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Hitting the sack, and realizing you arent tired.
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true. it's unfortunate.
I don't mind that so much. But I do mind when people think Jilli is somehow taking care of me and I need Jilli. I'm facing that problem at the moment since she is due to retire soon and my dad was sort of like
"How are you going to Manage without Jilli..." But we work as a team. Jilli isn't just guiding me everywhere. Also she's been aproaching retirement for age now. I often ALREADY use my cane in certain places. So I'm sure I'll manage.
I can empathise with people who have problem believing about mental health issues. It sometimes makes me wonder what they think the mentally ill act like.
I also had problem with people denying my blindness. Which is really easy in my case because it doesn't actually have any physical cause. But I didn't wake up one day and think 'I want to be blind now' It's more complicated then that. Also some people don't seem to believe I was deaf eaither and sometimes insist on shouting in my ear. I hate when people do that.
As for my Asperger Syndrome, I don't hardly tell people about it at all since they don't think I act like I have asperger syndrome either. They only seem to go by challanging behavior but I'm only mildly affected so it doesn't show much. Unless they knew me as a child it's impossible to know I have asperger syndrome.
I also had problem with people denying my blindness. Which is really easy in my case because it doesn't actually have any physical cause. But I didn't wake up one day and think 'I want to be blind now' It's more complicated then that. Also some people don't seem to believe I was deaf eaither and sometimes insist on shouting in my ear. I hate when people do that.
As for my Asperger Syndrome, I don't hardly tell people about it at all since they don't think I act like I have asperger syndrome either. They only seem to go by challanging behavior but I'm only mildly affected so it doesn't show much. Unless they knew me as a child it's impossible to know I have asperger syndrome.
Nobody has said that to me and I go to loads of AR and vegan events. Although I'm aware some people ARE against service animals. It's just their POV. I can understand them in a way because people often DO mistreat their animals and then claim they are happy about it so how can I expect anyone to believe I don't mistreat Jilli when other people who mistreat their animals then say they don't. I just have to have to hope that they learn that Jilli is happy when they see us together.
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I am so sorry to hear this. Is that possible if you and your parents discuss it with your therapist? I went thru when I was 15. It helped. My parents and my other siblings are not making fun of my deafness, my PTSD and my depression in front of me since then.
Again, I am sorry to hear this.
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ah-ha! I just remember my pet peeves -
1. I hate it when nearly every student answers teachers' questions with "basically......."
2. I cannot understand why would people say - "can i ask you something?" or "can I ask you a question?" uuhhhh do I look like I have a choice? why not save your and my time by asking me a question that you want to ask? No need to ask me 2 questions to ask me 1 question. :roll:
3. I hate it when people drive with the seats all the way back like they're sitting on sofa, playing game.
1. I hate it when nearly every student answers teachers' questions with "basically......."
2. I cannot understand why would people say - "can i ask you something?" or "can I ask you a question?" uuhhhh do I look like I have a choice? why not save your and my time by asking me a question that you want to ask? No need to ask me 2 questions to ask me 1 question. :roll:
3. I hate it when people drive with the seats all the way back like they're sitting on sofa, playing game.
I've brought my parents to therapy with me and now they just joke every time I a mildly offended -- "You're gonna need more therapy now, right?"
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I am glad you did bring your parents to therapy but I find that it's unacceptable for your parents to say that to you. The question is: are your therapist good to you? Don't you mind my asking?
I don't mind you asking at all. My therapist is very good and believes me about everything that my parents don't. She has tried to help my parents understand, but my parents are extremely thick-headed, stubborn people. She's managed to chisel her way the farthest into the thick cement wall that is my parents' minds out of all my therapists.
Do you have a good therapist?
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Oh, yes, it was. I remember my family did that to me when I was young. Neglected and abused me, mostly by my father. At school, the hearing kids were making of me because I am different and that I am deaf, etc. I yelled at them screw them all, gave them a finger and walked away. The hearing kids realized what I said to them and they told me that they want to be their friends and that I am cool, etc. It took me a long time to trust them because of the incidents.. and I finally made friends with them, to have fun together during senior year but it is sad that it's short time and that we don't keep in touch each other when we are out of the world.
