Why gossip? I mean......

jillio said:
Kind of like: So and so did such and such and this terrible thing happened. If you act like so and so, terrible things will happen to you, too! Beware! Never, ever act like so and so.
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So in other words, you're saying it's a double standard?
 
jillio said:
Kind of like: So and so did such and such and this terrible thing happened. If you act like so and so, terrible things will happen to you, too! Beware! Never, ever act like so and so.
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If the comment was neutral and didn't point at anyone in particular, then it's not really gossip... but more of a moral story or reminder.

I do have some friends who have serious drinking problems. I don't talk about them out of the blue with the purpose of making them look bad.

If I was talking to other people who know my friends and wanted to make it intentional, then I would say something like... "Hey, did you know that Bob got drunk and passed out in the bathroom at my apartment? He puked and flooded the floor with his puke. Jeez!" Now, I used his name and we weren't talking about drinking problems or anything similar. I just brought it up myself out of the blue so that the person I was talking to could think bad about that person. Now, that would be gossip.

If I was talking with a group of people about the dangers of drinking or they were talking about their drinking history, I could bring it up from a neutral point of view. "I had a friend in college who had a serious drinking problem. It led to passing out in the bathroom many times as well as puking and making a mess everywhere. It's surprising he's still alive." Why did I say this? It was either to point out the dangers of drinking or to point out that I'm familiar with the dangers of drinking. Kinda like sharing experiences.
 
Jolie_77 said:
So in other words, you're saying it's a double standard?
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Umm....not really a double standard. More like a way to illustrate acceptable social standards. Like, I'm going to tell you this bad gossip about this person, and the moral of the story is, don't act like that person because its bad
 
VamPyroX said:
If the comment was neutral and didn't point at anyone in particular, then it's not really gossip... but more of a moral story or reminder.

I do have some friends who have serious drinking problems. I don't talk about them out of the blue with the purpose of making them look bad.

If I was talking to other people who know my friends and wanted to make it intentional, then I would say something like... "Hey, did you know that Bob got drunk and passed out in the bathroom at my apartment? He puked and flooded the floor with his puke. Jeez!" Now, I used his name and we weren't talking about drinking problems or anything similar. I just brought it up myself out of the blue so that the person I was talking to could think bad about that person. Now, that would be gossip.

If I was talking with a group of people about the dangers of drinking or they were talking about their drinking history, I could bring it up from a neutral point of view. "I had a friend in college who had a serious drinking problem. It led to passing out in the bathroom many times as well as puking and making a mess everywhere. It's surprising he's still alive." Why did I say this? It was either to point out the dangers of drinking or to point out that I'm familiar with the dangers of drinking. Kinda like sharing experiences.
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Right. It only becomes gossip when names are used.
 
jillio said:
Umm....not really a double standard. More like a way to illustrate acceptable social standards. Like, I'm going to tell you this bad gossip about this person, and the moral of the story is, don't act like that person because its bad
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Ah, gotcha.
 
Wokamuka said:
If you can't speak about the person in the person's presence, it reflects upon your character.

Just the same, I find myself much more interesting to talk about. Talking about others means they're more interesting!
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However, if one talks about themselves constantly then people will think the person is very self-centered or egostical?
 
It's a social tendency some people have. It is a form of bonding, and competition. You tell someone something about someone else, to be more 'in' with that person, and possibly to have the other person be more 'out'. That is what I think goes on.

I don't think it is a healthy practice, in most cases. Whether it is a 'sin' or not, is not relevant to everyone, depending on their personal beliefs.
 
Wokamuka said:
Very good.

Gossip is, usually, never told without names, is it?
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Yeah... that's how it usually is. There will be times when names are not used, but it's kinda obvious.

If I've only had one roommate and everyone knows who my roommate is, then by simply saying that it was my roommate would be an indirect way of naming someone.
 
jenni-m said:
It's a social tendency some people have. It is a form of bonding, and competition. You tell someone something about someone else, to be more 'in' with that person, and possibly to have the other person be more 'out'. That is what I think goes on.

I don't think it is a healthy practice, in most cases. Whether it is a 'sin' or not, is not relevant to everyone, depending on their personal beliefs.
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Yeah, sad thing. :(

Some people are considered "cool" if they know some gossip. :roll:
 
Silenthand said:
jerry jerry jerry jerry jerry jerry jerry ;)
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Jerry Springer show?? :ugh3: i hate that stupid show,
they are nothing but a bunch of hillbillies that have
no life...lol! I cannot stand to watch that show, its
just unreal to watch these imbeciles acting so stupid.
I dont understand why somebody intelligent like Jerry
would put up a show like that..but i guess cuz its a money
maker for him...geeeez.
 
PePe LePew said:
There are a Bad Gossip and a Good Gossip.

1. Bad Gossip is to talk bad or negative about someone.

2. Good Gossip is to talk nice or positive about someone.

Bad gossip is saying cruel things about someone.

Good gossip is saying beautiful things about someone.

There are 2 different way of Good and Bad Gossip.

It's okay to talk about someone being in the hospital or someone having a baby or someone is getting married, but it's not okay to says hateful or spiteful about someone which is a bad gossip.

Gossip is not a sins, unless you says something bad about someone is a sins, but no it's not okay to gossip bad things about people.

To talk bad about people is a WASTE OF TIME, truly that people that talks bad about others had nothing better to do.
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I gotta disagree with you on this... Gossip is a sin! There is no way around it, it is a sin. There is a difference, Talking about someone having a baby, or in the hospital to pray for them is not gossip, its a joy to talk about their strengths. The sin comes in when you start gossiping about how bad they have done, and putting people down. Talking about people behind their backs in a bad way is gossip and sin. You should never put down people or talk bad about people. We have all done it, gossip is so easy to slip from the tongue. Unless we ask God to forgive us for sinning and he will because he love us no matter who we are. :)
 
ooh, i love a good spot of gossip!


*makes up shit about someone i know and spreads it around like an STD*

YAAAAY!!!!
 
I agree with you to Defee. Bunch of nut at Jerry Springer. I am sure those some of sicko stories.
 
Silenthand said:
I agree with you to Defee. Bunch of nut at Jerry Springer. I am sure those some of sicko stories.
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Yeah, you bet! i havent watched that show in a long time but
the last time i watched it, it was so bad, it made me want
to gaaag!
 
Gossip at everywhere is a natural thing like at workplace, school, media, or community etc.

I often keep quiet myself when I heard the rumor until official at workplace... also school, friends... I asked them either the rumor is true or not... and want to hear their reply...

It's natural thing to listen the negative and positive gossips everywhere sometimes like what Ozzie mentioned about Ted Kennedy, Paris Hilton, etc... It's us who judge ourselves either we want to beleive or not.

My co-worker often tell me what office gossip says... It's natural for us to listen each other... something like that.. wow... what... really?.... :dunno2:

We all are human being... *shrug*


 
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