Sex Offender Just Moved Into My Neighborhood

[Oceanbreeze]

Could I have a link to his story please? There are too many threads on sex offenders for me to find his story.

I am sorry you were molested by your landlord, he should have been put in prison for the rest of his life. Too many sex offenders get away with this kind of thing.



I disagree. I like to have the sex offender registry so I can keep track of the person who hurt me, and the other persons who have hurt my family and friends, so that we can stay informed of their whereabouts and protect ourselves. They deserve to be harassed, but we cannot harass them. The registry in my home state has a disclaimer agreement at the bottom of the website that says that we are not to use the registry to harass the sex offender, only to warn/inform others that he exists and is in the area, and to track him (as in knowing where he lives so we can make sure our kids don't go over to his house) and we have to click on the "yes" button to agree to the disclaimer. If we don't click "yes" we cannot view his information.



When I read your son's story, I'll let you know what I think. Until then, I can't go and say, "yeah your son was innocent" just because you said so. Especially if you did not witness the situation itself.




The person who molested me is guilty of all his crimes and deserves to rot in prison. I am his first victim but I am not his only victim. He raped another victim who I actually know at the same school, then later on he molested a little one, and was convicted for that one this time. He's a repeat offender, and I want him back in the slammer pronto. All of it is true, I have already confirmed it with the second victim. I don't want him to touch another victim. I worry that another innocent child will have to live with what happened in his or her little head for the rest of his or her life because of what this person has done to this child. And since it has at least been the third time he has offended, the odds of him doing it again are VERY high. 3 times is a lot of times to offend. He belongs in prison for life, in a tiny cell, never to see the sun ever again. HE IS GUILTY, period.

Hope she proves the link....I, too, want to read it.

I have purposely said very little if anything in this thread, but I felt it was important to step in here now.

I want to preface this by saying I'm also speaking as an abuse survivor.

I tried to look for the thread Bear referenced, but could not find it. However, I will say I have seen the thread she is talking about and I am familiar with her son's story. Her son was WRONGLY accused of rape when he was just 12 years old. He spent a number of years in a juvenile facility. She is right in saying that there are innocent or non violent offenders being forced to register as a sexual offender.

Our system is FAR from perfect and I wish there was a better way to track these offenders and weed out those who should not be on the registry. What happened to her son is tragic. I am NOT saying I'm against the registry. I'm NOT. It was created for the right reasons, but as seems to be the case with our justice system, it's a flawed system. Bear is right. Parents need to teach their child about safety and not just passively depend on the sex offender registry to keep our kids safe.

 

[C.C.Sinned]

 

[somedeafdudefromPNW]

I am interested in the link. However if you look... http://www.alldeaf.com/topic-debate...-offender-parents-pose-dilemma-schools-5.html It starts on page 5 or 6 if you guys actually read Liebling's response on page 3 of this thread.

I have to say, I am not impressed with some of the radical or reactionary ideas here because it resonates too much with a story of a gulag survivor that I know of.

I am glad Canada isn't as strict with sexual offences as Americans are.

 

[Oceanbreeze]

I am interested in the link. However if you look... http://www.alldeaf.com/topic-debate...-offender-parents-pose-dilemma-schools-5.html It starts on page 5 or 6 if you guys actually read Liebling's response on page 3 of this thread.

I have to say, I am not impressed with some of the radical or reactionary ideas here because it resonates too much with a story of a gulag survivor that I know of.

I am glad Canada isn't as strict with sexual offences as Americans are.

I understand what you're saying, but I must say I feel that true violent offenders NEED to be tracked and should be. But, sadly, others are also being forced to register and that's not right, either.

 

[Bear]

I am interested in the link. However if you look... http://www.alldeaf.com/topic-debate...-offender-parents-pose-dilemma-schools-5.html It starts on page 5 or 6 if you guys actually read Liebling's response on page 3 of this thread.

I have to say, I am not impressed with some of the radical or reactionary ideas here because it resonates too much with a story of a gulag survivor that I know of.

I am glad Canada isn't as strict with sexual offences as Americans are.

Thank you and yes Liebling did already post the thread to my son's story. It was my son that she was talking about in an earlier post.

 

[Bear]

I have purposely said very little if anything in this thread, but I felt it was important to step in here now.

I want to preface this by saying I'm also speaking as an abuse survivor.