I remember I read "Alone in the Mainstream, a Deaf woman remembers Public School" by Gina A. Oliva. I was crying when I read it. I showed my sister and my mother this book and they read and said that it's saddened them and that my story is same like hers. They finally understand what I went thru. So, I suggest you to read this book.
Aw Sosie I'm sorry to hear. <sad> I can relate. Just replace "deaf" with "blind" and you got my story. I'm glad your family understands now, though. I don't think my family will ever understand. Thanks for recommending the book to me -- I'll definitely check it out.
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I am glad that your therapist is very good to you. Sorry to hear that. Maybe this book as I said earlier in my previous message. Maybe this book helps your parents to understand. I am working on to find a good book for you that related your blindness, etc.
Oh, yes, my therapist is very good to me. She helps me a lot from what I did learn from her for the past 4 years but we are working on my social skills because I have had no friends for a several years until now... because I didn't have time for myself or to out with hearing/deaf friends.. and I always work and work and work, even on the weekends. I have three odd jobs. (I am on a 4 weeks vacation, by my therapist's order. I guess I am a workaholic. I have to learn to let it go.
Wow that sounds awfully familiar. I would distract myself by studying and studying. I have next to no social skills either, which is why most of my friends are online. Personally I'm fine with that and I'm not really interested in socializing with people face-to-face.
It's hard to trust people when they're been so cruel to you over the years. You approach each new person thinking, are they going to hurt me too? I'm glad you're working on it with your therapist though. She sounds like a great therapist if you've had her for 4 years! My parents still don't believe I'm blind, so they would read the book and feel bad but wouldn't apply it to me. That's what happened when I had them read some other books about people with conditions I have or in similar situations.
Wow, I hope you're enjoying your 4 weeks of vacation. What have you been doing?
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Thanks. Yeah, I can relate yours, too. (Yes, I got your story as well..) Smile!
You are welcome!
It's really a good book. I have met Gina, the author in real life at the Senior Citizens convention a few years ago. I bought a paperback book from her, with her signature. She's very brilliant woman whom I ever met. It was so nice to get her know. We enjoyed chatting during lunch hours. Again, it's really a good book!!!!
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Nika, I am on other line right now. I will be right back.
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OK, I am back. It was from my brother. He said he is going to bring me a moped bicycle today, he rented for me. Yay!
OK, back to topic.. Yeah, I can relate to that, too. I remember I was afraid to meet people in real life, I guess I was social-phobic at the time.. and also, I didn't know what to say to them, either... I was afraid if I say wrong things or hurt their feelings, etc, if you know what I am saying.
Right now, I have a very few deaf/HOH/hearing friends whom I trust. (Of course, I am still working on it, in the long run... )
Yes, exactly right..
Aw... I am sorry to hear that. Maybe other parents can make sense to talk to your parents or have them join to other groups, to learn about their children's disability like deafness, blindness, and others, for instance. Just a thought.
I am staying here at my brother's new house in Costa Rica. I go to the beach almost every day, reading a good book, shopping... and surfing the internet, etc.. (My brother has to work. Yesterday, his girlfriend flew back to NYC because she has to go back to work. And so, I am alone. I am bored. LOL.)
Small talk is the hardest thing for me. I just don't know how to ask questions and be interested without coming across as extremely awkward.
Your brother lives in Costa Rica? Wow! It must be really hot there right now since it's summertime. Sorry you're bored... just keep posting on AD! Also I don't know if you use an instant messenger but you can always IM me at NID2008 (AIM and Yahoo).
Your brother lives in Costa Rica? Wow! It must be really hot there right now since it's summertime. Sorry you're bored... just keep posting on AD! Also I don't know if you use an instant messenger but you can always IM me at NID2008 (AIM and Yahoo).