"When Ashley was born we were told she only had a 20% chance to make it. They warned us of any and all possibilities of disabilities she could face. They asked us if we wanted them to resusatate (excuse the spelling) her at birth. We did not hesitate this was our baby girl and I wanted her to have every chance at life. We found out at 2 months old she was developing ROP and required eye surgery that could save her vision. This surgery worked for a month and her condition worsened. We then required a lens sparing surgery to keep her retinas from detaching. Thank GOD this stabilized for now. She then at about 8 months old developed Glaucoma in both eyes due to the lens surgery. She has had 3 surgeries to get her eye pressures under control. This also is now stable. I had to consent to these surgeries for my daughter to save her vision so she would not go blind. Does this make me a bad parent because I decided to save my daughters vision instead of accepting her as blind? It is the same to me. Hearing, Blind it doesn't matter we as parents have the responsibility to make decision for our children until they are able to make them for themselves. We do what we feel is the best for our children. Not your or any one else's children but our own. I know I will be explaining a lot to Ashley when she is old enough to understand. Like how she is even here. She is my miracle and I thank GOD for her every day and I am going to fight with everything I have in me to make sure she has every possibility to live a happy and full life. What ever it may hold for her. Like I said does this make me a bad parent?
Ashleysmommy,
All I can say is wow! After I read this, I felt as if I were reading my own biography! As you know, I was also born prematurely (25 weeks) and had several eye surgeries in the hopes of saving my vision. Unfortunately, the surgeries were unsuccessful due to the fact that my retinas had already detached as a result of ROP, but you can bet that my parents did everything they could to give me the best chances for being able to see.
My chances of survival were felt to be quite poor and I almost died twice. My sister told me not too long ago that my parents paid for a majority of my medical care out of pocket because insurance wouldn't cover the cost.
For example, I needed reconstructive surgery on my forehead at age 3 and 5 due to a severe scar that was left behind from the pressure of the respirator mask.
Although my eye surgeries were unsuccessful, I'm so very thankful for the efforts of my parents to do everything they could to ensure that I had a happy and healthy life. When I think about how my parents spent their hard earned money on my medical care (especially given the fact my father had a heart condition that also required medical attention), it makes me cry at the thought of how much they loved me enough to do that.
I applaud you for everything you are doing for Ashley.
Please do not let the opinions of others discourage you. One day Ashley is going to thank you for everything you've done for her.
I have no doubt that she's going to grow up to be a strong, healthy, independent woman thanks to your efforts.