I tried to look for the thread Bear referenced, but could not find it. However, I will say I have seen the thread she is talking about and I am familiar with her son's story. Her son was WRONGLY accused of rape when he was just 12 years old. He spent a number of years in a juvenile facility. She is right in saying that there are innocent or non violent offenders being forced to register as a sexual offender.

Our system is FAR from perfect and I wish there was a better way to track these offenders and weed out those who should not be on the registry. What happened to her son is tragic. I am NOT saying I'm against the registry. I'm NOT. It was created for the right reasons, but as seems to be the case with our justice system, it's a flawed system. Bear is right. Parents need to teach their child about safety and not just passively depend on the sex offender registry to keep our kids safe.

Thank you Oceanbreeze.

I guess maybe I go a little too far with doing away with the registry. But yet, I do feel that these registries are being used for the wrong reasons. These registries were meant to INFORM. They were not meant for the harrassment and abuse that these people do face TOO. The way I look at it, is yes the guy that raped me should have went to prison, but after he got out, he would have deserved the right to try to rebuild his life and become a law abiding citizen. I feel that parole and probation departments are the ones that should be the watchdogs to make sure that they don't reoffend. When it is left up to the citizens there is often violence involved.

These people that are convicted have a mental health problem. Not all of them are violent sex offenders, not all of them are what you would call a true pedophile, and most certainly not all of them are sane enough to realize that their actions were wrong. I advocate more for rehabilitation than I do for retaliation.

Unfortunately, most people will not change their minds about how they act towards someone on the registry UNTIL it personally affects them. When someone they love is accused whether it be justly or wrongly, they will not change their minds.

Some of these offenders choose to basically be chemically castrated so that they may fight reoffending. Yes, they do go to this extreme. Many of them are very distraught over the fact that they cannot control their sex impulses.

Not all sex offenders are pedophiles either. We just automatically assume that. Rapists are required to register too. While I do not condone a rapist living in my neighborhood, the fact is there are many more types of people living in my neighborhood. I don't go looking for them and I dont really care if they are there.

Why? Because I choose not to let my children go to ANYONE'S house that I do not know. I do not choose to make friends with my neighbors. The only people that I choose to speak with is family members of my children. When my children were in school and they made friends, I made it a POINT to know their friends and their friend's parents. Did it stop them from being molested or raped? Luckily for me it did. However, as posted before NORMALLY a child is molested or raped by a FAMILY MEMBER or someone close to the family.

There is no foolproof 100% way of knowing who will offend a child and who wont. All we can do is try our best to keep watch on the situation and express our desires that our children not be left alone with anyone.

Lastly, I still advocate that all cases should have proof of DNA. A molester very rarely worries about DNA, and if we teach our children to tell us immediately afterwards no matter what was said to them, then there will be some signs of abuse and possibly even DNA evidence.

While my children were growing up, I told them that someone may hurt them and then threaten mommy or daddy if they told. I told them that someone may say that they will hurt mommy or daddy or grandma. I told them that they were not to believe that and that they were to know that mommy and daddy could protect themselves. I warned them about taking candy from strangers and talking to strange people. I warned them not to walk close to the street. I told them never to be ashamed, that if someone hurt them, then it was the person who hurt them, and not them. And that that person should be punished no matter who it was.

I believe if we really talk to our children then they will talk to us. Even today my daughter and son, talk to me about everything under the sun. Including sexual matters.

They are now 19 and soon to be 18 and healthy, happy people.

 

[Oceanbreeze]

Thank you Oceanbreeze.

I guess maybe I go a little too far with doing away with the registry. But yet, I do feel that these registries are being used for the wrong reasons. These registries were meant to INFORM. They were not meant for the harrassment and abuse that these people do face TOO. The way I look at it, is yes the guy that raped me should have went to prison, but after he got out, he would have deserved the right to try to rebuild his life and become a law abiding citizen. I feel that parole and probation departments are the ones that should be the watchdogs to make sure that they don't reoffend. When it is left up to the citizens there is often violence involved.

These people that are convicted have a mental health problem. Not all of them are violent sex offenders, not all of them are what you would call a true pedophile, and most certainly not all of them are sane enough to realize that their actions were wrong. I advocate more for rehabilitation than I do for retaliation.

Unfortunately, most people will not change their minds about how they act towards someone on the registry UNTIL it personally affects them. When someone they love is accused whether it be justly or wrongly, they will not change their minds.

