Why I Think Losing Hearing later in life is the worst

Lissa said:
Of course we know what we're missing, we see it on a daily basis. I am not 100% comfortable being deaf but there's nothing you can do, plus a CI is not a cure so life as a deaf person is not all perfect
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That is separate from "wanting to hear at all costs". It is people that make us uncomfortable not our deafness.
 
Buffalo said:
That is separate from "wanting to hear at all costs". It is people that make us uncomfortable not our deafness.
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You can speak for yourself. I took care of people that lost their hearing and they had a very hard time adjusting to it. We need to keep an open mind about this. Every person react in their own way about their hearing lost and it's not a right or wrong way.
 
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I'm in the LD category, and I've adjusted well. The hard part was the emotional adjustment of accepting my hearing loss and my new reality. I struggled with it for a while. Once I accepted it, it didn't matter how other people reacted. If a person will not accept me as I am, it would be unhealthy to be in a relationship with her or him. Better to know who your real friends are. The change comes from inside you. Then, you can adjust the effort you expend on each relationship accordingly.
 
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True. You also never know how strong you are until you find youself in a challenging situation.
 
Babyblue said:
Never know what you are missing until you lose it.
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I was born HOH and boy do I know I missed a lot while going to school.
I was 20 years old when I finish high school ,most kids are 17 years old. I was very embarrassed about being 20 years in high school .
 
sallylou said:
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True. You also never know how strong you are until you find youself in a challenging situation.
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Yeah I shocked the shit of myself when I was in my principal's office in high school and told to get out school as I was wasting tax payers money. I hated school and but said "NO, I will not ."
 
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There's no shame in that. Did you family push you too hard? Because we all learn at different rates and maturity plays a part in developing study skills. Sometimes when parents put too much pressure on a teen, they get anxiety and lose their confidence.
 
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What an *hole. Good for you standing up to him.
 
Lissa said:
Of course we know what we're missing, we see it on a daily basis. I am not 100% comfortable being deaf but there's nothing you can do, plus a CI is not a cure so life as a deaf person is not all perfect
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I think Stevie Wonder did not realize he was blind as child until he kept stepping in dog poop.
Yeah, I know I was missing something when people kept hitting me with their shopping carts. That is why I got Finlay.
 
Oceanbreeze said:
I would tend to agree with this. I also have a unique perspective, in that, I've already have a deficit to start with. Being born paralyzed, I've never known what it's like to walk, so if I lost my hearing, I'm not sure I'd react. I'd adjust, but still think I'd miss what I didn't have.

Ultimately, though, being deaf is NOT the worst thing that can happen to someone; even late deafness. It's all about perspective, I think. Each person WILL have a grieving process and a sense of "What the heck do I do NOW?" But, if that person was ME, I'd figure out what I needed to do and I'd do it.

You can look at a situation either being half empty or half full.
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Too easy for you to say when you haven't experienced it. I wouldn't ever say on a forum about paralysis that I could imagine what it's like to be paralyzed and "figure out what to do and deal with it".
 
i dunno if id agree....social death in later life is worse than social death right from the start, on top of that you're not allow to learn sign and be expected to make any choices of how you want to make a living... whereas in 'later stage of life' you have HAD oppurtunity to CHOOSE because discrimination never existed before..
 
The point is that you can't really quantify human pain. Each person's emotional reaction is different and each person adjusts differently. I think that the important thing is to empathize with each other. To understand how the person feels (to some degree) and to validate their feelings.
 
Amen Miss Sallylou!! Thats what all of life's situations are about.
Be Excellent to each other.
 
sallylou said:
The point is that you can't really quantify human pain. Each person's emotional reaction is different and each person adjusts differently. I think that the important thing is to empathize with each other. To understand how the person feels (to some degree) and to validate their feelings.
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Good perspective. Feelings are not relative. To estimate others' feelings, or human pain, or how others would handle issues and scenarios isn't necessary; showing empathy -- which is a natural part of life (or should be, anyway, IMO) is what's important.
 
AlleyCat said:
Too easy for you to say when you haven't experienced it. I wouldn't ever say on a forum about paralysis that I could imagine what it's like to be paralyzed and "figure out what to do and deal with it".
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But, that is what has to happen when one loses a sense they have. You've always been deaf, but someone who is late deafened has had hearing up to a point in their life. At the point they've lost their hearing, they have to figure out how to live life as a late deafened individual. How they do that is up to them, but it HAS to happen. There IS an adjustment period. It's the same for someone who has walked their entire life, and then for some reason, they lose that ability. There is an adjustment period.

I think a person would be deluded in thinking that a transition would not occur.
 
When someone loses their hearing, it may be the worst thing that has happened in her life. From that person's perspective it may be the worst possible thing that could happen to her. You can't minimize the loss and feelings about it. That would be cruel.

I don't believe that going deaf is the worst thing that could happen to me, and it's not the worst thing that has happened to me in my life. That's me, though. I understand that someone else may feel differently. Empathy and compassion go a long way. The world is hungry for them.
 
sallylou said:
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There's no shame in that. Did you family push you too hard? Because we all learn at different rates and maturity plays a part in developing study skills. Sometimes when parents put too much pressure on a teen, they get anxiety and lose their confidence.
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My dad and mother did not push me too hard , dad thought I was a jackass.
He use to say to people "a guy had a jackass and he send it all over the word
and it still came home a jackass, that is my daughter ____..meaning me!
And to think I was the one that got my dad a marker for being a WW1 vet.
 
Oceanbreeze said:
I would tend to agree with this. I also have a unique perspective, in that, I've already have a deficit to start with. Being born paralyzed, I've never known what it's like to walk, so if I lost my hearing, I'm not sure I'd react. I'd adjust, but still think I'd miss what I didn't have.

Ultimately, though, being deaf is NOT the worst thing that can happen to someone; even late deafness. It's all about perspective, I think. Each person WILL have a grieving process and a sense of "What the heck do I do NOW?" But, if that person was ME, I'd figure out what I needed to do and I'd do it.

You can look at a situation either being half empty or half full.
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You are way out of line saying " being deaf is NOT the worst thing that can happen to someone" There is no way you can speak for all the people that are deaf. I had a very dear friend that was piano concert player. She became very sick and got tinnitus and lost some hearing and was no longer able to play the piano or give lessons. She never adjusted to losing her hearing. You have no idea how other people feel .
 
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