When you became independent, how did you feel?

rockin'robin said:
well...excuse me...but I've seen many, many of ur posts that are "self-centered" too, WDYS....going "off topic" too....No one has said anything....and all you have to do is say..."let's get back on topic, guys".....instead of blasting someone like you do ur neighbors and manager or whatever.....Not everyone sees the way you do...
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I do that on the thread that we can talk about anything and people can post anything they're thinking about!! So I did not highjack the thread . I sure will never see most things the way you do and I am fine with that!
 
Jane B. said:
It is not just what he can do but how accepting an employer is of the TS and how it makes him act at times. And I would think the hardest thing is finding that employer.
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That's why we have the ADA law. Also, I assume that the VR counselor would try to match him up with a job setting that would be appropriate for his skills and accommodating for his disabilities.
 
ChicagoBlue2 said:
Great Lakes Naval Base (Goodwill Great Lakes) would be one of them. They didn't care that I had it, as long I was able to do my job well enough, and they were pretty open minded about it.
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As an aside (not a hijack), I was stationed there for a year. :)

I have Deaf friends who have worked at other military facilities and it worked out well for them.
 
ADA law doesn't force them to hire people with disabilities. They find ways to get around it. They won't actually tell you they don't want you because you're (insert your disability) because they know it's against the law.
 
Frisky Feline said:
My childhood friend who has TS and work as an janitor at the hospital. It pays well way better than SSI. He likes earning $$$. He likes to use his physcial a lot. He must have worked more than 20 yrs.
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I have a friend at church who has TS and he's a high school teacher.

I realize that there are different degrees of TS but it does show that it's not an automatic no jobber.
 
Foxrac said:
Severe TS - more tics and flare up, also in some cases, none of medicines work or little help.

It is better to let Mark to make discretion about feel safe to get job or not - we aren't in Mark's body and we don't know about how bad is his medical condition.

In case, if Mark gets part time but it may not gain his independence from government welfare.
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I know but there are jobs that don't require dealing with the public, if that's an issue. Also, you might be surprised about how many people aren't bothered by TS behaviors once they are explained and they get used to it. In my work and life I've seen many employers and co-workers get along quite well with employees of varying disabilities. Sure, some people are jerks but there are also some good-hearted people out there.
 
Reba said:
How will you know when you are "ready?"

When I left home and joined the Navy I was no where near "ready." But I took the plunge anyway.

Sometimes, if we wait for the perfect moment to be "ready" that time never comes and we miss out on life's opportunities.
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Well, when I was married to my ex husband whom I moved in with from my parents' house 20 years ago, I guess I was sort of dependent on him and he was dependent on me. Together, we worked and paid our bills so is that considered being independent? Now, I wonder.

When he cheated on me and wanted a divorce, I had to move out at 29 years old and I was seriously on my own as I was living in Maryland with no family nearby except for my deaf brother who was a student at Gallaudet. I was also a grad student at Gallaudet. Oh, talk about taking a serious plunge but I survived and made it through on my own. That was so scary to really move out and really depend on myself 100% with no support.

Now, I am back to being partially dependent on my husband and him being partially dependent on me as we both work and pay the bills.

What does being "independent" mean? Food for thought.
 
There are people who use their disability as a safety crutch not to be independent while there are many others who try, fail and keep getting up to try again. Im proud of anyone in life that keep on trying their best and dont give up thats not yet independent. Doesnt matter what kind of illness one mite have or disablilities. Its the human spirit I believe that enpowers an individual to be successful on their own.

Mark my words whatever your issue is dont let it stop you being yourself and if you have challenges then keep on trying and the most responsible thing is to know your faults and limitations so you can fail easier instead of crashing hard and be able to try again bruised but not broken which would take longer to heal. I dont know how other way to explain what im trying to say in my mind.
 
MangaReader said:
ADA law doesn't force them to hire people with disabilities. They find ways to get around it. They won't actually tell you they don't want you because you're (insert your disability) because they know it's against the law.
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Yes, that's true and it is very common. :(
 
Yes. There are no affirmative action rules in the ADA. That means, on any employment application form, the employer cannot ask you your disability.



MangaReader said:
ADA law doesn't force them to hire people with disabilities. They find ways to get around it. They won't actually tell you they don't want you because you're (insert your disability) because they know it's against the law.
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Saavik said:
I did finally get it submitted, so I'll wait for a response now.
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expect up to 3 months for a reply. that's a normal procedure. don't give up if they told you that your application has been rejected. it's expected. let us know if you got rejected and we will walk you thru an appeal process. they do include the forms for you to appeal the decision.
 
Reba said:
I have a friend at church who has TS and he's a high school teacher.

I realize that there are different degrees of TS but it does show that it's not an automatic no jobber.
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There are jobs that can be done right at home on your computer . I know a guy that work right at home , he take a break to take his dog out . He work at his computer but I can't remember what he does .
 
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