Some of these offenders choose to basically be chemically castrated so that they may fight reoffending. Yes, they do go to this extreme. Many of them are very distraught over the fact that they cannot control their sex impulses.

Not all sex offenders are pedophiles either. We just automatically assume that. Rapists are required to register too. While I do not condone a rapist living in my neighborhood, the fact is there are many more types of people living in my neighborhood. I don't go looking for them and I dont really care if they are there.

Why? Because I choose not to let my children go to ANYONE'S house that I do not know. I do not choose to make friends with my neighbors. The only people that I choose to speak with is family members of my children. When my children were in school and they made friends, I made it a POINT to know their friends and their friend's parents. Did it stop them from being molested or raped? Luckily for me it did. However, as posted before NORMALLY a child is molested or raped by a FAMILY MEMBER or someone close to the family.

There is no foolproof 100% way of knowing who will offend a child and who wont. All we can do is try our best to keep watch on the situation and express our desires that our children not be left alone with anyone.

Lastly, I still advocate that all cases should have proof of DNA. A molester very rarely worries about DNA, and if we teach our children to tell us immediately afterwards no matter what was said to them, then there will be some signs of abuse and possibly even DNA evidence.

While my children were growing up, I told them that someone may hurt them and then threaten mommy or daddy if they told. I told them that someone may say that they will hurt mommy or daddy or grandma. I told them that they were not to believe that and that they were to know that mommy and daddy could protect themselves. I warned them about taking candy from strangers and talking to strange people. I warned them not to walk close to the street. I told them never to be ashamed, that if someone hurt them, then it was the person who hurt them, and not them. And that that person should be punished no matter who it was.

I believe if we really talk to our children then they will talk to us. Even today my daughter and son, talk to me about everything under the sun. Including sexual matters.

They are now 19 and soon to be 18 and healthy, happy people.

We have different points of view on this. I do feel that we should track violent sex offenders, and I also feel that there are offenders that can't be rehabilitated and needs to be kept away from society for life. However, there needs to be a better way to weed out those who DO NOT belong on the registry. Where you and I agree is saying that we need to teach our kids safety. Relying solely on the registry is just NOT gonna cut it.

I hope your son has adjusted well to being home and your family has been able to put the past behind you. Good luck to your family, Bear.

 

[Bear]

We have different points of view on this. I do feel that we should track violent sex offenders, and I also feel that there are offenders that can't be rehabilitated and needs to be kept away from society for life. However, there needs to be a better way to weed out those who DO NOT belong on the registry. Where you and I agree is saying that we need to teach our kids safety. Relying solely on the registry is just NOT gonna cut it.

I hope your son has adjusted well to being home and your family has been able to put the past behind you. Good luck to your family, Bear.

Thanks Oceanbreeze. Unfortunately, my son hasn't adjusted well to being home. I believe he has been what is called institutionalized. He seems to have a very hard time being on the outside and handling his freedom. He is going back to court on the 7th of August for driving without a license. He has not *reoffended* since he has been out. In fact he stays away from anyone under the age of 17 as he is currently 17. The only ones under 17 that he does socialize with are family members and at those socializations he refuses to be left alone. He stays right by an adult the whole time. He tells me he does this out of fear of being accused again. He says when he turns 18 any friends that he now has that is still 17 he will no longer associate with. I can believe that because he is so afraid of being accused again. We recently went to a friend of mines house and she had a baby, and she asked if Markie would like to hold the baby too. He was like NO! And wouldnt even touch that baby. I cannot begin to imagine how scarred he will be for the rest of his life over this. I currently have him in counseling and the records from that are not even being read by the courts or parole officer so that he may be able to feel comfortable telling his true feelings.

Unfortunately, he tells me that he wants to go back to DYS because there, there wasnt as many choices and no freedom. He tells me he is too used to being told exactly what to do and when to do it. He still asks me if he can go check the mail or mow the lawn and that is at home with no one around.

My heart really hurts for that kid and Im not sure if he will ever get over that experience. I will sometimes catch him crying when he thinks no one is watching. I once asked him why he is crying and he said Mom, I dont know how to be a normal 17 year old. I dont even know what it is like to have a childhood or played sports or gone to the prom or anything. That hurts.

It is devastating to see the aftermath of what they do to these kids.

