When you became independent, how did you feel?

ChicagoBlue2 said:
After living in a house and basically being home-schooled for nearly 5 years, and then moving to Chicago in 2005, becoming independent took a LOT of getting used to, and mind you, I was happy to be in Chicago, but I wasn't used to doing as I pleased, and literally had no clue how to move on with my life until 2010, when I moved to Rogers Park, and that's when reality hit me-- I REALLY needed to get a move on if I wanted to have any chance of survival. Now it's been nearly 4 years since that happened, and things have improved-- in some ways. Other ways? Still got some work to do, but for the better part, I am capable of doing a bunch of stuff on my own, but I still need to learn a few things. Eventually I'll get it, but when? That I don't know.

I also pay my own bills without relying on my parents or anyone else. I also don't go looking for trouble, either-- it usually finds ME first. I'm a peaceable guy, but if someone irritates me, I just tune it out (Thanks to my being an actor in theater previously).

Enough about that. What did you feel when you realized you were fully on your own, and could do as you pleased?
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Yeah I notice that it's mostly " ME first" ! You highjack my thread about kids getting no meals when school is called off for a snow storm. You went on whining all about 'ME ME ME" ! That is why had my thread locked, it became all about 'you'. No you don't tune out other people , you're just self-centered. You said so yourself.
 
With no parents since my pre-teen age...I'd say I have been independent for more than 2/3 of my Life...I've never had/or wanted anybody to pay a bill for me. I worked since age 17 and bought my own cars.

It was rough and overwhelming at times...made me a "tough cookie". Everything I learned, I learned on my own....I do believe I've had an Angel on my shoulder....been lucky in many, many precarious situations!...Plus, some good friends along the way...I've never believed in a "free ride"...or lazy people who won't work for what they want or have.

One good thing I can say Today...is that I don't have to demand respect from my 3 adopted boys or anyone for that matter....I earned it.
 
You live in a group home on government handouts. You are like a small child. It's the farthest thing from being independent.

When you go get a job, and pay real rent for your own apartment, and pay to feed youself, then you will be independent.
 
Mewtilation said:
I'm glad someone was elated... I was sad... :laugh2: I miss the good old days of living with the parents and having no worries... *sigh* So sad... I do not enjoy the days of " OMGERD, I forgot my car insurance was due today! OMGERD, Florida is a jerk and suspends your license for lapsing insurance for a day and sends you a warning letter to go to the DMV and prove insurance!!! OMGERD!!!" Luckily for me, now I have become far more organized than when I was 18. :P
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You're very lucky to had parents you like living with . I could not wait to get out off my parents house . This is why I went to boarding school for tow years. I had no problem living on my own. I lived in Northern California with my dog and I had no power and did all my cooking on wood stove and I did not outhouse . There a was deep hole dug out with a broad across it to sit on and that was my toilet. I felt GREAT being independent .
 
Dreamer03 said:
Im like "half independent" becuase i pay for my school and i pay rent to my parents, i pay my medical bills, work and get myself places, even if i cant drive. But i know that if i needed it they would still help me out. But ill be out of my house by May so maybe then ill know what its like yo be independent.
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Doing things on your own can be rough. You'll have to learn to adapt and adjust as you go,and that's not the easiest thing to do, and after a while, things get better, and since you have a fiance, you'll be all right.
 
whatdidyousay! said:
Yeah I notice that it's mostly " ME first" ! You highjack my thread about kids getting no meals when school is called off for a snow storm. You went on whining all about 'ME ME ME" ! That is why had my thread locked, it became all about 'you'. No you don't tune out other people , you're just self-centered. You said so yourself.
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Alot of other threads have turned out that way as well. I can't blame you.
 
whatdidyousay! said:
Yeah I notice that it's mostly " ME first" ! You highjack my thread about kids getting no meals when school is called off for a snow storm. You went on whining all about 'ME ME ME" ! That is why had my thread locked, it became all about 'you'. No you don't tune out other people , you're just self-centered. You said so yourself.
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MangaReader said:
Alot of other threads have turned out that way as well. I can't blame you.
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Is there any sort of procedure, something that Alex would take seriously, maybe a petition, to request someone's removal?
 
Bottesini said:
You live in a group home on government handouts. You are like a small child. It's the farthest thing from being independent.

When you go get a job, and pay real rent for your own apartment, and pay to feed youself, then you will be independent.
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Hold it right there. This is NOT a group home. They have 24/7 staff at those, and there are none here. And I DO pay my own rent already, just like everyone else does. I do not rely on staff or anyone to do anything for me. I also do my own shopping and take care of my own needs. You are misinformed of my present situation. I also have my own bank account, and pay bills just like everyone else.
 
ChicagoBlue2 said:
After living in a house and basically being home-schooled for nearly 5 years, and then moving to Chicago in 2005, becoming independent took a LOT of getting used to, and mind you, I was happy to be in Chicago, but I wasn't used to doing as I pleased, and literally had no clue how to move on with my life until 2010, when I moved to Rogers Park, and that's when reality hit me-- I REALLY needed to get a move on if I wanted to have any chance of survival. Now it's been nearly 4 years since that happened, and things have improved-- in some ways. Other ways? Still got some work to do, but for the better part, I am capable of doing a bunch of stuff on my own, but I still need to learn a few things. Eventually I'll get it, but when? That I don't know.

