Why gossip? I mean......

Lol

Good one Cheri....Laughing so hard, everybody gossip, agree with you, also people that talks bad or negative about people have a small mind.

Cheri said:
And you don't gossip?
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:laugh2::laugh2::laugh2: Does anyone besides me see the complete irony in that last post?

Are people's memories really that short?
 
What is the difference between gossip and good-natured social chit chat?

I mean we're all guilty of gossiping one way or another ... take Ted Kennedy for example or Paris Hilton. We go on and on about trivial stuff or theorize things about them.
 
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I mean good, normal gossip ... if that sounds right.
 
Ozzie said:
I mean good, normal gossip ... if that sounds right.
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I copied this from a dictionary, so both meanings are for gossip, what you say is possible, Ozzie.

Gossip
1 adialect British : godparent b: companion, crony c: a person who habitually reveals personal or sensational facts about others2 a: rumor or report of an intimate nature b: a chatty talk
 
Bottesini said:
I think gossip might be taken to mean malicious.
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That, exactly. I think we're all right. Everybody loves to hear a good juicy story now and then, but I've actually seen some things about the deaf community that I find distasteful. There are those who thrive on being mean, vindictive and hurtful, and why?

I know the Deaf community is small, but why make it your business to know who stabbed who in that back? Is it that imporant? *shrugs*

For the record, I will say this... I've met some wonderful deafies. I really have, and I have some wonderful friends who are deaf, but I've also met a few that I wouldn't want to come across again in this life time, and that's the truth!
 
Oceanbreeze said:
That, exactly. I think we're all right. Everybody loves to hear a good juicy story now and then, but I've actually seen some things about the deaf community that I find distasteful. There are those who thrive on being mean, vindictive and hurtful, and why?

I know the Deaf community is small, but why make it your business to know who stabbed who in that back? Is it that imporant? *shrugs*

For the record, I will say this... I've met some wonderful deafies. I really have, and I have some wonderful friends who are deaf, but I've also met a few that I wouldn't want to come across again in this life time, and that's the truth!
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Agreed. I've also met and made some friends with hearing people who are wonderful as well and also, not so wonderful as well.

You know, Whether we realize it or not, it is in human's nature to thrive on something even if it's a gossip or a rumor. Both aspects can be good and it also can be vindictive.

I think when it comes to deaf community being small, it is more noticeable because we are a minority. It wouldn't matter if the community is small or big. Regardless of the size of the community, it shouldn't come down to a community. It is all about coming down to one person who makes the gossip or rumor. The rest of it spreads like a wildfire.

It's funny how when someone becomes well known in a specific community, that's where more and more gossip appears to be malicious. It all comes down to one who becomes familiar with it's own community by the word of mouth.
 
Like some of ADers saying that gossip is everywhere even in small towns or small Deaf community. It is very easy to go into the gossip when we want to talk about something that we could not think of what to say to make the story true or false. In the Native community we always have storytellers to tell the tale to show the example of animals of what is right or wrong. But people like to gossip because they have nothing to say about good story to tell so they tell the stories behind their back. Yes, it can be mean or good gossip. I used to gossip a lot in the Deaf community and I don't know if there is a wildfire or spread like flies. Like Shel said, Live and Learn which mean we make mistakes about using the gossip too much, I mean way tooooo much. We can not help that because we are just human and we have a lots of flaws in our human body, nobody perfect, heh? :(
 
Ozzie said:
What is the difference between gossip and good-natured social chit chat?

I mean we're all guilty of gossiping one way or another ... take Ted Kennedy for example or Paris Hilton. We go on and on about trivial stuff or theorize things about them.
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gossip is spreading stuffs that may not be true about others. this is malicious. i agree cuz it hurt someone or family in the process.

i would know cuz people around my hometown spread rumors that my family ALL have AIDS but it was not true.. only my dad had hiv??? they got it wrong just cuz they think it is contiagous.. IF only they HAD time to read up the information on what HIV is about. thats why i dislike gossip or jump to conculusions .. i rather someone ASK first before tell others. it really hurt me and my family when it was not true.. :(

as for social chit chat.. it may be harmless. it could be about your niece just graduated and that she is going to college this fall.. my sis is growing veggies and they are beautiful.. thats harmless chats. i dont see nothing wrong with talking about that as it is harmless..

like i said in my previous post that i disliked that people say something hurtful and hurt others without any thoughts at all. Why they didnt ask first before finding out if it is true instead of spreading slighty different stories? sigh.
 