 

[Oceanbreeze]

Thanks Oceanbreeze. Unfortunately, my son hasn't adjusted well to being home. I believe he has been what is called institutionalized. He seems to have a very hard time being on the outside and handling his freedom. He is going back to court on the 7th of August for driving without a license. He has not *reoffended* since he has been out. In fact he stays away from anyone under the age of 17 as he is currently 17. The only ones under 17 that he does socialize with are family members and at those socializations he refuses to be left alone. He stays right by an adult the whole time. He tells me he does this out of fear of being accused again. He says when he turns 18 any friends that he now has that is still 17 he will no longer associate with. I can believe that because he is so afraid of being accused again. We recently went to a friend of mines house and she had a baby, and she asked if Markie would like to hold the baby too. He was like NO! And wouldnt even touch that baby. I cannot begin to imagine how scarred he will be for the rest of his life over this. I currently have him in counseling and the records from that are not even being read by the courts or parole officer so that he may be able to feel comfortable telling his true feelings.

Unfortunately, he tells me that he wants to go back to DYS because there, there wasnt as many choices and no freedom. He tells me he is too used to being told exactly what to do and when to do it. He still asks me if he can go check the mail or mow the lawn and that is at home with no one around.

My heart really hurts for that kid and Im not sure if he will ever get over that experience. I will sometimes catch him crying when he thinks no one is watching. I once asked him why he is crying and he said Mom, I dont know how to be a normal 17 year old. I dont even know what it is like to have a childhood or played sports or gone to the prom or anything. That hurts.

It is devastating to see the aftermath of what they do to these kids.

I REALLY feel for your son. It's not easy for me, either, having been abused, but I can tell you that I would NOT want an innocent person accused of this; especially a child. When you make false accusations, it just tarnishes what is supposed to be a good system. I do not want the registry abolished, though. What I would like to see happen is the system fixed so that innocent people aren't victimized. For instance, if I am correct in saying this, your son was questioned without you present. Why? Also, if I remember right, there was a question regarding terps either in court or while your son was being questioned. A TERP SHOULD HAVE BEEN PROVIDED. I am sketchy on some of the details of your situation, but I can tell you that when I read it, I was appalled.

 

[Bear]

I REALLY feel for your son. It's not easy for me, either, having been abused, but I can tell you that I would NOT want an innocent person accused of this; especially a child. When you make false accusations, it just tarnishes what is supposed to be a good system. I do not want the registry abolished, though. What I would like to see happen is the system fixed so that innocent people aren't victimized. For instance, if I am correct in saying this, your son was questioned without you present. Why? Also, if I remember right, there was a question regarding terps either in court or while your son was being questioned. A TERP SHOULD HAVE BEEN PROVIDED. I am sketchy on some of the details of your situation, but I can tell you that when I read it, I was appalled.

Some things about his case I will just never be able to answer. I still to this day cannot believe that questioning him without me being present is legal but they say that it is. Also the terp thing when I called about it years ago I was told that the courts ONLY HAD to provide a terp if you YOURSELF was the defendant in the case. So I really dont know. I am thinking about selling my house and moving out of the state of Ohio and trying to start over somewhere else. But we do have to wait till my son is off parole and when that will be who knows? They can keep him on parole till he is 21 years of age. I dont think we will ever truly heal from this. But as long as we are in the state of Ohio, I believe we would never be able to trust in this system again. Ohio is truly fucked up!

 

[sallylou]

I'm sorry for your personal experience, Bear. I'm sorry for your pain.

Most children do not lie about being sexually assaulted. Children in particular often recant and say that it did not occur when it did (especially when the perpetrator is a family member).

It's not appropriate to put the onerous on children to avoid sexual assault. That's what you're advocating when you say that parents have to teach their children to tell or not allow it. Such a big responsibility for a child who doesn't even understand exactly what sexual assault is. Might as well ask them to prevent alien invasion, too. I have no concept of aliens in my mind.

I understand that parents want to believe that instructing their children will protect them but it won't. There was a teenager nabbed at a bus stop with a crowd of kids a while back. How was this teen supposed to stop that?

Where I have I heard something similar? Oh, yea, I'm not supposed to dress in immodest clothing, go out after dark, or consume a drink in public so that I won't be raped. Yet, modestly dressed women who only go out in daylight and never drink are raped. Contrary to popular belief, women do not ask for it. Neither do children.

The perpetrator of sexual assault is always responsible, not the victim. Let the perpetrators face the consequences of their own actions. Perpetrators should not be allowed around potential victims because of their predatory behavior.

