The Lounge thread: Whatever you feel like......... Anything goes! Part XII

[Alisteal]

good point!

this isn't just a "deaf" forum. it's also designed for those of us who are hoh, deafblind or terps as well. hence, the name alldeaf.

yup and it's a place where people who are going deaf or have worsening hearing issues can come and get some encouragement and be told it's ok to be scared (thanks again Hear Again)

 

[Hear Again]

yup and it's a place where people who are going deaf or have worsening hearing issues can come and get some encouragement and be told it's ok to be scared (thanks again Hear Again)

you're welcome! i'm sorry, but i have to say this and if i get banned for saying it, i really don't care. i'm sick and tired of certain "big D" Deaf people thinking that they own this forum. alldeaf is designed for ALL of us no matter how much or little we hear, no matter whether we are late deafened or culturally Deaf and no matter whether we are terps, itp students, sighted-deaf, sighted-hoh, mobility impaired, blind/visually impaired, deafblind and/or mentally ill. there. i said it. if someone wants to report me to the mods, so be it. i guess i'll be banned for the 4th time.

 

[SimplyMints]

Well I'm obviously not hearing either, so if this doesn't work, I'll just have to go find a "neither deaf nor hearing" forum so I can belong some place.

By the way, I'm seeing a counsellor now, for those who care.

 

[Alisteal]

Well I'm obviously not hearing either, so if this doesn't work, I'll just have to go find a "neither deaf nor hearing" forum so I can belong some place.

By the way, I'm seeing a counsellor now, for those who care.

I'm not sure what kind of counselor you are seeing. But I'm glad you are getting the help you want and need It takes a brave and courageous person to know when they need help and ask for it

 

[SimplyMints]

I'm not sure what kind of counselor you are seeing. But I'm glad you are getting the help you want and need It takes a brave and courageous person to know when they need help and ask for it

Thanks :blush:

I'm not sure I want to reveal what kind of counsellor I'm seeing yet, but I just don't want to end up in an institution without my computer, subscriptions (They are ALL CLEAN!!), broadband, and Amazon.com

 

[Alisteal]

I spent a brief time in the hospital on 72 hour suicide watch a few years back and so I understand not wanting to be locked up. I swear that place was enough to MAKE me insane lol

Therapy has brought me a long way. I still have some issues (Anxiety, panic attacks, ptsd) but thankfully now I know how to work through it. I'm actually a pretty happy person who's just had crappy things happen in her life. I live my life to the fullest I can each day because I'm living the life my daughter never got. So I live for her and I live it happily with my children that are here.

Sorry if this is too deep a convo. But if you ever need anything please just give me a holler. I'm would be glad to be your venting ground if you need it

BTW I LOVE Amazon.com! Right up there with NetFlix! LOL

 

[SimplyMints]

I spent a brief time in the hospital on 72 hour suicide watch a few years back and so I understand not wanting to be locked up. I swear that place was enough to MAKE me insane lol

Therapy has brought me a long way. I still have some issues (Anxiety, panic attacks, ptsd) but thankfully now I know how to work through it. I'm actually a pretty happy person who's just had crappy things happen in her life. I live my life to the fullest I can each day because I'm living the life my daughter never got. So I live for her and I live it happily with my children that are here.

Sorry if this is too deep a convo. But if you ever need anything please just give me a holler. I'm would be glad to be your venting ground if you need it

BTW I LOVE Amazon.com! Right up there with NetFlix! LOL

That's encouraging! I've been trying to do that for my friend. Live for her, that is. It doesn't seem to be working out for me, but one thing I do NOT want to do is dishonour her memory, and I never want to forget her. She died 13 months 2 day 4 hours and 56 minutes ago.

 

[Alisteal]

That's encouraging! I've been trying to do that for my friend. Live for her, that is. It doesn't seem to be working out for me, but one thing I do NOT want to do is dishonour her memory, and I never want to forget her. She died 13 months 2 day 4 hours and 56 minutes ago.