I also pay my own bills without relying on my parents or anyone else. I also don't go looking for trouble, either-- it usually finds ME first. I'm a peaceable guy, but if someone irritates me, I just tune it out (Thanks to my being an actor in theater previously).

Enough about that. What did you feel when you realized you were fully on your own, and could do as you pleased?
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:shock: good for you

I thought you were asking about being independent- free of government obligations and living off land with no need/desire of money :giggle:

I'm not independent. I depend on money to give me shelter, health, food, I depend on others to grow my food, I depend on others to make my medicine and someone to tell me what the heck is wrong with me when I am sick, I depend on the government regulations to keep me safe from others. I do not know how to fire a gun or defend myself if the need arises. I am chained to debt through the car which I need to be able to keep my job as there is no public transit where I live to the workplace and the work requires me to have a car and be able to drive. NO such thing as a "free lunch" as we gotta work for it anyways. I am a fragile dependent human being that would not know one thing if government diaster hits.

No- I'm no where near being independent in that category. I would need to learn how to make my own medicine, grow my own food, defend myself and make clean water then I'll declare myself independent!

Its a scary world we all live in! :roll: Luxury might have made me go soft.
 
tuatara said:
Is there any sort of procedure, something that Alex would take seriously, maybe a petition, to request someone's removal?
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My account can't be closed. Alex made that real clear. Plus, I do regret hijacking that thread. I have been doing some soul searching lately, and have had a lot on my mind. Perhaps I need to me a little more sensitive to others, and not be so self-centered. It's just that sometimes I have good days and bad days focusing on what I need to be doing, and yesterday was one of those bad ones. Hopefully today will be better, and I promise I will try and not be so "ME" from this point on.
 
whatdidyousay! said:
He would been talking about himself all the time. He did say it's all about him!
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Don't worry. If you dont like his posts, just ignore posts. Some people cant help it for who they are. I manage to ignore some posts whoever I dont want to read, and just move on. It always work. Just saying
 
ChicagoBlue2 said:
That's because all of my time was spend rehearsing, traveling, and doing the actual acting. The season goes 6-7 months, and takes up a great deal of time. Actors/actresses do not have time to cause trouble, because we're so focused on making the show a success. That itself taught me how to stay out of trouble, and I use that today, even though I'm not active on any stage.
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I really do not buy this at all. Just look at all of the professional actors and actresses that been on TV and it not for making a movie , it's been for getting into trouble with the law. And these are people have bigger roles than you never dreamed of having yet they find time to get into trouble .
 
ChicagoBlue2 said:
Hold it right there. This is NOT a group home. They have 24/7 staff at those, and there are none here. And I DO pay my own rent already, just like everyone else does. I do not rely on staff or anyone to do anything for me. I also do my own shopping and take care of my own needs. You are misinformed of my present situation. I also have my own bank account, and pay bills just like everyone else.
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You are still not technically independent. You live with strangers who have mental health problems like you. Why didn't they help you find your own place?
 
Mewtilation said:
I'm glad someone was elated... I was sad... :laugh2: I miss the good old days of living with the parents and having no worries... *sigh* So sad... I do not enjoy the days of " OMGERD, I forgot my car insurance was due today! OMGERD, Florida is a jerk and suspends your license for lapsing insurance for a day and sends you a warning letter to go to the DMV and prove insurance!!! OMGERD!!!" Luckily for me, now I have become far more organized than when I was 18. :P
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That's why I put my insurance on auto payments so I don't have to worry about it every month.
 
I'll let you know when I fully achieve independence. Only expenses I have are fuel, insurance and maintenance as well as food, occasional clothing from a thrift store and soon, hormone costs.

I'm staying in a friend's place right now and can't find a job anywhere, so not quite there yet.
 
I can't say that I've been totally independent since I left home at age 19.

When I left home, I enlisted in the Navy, so I did have my room (barracks) and board (chow hall) taken care of. I also had all my medical care covered, and some of my clothing (uniforms) expenses covered. I didn't have the freedom of choosing where to live or what to do at work but I did feel "grownup" in my life.

Since then, I've also married and had a child, which means I wasn't totally independent in the sense that I could just pick up and leave to do my own thing. But I'm fine with that. I like roots in my life (my childhood was a bit unstable.)

Still, from about age 18 until now I've had to make my own choices without parents or guardians being involved, so even if I'm not totally independent my decisions and consequences are my own.

Same for my daughter. Once she married and left home at age 19, her choices in life have been her own. (Thankfully, she makes mostly good choices.)
 
SilverRoxy said:
That's why I put my insurance on auto payments so I don't have to worry about it every month.
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Do you mean "auto" as in automatic bank payments, or "auto" as in automobile payments?
 
ChicagoBlue2 said:
Hold it right there. This is NOT a group home. They have 24/7 staff at those, and there are none here. And I DO pay my own rent already, just like everyone else does. I do not rely on staff or anyone to do anything for me. I also do my own shopping and take care of my own needs. You are misinformed of my present situation. I also have my own bank account, and pay bills just like everyone else.
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do you work?
 
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