Why gossip? I mean......

People who gossip have wayyyy too much time on their hands. *Rolling eyes*
 
Both hearing and deaf world gossips all the time. For some reasons people gossips is to get attention, or looking for trouble to make up false stories to stab someone in the back or they gossip because they feel bored. It kind of pathetic, isn't it? But everybody gossips. Advice, don't let gossip make you feel lousy or rotten. Just move on let them talk. Do they have the proof or all the fact is the gossip is true or not? tsk to some people they need to get their fact striaght before they spread the false stories.
 
VamPyroX said:
I rather stick with rumors than gossip.

The problem that a lot of people have is that they turn rumors into gossip, which ends up harming others.
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I have to say I agree with you. Either way rumors and gossips can still hurt person for all the wrong reason in the wrong way can cost the friendship to mess up. :)
 
MeYag2CAL said:
It's just a question about this topic.

Well, I've met some Ddeaf/Hhoh
who says, "Ddeaf/Hhoh world easy gossip" because of small world?.

Some bad gossip some good gossip. bad habit gossip?
Is it okay to gossip bad things about people?

I don't mean to offend anyone who see this.

Why gossip?.
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You know,,,, when people say the Deaf gossip a lot ...I tel them ..OMG I am Hispanic and they seem to be the biggest gossipers!!......so it's in every culture...it may seem you experience it more because you are around the same Deaf community ..but maybe you need to branch out and make new good friends? We all experience gossipers in our lifetime. Just be careful who you say things to and don't let small things bother you.
 
GarnetTigerMom said:
I have to say I agree with you. Either way rumors and gossips can still hurt person for all the wrong reason in the wrong way can cost the friendship to mess up. :)
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I see rumors as a way to confirm what I've heard. I see gossip as a way of passing on something that is intended to be shown as a fact.

Rumor: "I heard that he got fired." (Emphasize on 'I heard' because you don't know if it's true. You're just asking a question in a statement form.)

Gossip: "Did you know he got fired?" (Emphasize on "did you know" because that's like saying you know it's true and want other people to know that you know something they don't know.)

The problem that I've seen is that people turn rumors into gossip. Suppose I heard that a guy was fired. I don't know if it's true, but I don't care. So, I pass it on as a gossip... "Hey, did you know he was fired?" Now, I've possibly harmed that person's reputation. I've stated something as a fact when I don't really know if it's true.

That's why I usually keep rumors with my close friends because they know the difference between rumors and gossip... and know not to go passing it around as gossip. The rumors are something I like to check with my friends so I can determine if it's true. :)
 
VamPyroX said:
I see rumors as a way to confirm what I've heard. I see gossip as a way of passing on something that is intended to be shown as a fact.

Rumor: "I heard that he got fired." (Emphasize on 'I heard' because you don't know if it's true. You're just asking a question in a statement form.)

Gossip: "Did you know he got fired?" (Emphasize on "did you know" because that's like saying you know it's true and want other people to know that you know something they don't know.)

The problem that I've seen is that people turn rumors into gossip. Suppose I heard that a guy was fired. I don't know if it's true, but I don't care. So, I pass it on as a gossip... "Hey, did you know he was fired?" Now, I've possibly harmed that person's reputation. I've stated something as a fact when I don't really know if it's true.

That's why I usually keep rumors with my close friends because they know the difference between rumors and gossip... and know not to go passing it around as gossip. The rumors are something I like to check with my friends so I can determine if it's true. :)
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You are so right!
that is the difference..rumor and gossip.
It is better to check the SOURCE of the rumor like where it came
from..like from the person who got fired..ask that same person, "is
it true you got fired?" not from the person who told you cuz sometimes
they twist the truth.
 
Defee said:
You are so right!
that is the difference..rumor and gossip.
It is better to check the SOURCE of the rumor like where it came
from..like from the person who got fired..ask that same person, "is
it true you got fired?" not from the person who told you cuz sometimes
they twist the truth.
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So true! The most unusual things I've heard is when a rumor is stated, it will never come back the same way, so you very well can have 100 variations of the same unconfirmed TMI floating around.
 
VamPyroX said:
I see rumors as a way to confirm what I've heard. I see gossip as a way of passing on something that is intended to be shown as a fact.

