, russians etc all occasionally do the same.

So those of you who use ASL alot do sometimes slip into that type of english when writing. It is understandable but soemtimes confusing. When someone asks you a question it just might be that they really are not getting what you are trying to say. So to can those of you who use ASL mistake what those of us who use speech as a primary language are actully saying.

While those of you who use ASL as your primary language may understand Cloggy, Fuzzy, Neecy, Rick, and myself to be saying things in one way, why is it we read it completely differently.

I learned signs in my late adulthood years, and ASL was not even my primary language.
 
My point exactly. ASL users mix different grammar and syntax from ASL and mix it with written or spoken English. The more immersed in ASL, the more grammar and syntax of ASL in the way they write. Example - Smithr who wrote about his CI removal.
The more oral and immersed in hearing world also - the better grammar and syntax in written English. Example - Cheri.
Maria, Liebling, Angel- are in between.

Oh, but I didn't CRITICIZE nobody's English.

First of all I didn't judge no one

and that complicates our communication, there is no judgement in it - just stating a fact.

When and where did I say "BAD English"??? I said ASL English, written English, different English etc. How does that makes it "bad"?

I never said your English is "BAD". I said I can tell the way you write you are deaf, or signing. That does not make it "bad" English. In fact I would say your English is better than Angel, Maria, Liebling.

And why I said all that - to make you realise that it looks like you often do not understand what I wrote. And because you don't understand it, you don't know what am I saying. or not saying. and accuse me of things I didn't do.

You denied about your criticize or judge toward our English written grammar but I see your post that you do... Example of all, you pick on our grammar and criticize Angel´s misspelling post at several weeks ago... You mocked my written grammar.... no judgement/criticize? :dunno2: I know you will say that it´s no judgement/criticize but fact statement...
 
Please accept my apology for mess your good thread, and wish you & your family best of good luck, Cduskey
 
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