So it seems that we all have different views between gossip and general chat.

I've always thought there were good and bad gossips but this thread has helped me to realize that this is not quite so. Hmmm, interesting.
 
Ozzie said:
I mean we're all guilty of gossiping one way or another ... take Ted Kennedy for example or Paris Hilton. We go on and on about trivial stuff or theorize things about them.
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Exactly. :thumb:
 
PePe LePew said:
Good one Cheri....Laughing so hard, everybody gossip, agree with you
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That's right, everyone does, those who says they do not gossip bad about anyone is in denial or just outright lying. People here gossip about celebrities all of the time, even about other members. I've seen it.
 
MeYag2CAL said:
It's just a question about this topic.

Well, I've met some Ddeaf/Hhoh
who says, "Ddeaf/Hhoh world easy gossip" because of small world?.

Some bad gossip some good gossip. bad habit gossip?
Is it okay to gossip bad things about people?

I don't mean to offend anyone who see this.

Why gossip?.
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Yes true because of small world whether it is deaf/hoh world or hearing world mostly in clubs like example tennis club, dogs club, walking club and whatever clubs where members knows each other. Sometimes there are bad gossip and good gossip. Some gossip get twisted so much, it can gets ugly. Most club have a competition when one person get jealous of another person winning and then spread a nasty gossip around. I remember when I was in a dog club a long time ago, when there is a best of breed competition on, people spreading nasty gossip about a winner who wins a lot on purpose in hope the winner will leave the dog club. I am sure most clubs have that.
In the Deaf world, I was in a very nasty gossip many years ago and it really hurt me badly that I left the deaf world for about 10 yrs or so. When I came back, some Deafies realize the gossip about me is not true at all and they forgave me. Even now I still don't go to the Deaf club much because I am sick of people still gossiping and I steer well away from that. I just have a few friends who knew me well and whom I trust.
 
Koala said:
Yes true because of small world whether it is deaf/hoh world or hearing world mostly in clubs like example tennis club, dogs club, walking club and whatever clubs where members knows each other. Sometimes there are bad gossip and good gossip. Some gossip get twisted so much, it can gets ugly. Most club have a competition when one person get jealous of another person winning and then spread a nasty gossip around. I remember when I was in a dog club a long time ago, when there is a best of breed competition on, people spreading nasty gossip about a winner who wins a lot on purpose in hope the winner will leave the dog club. I am sure most clubs have that.
In the Deaf world, I was in a very nasty gossip many years ago and it really hurt me badly that I left the deaf world for about 10 yrs or so. When I came back, some Deafies realize the gossip about me is not true at all and they forgave me. Even now I still don't go to the Deaf club much because I am sick of people still gossiping and I steer well away from that. I just have a few friends who knew me well and whom I trust.
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How typical
this is a serious problem posing to deaf communities all around the world, some how i suspected it alot to do with a combination of 'tall poppy syndrome' and the "falsified deaf pride" thing which brings out a kind of racist reactions, that is deafism which pushes out , or prevent those late deafen or not already liguistically attired as individuals..or CIers... or mainstreamed individuals deafies seems to think 'just because hearing people do it (like Koala's example of different clubs..... its Hobby-based, but in deaf clubs its different it is Personal-/or/and social based which does far more damage than petty ordinary 'club membership' hobby -associated rumors, while deafs likes to compare with other deafs in relation to how well they do fare in the hearing world....some kind of rationalised jealousy seem to be their motive...

my 2 cents im real tired im mumbling or typmbling right now......
 
dreamchaser said:
what if you only spread good gossip?

Is it possible for insecure people to do that?

I think it is partly a matter of how much you like yourself and what you are doing to better the world.??? If you don't like you, then you won't like goos anyone else,, thus, you will spread malicious gossip... and ya know,, half of the time,, gossip is done in the name of the Lord.... OH GOD<<< BLESS SO AND SO<< BECAUSE THEY ARE CAUGHT UP IN Whatever!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Gossip takes on many forms. The truth is,, What is in your heart,, helping or hurting?? it is YOUR words that give life or death,, or just pain..........

SELF CONTROL!
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Good is better than bad. I guess I just tlike to go by the adage: if it isn't yours to tell, then don't tell it. I would make an exception in the case of a friend who was about to be taken in by someone whose true character they were unaware of in order to prevent a negative consequence to the friend, but only to the degree of a warning to be careful, that all isn't what it appears to be.
 
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