When you became independent, how did you feel?

Jiro said:
do you work?
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No, but I would like to. Sad thing is, people just do not get the kind of situation I am in. I may live at a facility with others, but there isn't anyone here watching us 24/7, and we all have to make our own decisions, and not rely on others. That's part of how we learn to be MORE independent, which is what this facility is for-- learning how to do things on my own, and not rely on other people. Once I have successfully done that, then I can move into my own apartment. I have a place I have my eye on, and I might check it out a little later on this spring. The rent there is a little higher, but it's still reasonable.
 
ChicagoBlue2 said:
No, but I would like to. Sad thing is, people just do not get the kind of situation I am in. I may live at a facility with others, but there isn't anyone here watching us 24/7, and we all have to make our own decisions, and not rely on others. That's part of how we learn to be MORE independent, which is what this facility is for-- learning how to do things on my own, and not rely on other people. Once I have successfully done that, then I can move into my own apartment. I have a place I have my eye on, and I might check it out a little later on this spring. The rent there is a little higher, but it's still reasonable.
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Understand, how or who do they determine that you are ready to move out and do your thing on your work, without relying on other people?
 
I don't really feel like doing as you please and being independent are one in the same.
Doing whatever you want can run up debt and get you into trouble.
Being independent is having the skills and self control to get by with the resources you have.
Being independent is really empowering.

I wish our government would put more effort into providing people ways to acquire the skills they need rather than only passing out money and assuming that they know how to use it frugally.

Reminds me of giving a man a fish so he has dinner or teaching him to fish so he never goes hungry.
 
Konijnen said:
I wish our government would put more effort into providing people ways to acquire the skills they need rather than only passing out money and assuming that they know how to use it frugally.
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I can't get them to give me money or skills.. I guess I'm screwed :shock:
 
Frisky Feline said:
Understand, how or who do they determine that you are ready to move out and do your thing on your work, without relying on other people?
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They don't. It's entirely up to me. I decide when I am ready, and if the timing is right.
 
Saavik said:
I can't get them to give me money or skills.. I guess I'm screwed :shock:
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I thought you had job skills? Didn't you learn any skills in the military?

Have you tried to get into a training program or college thru Vocational Rehab?

Maybe you are eligible for SSI or SSDI, or at least food stamps?
 
ChicagoBlue2 said:
No, but I would like to. Sad thing is, people just do not get the kind of situation I am in. I may live at a facility with others, but there isn't anyone here watching us 24/7, and we all have to make our own decisions, and not rely on others. That's part of how we learn to be MORE independent, which is what this facility is for-- learning how to do things on my own, and not rely on other people. Once I have successfully done that, then I can move into my own apartment. I have a place I have my eye on, and I might check it out a little later on this spring. The rent there is a little higher, but it's still reasonable.
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Well...there you go...you're living off our taxes...so... I've never lived in a facility or a group home....And to note also.... until you get a job and pay ur own rent, food, etc., etc., ...then you've got independence....You wouldn't want to walk a mile or even a block in my shoes, ChicagoBlue....and I'm a female with some brain damage also....and totally deaf since 14.

It takes courage and motivation and seems you do have the "smarts"....maybe the "guts" is missing?
 
ChicagoBlue2 said:
They don't. It's entirely up to me. I decide when I am ready, and if the timing is right.
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How will you know when you are "ready?"

When I left home and joined the Navy I was no where near "ready." But I took the plunge anyway.

Sometimes, if we wait for the perfect moment to be "ready" that time never comes and we miss out on life's opportunities.
 
Frisky Feline said:
Thats good. How did you find this place where you live now?
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I was referred here. My previous residence WAS a group home with 24/7 staff, but this one isn't one, and does not have any staff here at all. I have lived here since 2010, and I feel I am just about ready to take the next step in my life.
 
I thought I was so READY at age 19. Oh, I should have stayed at my parents afterall. :lol:
 
ChicagoBlue2 said:
I was referred here. My previous residence WAS a group home with 24/7 staff, but this one isn't one, and does not have any staff here at all. I have lived here since 2010, and I feel I am just about ready to take the next step in my life.
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What happened if you decide to work part time like you earn 300 bucks per month, will it affect your food stamp etc? I dont know if you are on SSI or SSDI?
 
ChicagoBlue2 said:
I was referred here. My previous residence WAS a group home with 24/7 staff, but this one isn't one, and does not have any staff here at all. I have lived here since 2010, and I feel I am just about ready to take the next step in my life.
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So, you have made some progress. That's good.
 
Reba said:
How will you know when you are "ready?"

When I left home and joined the Navy I was no where near "ready." But I took the plunge anyway.

Sometimes, if we wait for the perfect moment to be "ready" that time never comes and we miss out on life's opportunities.
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Should be this year. I have my eyes on a place not far from here, and I intend to do some digging around, and taking a look.
 
Frisky Feline said:
What happened if you decide to work part time like you earn 300 bucks per month, will it affect your food stamp etc? I dont know if you are on SSI or SSDI?
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If I find a job, I must report it, and yes, it will affect my food stamps and SSI.
 
ChicagoBlue2 said:
My account can't be closed. Alex made that real clear. Plus, I do regret hijacking that thread. I have been doing some soul searching lately, and have had a lot on my mind. Perhaps I need to me a little more sensitive to others, and not be so self-centered. It's just that sometimes I have good days and bad days focusing on what I need to be doing, and yesterday was one of those bad ones. Hopefully today will be better, and I promise I will try and not be so "ME" from this point on.
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What about the kids that are having a bad day because they got no lunches on a snow day? I could give a damn that you where having a bad day. There are plenty of people that have a bad day and they are able to think of other people.
 
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