Oh Sweetie I am so sorry for your loss. Just so you know it's very normal to still be so down. I promise you. Loosing a child is a different type of grief but I also lost my cousin I grew up with 20 days after I lost my daughter. We were 7 months apart, and even though it's been 19 months since he died just yesterday I was very upset and guilty because his 25th birthday will be on Feb 10th. I was thinking how unfair it is that I was still here for my 24th and he's not here for his 24th and now his 25th

In the grand scheme of things 13 months is so very early still in your grief walk. My brother lost a friend 15 years ago and still visits her grave weekly. So it is ok that you've not got to the point where living for her works out for you. Just take it day by day.

 

[SimplyMints]

WARNING! This post may be a little graphic!

Oh Sweetie I am so sorry for your loss. Just so you know it's very normal to still be so down. I promise you. Loosing a child is a different type of grief but I also lost my cousin I grew up with 20 days after I lost my daughter. We were 7 months apart, and even though it's been 19 months since he died just yesterday I was very upset and guilty because his 25th birthday will be on Feb 10th. I was thinking how unfair it is that I was still here for my 24th and he's not here for his 24th and now his 25th

In the grand scheme of things 13 months is so very early still in your grief walk. My brother lost a friend 15 years ago and still visits her grave weekly. So it is ok that you've not got to the point where living for her works out for you. Just take it day by day.

My friend was 14 days older than I was. I've had my share of death, but it's never affected me like this before. Even when it was somebody as close as my favourite cousin, almost my age, friendly, fun, athletic, pretty, intelligent, great sense of humour. She was shot four times by her husband while she tried to run away holding her baby. Only the final shot was fatal. Then, her killer shot and killed himself. The baby survived unharmed. I wanted to see him sit in a cell and rot and suffer for a hundred years, but there was no revenge. It was hard to deal with that. But it wasn't like this. My friend's birthday is coming up on the 3rd of March. I celebrated six of them with her. Now, this will be the second without her since then.

 

[SimplyMints]

Actually, I should be saving this for my counsellor :roll:

 

[Sosie]

I was out for the day with my three girlfriends yesterday. We went shopping, luncheon, shopping and dining. We came home late.
I bought a few things for my kitchen. (I had my kitchen remodeling two years ago.) We had a nice time. When I got home and got a message from my brother to say that his oldest daughter's new Jeep Liberty 2009 was totaled (She is 16. She got it from her parents for Christmas.) and she drove to work, and her mother and her little sister (13) were with her. When my niece arrived at work, her mother and her little sister went on, to to go shopping. A lady went thru a red light, and hit the passenger side, where her little sister was sitting. The Jeep rolled over, and her little sister had to be cut out of the car. Neither of them were hurt, just bruised. The ambulance took them to the hospital, and they were able to go home. Her mother was nauseous, probably from fright. My brother said his youngest daughter was very calm, waiting to be cut out of the jeep, but she said a few times: "Mom, I want out of the car". I called and told my brother that I am so glad that they were not injured. He agreed.
What a stupid lady driving thru a red light?! That makes me so mad.

 

[Giulia]

Hi
What happened with Hear Again ? Why has she been banned ?

 

[Alisteal]

Actually, I should be saving this for my counsellor :roll:

I'm glad your friend's baby survived. But so sorry to hear about how horribly your friend's life ended. Sometimes talking to complete strangers who've also had losses helps too. Sometimes I'll tell people stuff online and then go to my therapist and tell him the same thing.

