I agree. If your husband and your BF (best friend, not boyfriend) can't get along, then that's their problem. However, you shouldn't be put in the middle of it. So, I agree with you there.
My first wife and my family never did get along. However, she always tried to turn me against them. She constantly told me and my children what bad people my family is. It wasn't until right before I divorced her did I find out that she stole thousands of dollars from my parents. My second wife got me back with my family, and, literally, saved my life. Sorry... I'm rambling on...