 

[Oceanbreeze]

Some things about his case I will just never be able to answer. I still to this day cannot believe that questioning him without me being present is legal but they say that it is. Also the terp thing when I called about it years ago I was told that the courts ONLY HAD to provide a terp if you YOURSELF was the defendant in the case. So I really dont know. I am thinking about selling my house and moving out of the state of Ohio and trying to start over somewhere else. But we do have to wait till my son is off parole and when that will be who knows? They can keep him on parole till he is 21 years of age. I dont think we will ever truly heal from this. But as long as we are in the state of Ohio, I believe we would never be able to trust in this system again. Ohio is truly fucked up!

I believe it, Bear. Do what you have to, to heal your family the best you can. If you need to move, do so. Your son deserves a fresh start. I, too, am not sure your son will truly heal from his experience, but he deserves the opportunity to try. It doesn't sound like he can't get a fair chance to do so until you leave Ohio.

This whole thing makes me ill. On the one hand, you have violent offenders who are let out to reoffend or possibly kill, and on the other hand, you have situations like yours where someone is accused of something they didn't do!

Where is the justice in any of this? Its just NOT there and that sickens me!

 

[C.C.Sinned]

I wish they would do away with this registry. Only the cops and courts should know where they live. It is not our business to know

I disagree with these statements.

I have not read about your son's case yet but will soon. I'm only going to disagree with what I quoted...


we have several dangerous pedophiles in my town. they are repeat offenders. two of whom have been in prison multiple times because they raped children under 12. If it was not for Megan's Law and the registry residents would not know they were in our town.

One of these child rapists tried to go into our school during the "Field Day" activites. "Field Day is at the end of the school year and the children of all ages compete in relay races. well a few years ago the child rapist, who does not have children and not allowed near kids, schools, play grounds and so on, showed up at our school. He tried to con his way into the gym to watch the children. the gym teacher recognized his photo from the registry. the police removed him from the school and all that. if it wasn't for that registry anything could have happed that day. The perv could have taken any child and raped them right there in the building.

since that incident the school district adopted many new safety policies. no adults allowed in any areas but the gym/auditorium, parent registration in the office and escorts needed while visiting...



the majority of the people on that sex offender registy are as guilty as Hell. Children need to be safe and parents need to know to keep them safe.

 

[Bear]

CC while I can see exactly what you are saying and in some ways I do agree with you. But the real problem for me is not so much as people knowing who is living where, it is HOW they use that registry. Many people do not just use the registry to protect their kids for the knowledge of who is living close to them. Many people use it to drive that person right out of their homes, they vandalize the sex offenders house, and sometimes the sex offender even ends up dead by someone killing him or her.

I dont disagree with the registry itself. Just how people use that registry. If you were to look at the registry for KNOWLEDGE that would be fine in my books. But unfortunately, many dont. Look at a story above where a woman purposely got a daycare license just so she can have the sex offender legislated right out of the neighborhood. That is wrong in my opinion. Sadly that is something that happens alot.


I agree that the registry provides a good service such as what happened at your school. That is what it is there to do, such as what happened at your school. However, it shouldnt be there to drive someone out of their homes.

Hopefully, this clears up why I am against the registry as it is today.

 

[Bear]

I believe it, Bear. Do what you have to, to heal your family the best you can. If you need to move, do so. Your son deserves a fresh start. I, too, am not sure your son will truly heal from his experience, but he deserves the opportunity to try. It doesn't sound like he can't get a fair chance to do so until you leave Ohio.

This whole thing makes me ill. On the one hand, you have violent offenders who are let out to reoffend or possibly kill, and on the other hand, you have situations like yours where someone is accused of something they didn't do!

Where is the justice in any of this? Its just NOT there and that sickens me!

Oceanbreeze oh I know!! I totally agree about justice. There most certainly isnt any justice. There are so many sides of this issue that just literally pisses me off!!! I get so mad when I think about it.

When my son got arrested for this. There was a Deputy Sheriff right here in the same county that was arrested for having sex with a 14 year old!! They found letters from the sheriff to this girl describing things they had done and things he wanted to do with her. The sheriff was tried for this and only got 18 months!!! Where is the fairness in that? We treat the kids worse than the adults? We are currently holding our kids to a higher standard than we are the adults. On top of that the sheriff himself that was caught doing this is NOT required to register. WTF is that?

Ok I better shut up because if not I could keep you reading all night LOL.