On March 3 I'll light a candle in memory of your friend *hugs*

I was out for the day with my three girlfriends yesterday. We went shopping, luncheon, shopping and dining. We came home late.
I bought a few things for my kitchen. (I had my kitchen remodeling two years ago.) We had a nice time. When I got home and got a message from my brother to say that his oldest daughter's new Jeep Liberty 2009 was totaled (She is 16. She got it from her parents for Christmas.) and she drove to work, and her mother and her little sister (13) were with her. When my niece arrived at work, her mother and her little sister went on, to to go shopping. A lady went thru a red light, and hit the passenger side, where her little sister was sitting. The Jeep rolled over, and her little sister had to be cut out of the car. Neither of them were hurt, just bruised. The ambulance took them to the hospital, and they were able to go home. Her mother was nauseous, probably from fright. My brother said his youngest daughter was very calm, waiting to be cut out of the jeep, but she said a few times: "Mom, I want out of the car". I called and told my brother that I am so glad that they were not injured. He agreed.
What a stupid lady driving thru a red light?! That makes me so mad.

WOW!!! I'm so glad that everyone is alright!! Some people (like that lady) should NOT have their license

 

[AlleyCat]

Regarding my post last night, I realize I unintentionally concerned some people about their postings. I did not mean to point fingers at anyone specifically, nor did I mean to imply that only deaf people can be here. There are many subforums and threads within this alldeaf forum and they are titled appropriately, such as "parenting", "pets" "post your pictures", "computers" and so on. The point is, most posters are posting appropriately in the appropriate sections. It is other threads that have been run amok by topics that have strayed so far off the original subject consistently that it's not even on the horizon anymore. I was not asked by anyone to apologize for my post, but I am doing so here anyway.

 

[Sosie]

That's encouraging! I've been trying to do that for my friend. Live for her, that is. It doesn't seem to be working out for me, but one thing I do NOT want to do is dishonour her memory, and I never want to forget her. She died 13 months 2 day 4 hours and 56 minutes ago.

I am so sorry to hear that. Here's a from me. It's a good idea for you to talk to a counselor. Please feel free to talk to me here or PM me anytime.
I am thinking of you, SimplyMints.

 

[Jiro]

80s music is the best and i'm not ashamed to admit it. it sure beats the cr*p out of what they call music nowadays.

NO DOUBT!

 

[Jiro]

i just got off of a bipolar message board i participate on in which one of the threads is entitled, "the song you are listening to." the thread is 4 pages long and every time i posted, i indicated that i was listening to some kind of 80s music. someone just posted a few minutes ago and insulted my tastes by saying that they were surprised i didn't "rapid cycle to avoid listening to that sh*t." i thought this was hilarious and replied, "actually, no i don't. the genres that make me rapid cycle are disco and opera." one thing is for sure. i'm getting better at tolerating people's ignorant comments. at the very least, they're always worth a good laugh.

weird.. I immensely enjoy listening to opera. I guess I like intensively sorrow music.

 

[Sosie]

I'm glad your friend's baby survived. But so sorry to hear about how horribly your friend's life ended. Sometimes talking to complete strangers who've also had losses helps too. Sometimes I'll tell people stuff online and then go to my therapist and tell him the same thing.

On March 3 I'll light a candle in memory of your friend *hugs*



WOW!!! I'm so glad that everyone is alright!! Some people (like that lady) should NOT have their license

Thanks. Yeah, me, too, I am glad they are OK. Yes, I agree but I'd like to see that lady's driver license should be provoked if she refuses to attend the driver ed classes, to learn all about driving conditions, etc.

 

[Jiro]

Oh, sorry. Probably should get accounts in your name only.

Betrayal by family sucks.

wise advice.

yeah but i told her, i do better at money than she is, that why i was richer than she was. taking care of it in right way.

good. i have couple of accounts under my own name. before - I let my mom have access to it but ever since I started earning some big moola couple years ago, I cut off the access. It's not that my mom takes my money. it's just for privacy reason.

 

[Jiro]

ugh now i'm feeling very for real. and you know why. yes you guess it right. i need my coffee fix. just woke up about 2 hours ago... and just took a shower. I need a goddam coffee and small breakfast while reading AD to start my day.

my dog is too. He wants me to pick up his poop and feed him a breakfast.