Rumor: "I heard that he got fired." (Emphasize on 'I heard' because you don't know if it's true. You're just asking a question in a statement form.)

Gossip: "Did you know he got fired?" (Emphasize on "did you know" because that's like saying you know it's true and want other people to know that you know something they don't know.)

The problem that I've seen is that people turn rumors into gossip. Suppose I heard that a guy was fired. I don't know if it's true, but I don't care. So, I pass it on as a gossip... "Hey, did you know he was fired?" Now, I've possibly harmed that person's reputation. I've stated something as a fact when I don't really know if it's true.

That's why I usually keep rumors with my close friends because they know the difference between rumors and gossip... and know not to go passing it around as gossip. The rumors are something I like to check with my friends so I can determine if it's true. :)
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I have to agree with you and Defee on this and you both got excellent points how you both view that informations. I agree it's a pretty clear idea what you just explains. You said it well! :) :ty:
 
MeYag2CAL

There are a Bad Gossip and a Good Gossip.

1. Bad Gossip is to talk bad or negative about someone.

2. Good Gossip is to talk nice or positive about someone.

Bad gossip is saying cruel things about someone.

Good gossip is saying beautiful things about someone.

There are 2 different way of Good and Bad Gossip.

It's okay to talk about someone being in the hospital or someone having a baby or someone is getting married, but it's not okay to says hateful or spiteful about someone which is a bad gossip.

Gossip is not a sins, unless you says something bad about someone is a sins, but no it's not okay to gossip bad things about people.

To talk bad about people is a WASTE OF TIME, truly that people that talks bad about others had nothing better to do.




MeYag2CAL said:
It's just a question about this topic.

Well, I've met some Ddeaf/Hhoh
who says, "Ddeaf/Hhoh world easy gossip" because of small world?.

Some bad gossip some good gossip. bad habit gossip?
Is it okay to gossip bad things about people?

I don't mean to offend anyone who see this.

Why gossip?.
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GarnetTigerMom said:
I have to agree with you and Defee on this and you both got excellent points how you both view that informations. I agree it's a pretty clear idea what you just explains. You said it well! :) :ty:
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A couple Psychology professors at RIT wrote a book on the social and psychological aspects of rumors and gossip. (One was a professor of Social Psychology.)
 
VamPyroX said:
A couple Psychology professors at RIT wrote a book on the social and psychological aspects of rumors and gossip. (One was a professor of Social Psychology.)
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Yeppers, its been studied quite a bit in Social Psychology. People use gossip as a way to engage in upward revision, and increase their own status.
 
psst.. I hear jillio is awesome who slap my butt. tee-hee.

oh... hi jillio. *running away*
 
jillio said:
Yeppers, its been studied quite a bit in Social Psychology. People use gossip as a way to engage in upward revision, and increase their own status.
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Yeah. It's very common among those who are usually jealous of themselves and are looking for ways to improve their own images... by making others look worse than they do.

I might be doing bad in school and there's this guy who's doing better than me. So, I start gossiping... "Did you know that he missed class!? Boy, he's gonna fail!" If I can get 100 people to hear and believe that story, they will forget about me being a bad student... *evil cackling* :twisted:
 
Isn't social gossip also a way of re-hashing social standards? Sort of like parables without the spiritual context and it didn't, necessarily, have to be proven?
 
VamPyroX said:
Yeah. It's very common among those who are usually jealous of themselves and are looking for ways to improve their own images... by making others look worse than they do.

I might be doing bad in school and there's this guy who's doing better than me. So, I start gossiping... "Did you know that he missed class!? Boy, he's gonna fail!" If I can get 100 people to hear and believe that story, they will forget about me being a bad student... *evil cackling* :twisted:
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That's it in a nutshell.
 
Wokamuka said:
Isn't social gossip also a way of re-hashing social standards? Sort of like parables without the spiritual context and it didn't, necessarily, have to be proven?
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Hmmmm.....could be, I suppose.
 
If you can't speak about the person in the person's presence, it reflects upon your character.

Just the same, I find myself much more interesting to talk about. Talking about others means they're more interesting!
 
VamPyroX said:
What do you mean?
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Kind of like: So and so did such and such and this terrible thing happened. If you act like so and so, terrible things will happen to you, too! Beware! Never, ever act like so and so.
 
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