 

[C.C.Sinned]

Bear, well that is horrible. I don't agree with it being abused. by that I mean vigilaties reacting like an angry mob. i find that wrong. as well.
Megan's law and the sex offender registry are very new. we must work out the flaws and quickly. I just don't believe it should be scrapped. we need to fix it so the offences listed aren't so vague or clarify offenses. also make it a crime to witch hunt and harass.


yes there is a problem with the people that view the registry. there will be flaws in the system and the human response of those that view it. however the registry does help and it is there to protect people by making them aware of a possibly dangerous situation. just look at why Megan's law was made. if the parents knew there was dangerous sexual predator about they would have watched Megan more carefully...

 

[Oceanbreeze]

Oceanbreeze oh I know!! I totally agree about justice. There most certainly isnt any justice. There are so many sides of this issue that just literally pisses me off!!! I get so mad when I think about it.

When my son got arrested for this. There was a Deputy Sheriff right here in the same county that was arrested for having sex with a 14 year old!! They found letters from the sheriff to this girl describing things they had done and things he wanted to do with her. The sheriff was tried for this and only got 18 months!!! Where is the fairness in that? We treat the kids worse than the adults? We are currently holding our kids to a higher standard than we are the adults. On top of that the sheriff himself that was caught doing this is NOT required to register. WTF is that?

Ok I better shut up because if not I could keep you reading all night LOL.

No, you won't My brain has an internal clock it goes by. It absolutely stops functioning after a certain point, so I'm good!

But, seriously... I really don't think we NEED to say anymore. It's been said. The whole system is horribly broken and it needs to be fixed. As a nation, we need to leave our egos out of this, put aside partisanship, and get down to business. We can't just make up new laws as we go along. That is what has been happening, and the system is just getting more and more screwed up. I say we gut everything and start over. Keep the laws that have shown effective and throw out the junk that doesn't work. Tweak what does and go from there. Whether that happens, I don't know, but that is what I hope for.

Boy, it's nice to dream!

 

[C.C.Sinned]

Oceanbreeze oh I know!! I totally agree about justice. There most certainly isnt any justice. There are so many sides of this issue that just literally pisses me off!!! I get so mad when I think about it.

When my son got arrested for this. There was a Deputy Sheriff right here in the same county that was arrested for having sex with a 14 year old!! They found letters from the sheriff to this girl describing things they had done and things he wanted to do with her. The sheriff was tried for this and only got 18 months!!! Where is the fairness in that? We treat the kids worse than the adults? We are currently holding our kids to a higher standard than we are the adults. On top of that the sheriff himself that was caught doing this is NOT required to register. WTF is that?

Ok I better shut up because if not I could keep you reading all night LOL.

that bastard better be on the registry

 

[Bear]

that bastard better be on the registry

Let me see if I can find the story. Its well over 5 years old so may be hard to find online now. But I will try.

 

[zerodog]

I didn't expect to see this again because I know someone and thing get blast out heat about word 'Sex Offender'

I am not afraid of Sex Offender, its my job to protect my child. If you hang loose and not being pay attention. Who fault, it us, the parent is explain what wrong and what is right.

My fear is to know someone who is murder. They can just turn their mind and decide do with the angry and kill me for simple mistake.

Afterall I read but I do find some turn me off. If I discover and flame about that person who is Sex Offender. Most important, do your homework. It is his first time being sex offender. If first attempt, depend on age...

Like Whisperhouse is say right most of them...

I got to say it not true... because other say will repeat... yes it true whenever you don't agree such as give people second chance...

I think that educate need teach who turn teenager or who turn 11th or 12 grade to take course about 'something that can ruin your life'. My point, it is good idea but it will encourage them to revenge someone else.

I think that system at court is not success because tiny tiny people didn't do it. For example; one person got charge for as Sex Offender and went on court turn out it false and waived that person. It other person who did that to him has total destroy his life such as can't find job, can't reunion his love children and wife. It just banned that person not to into their life.

Other example; I know someone who have betray and that person is Sex Offender and we believe him because that family got to do something. In mean time... the Sex Offender doesn't mean to repeat such as sex again with children... it can mean fake name, make up stories, not honest...

So I swear myself whoever is Sex Offender, I am not going be their friend period! Reason; it will repeat with lying...

It big different on that one... Again, scream and tale tell will not solve problem. It about kid learn responsible from parent. If we, the parent, didn't talk about it or teach them to protect themselves. It parent fault because kid need love, attention and be with person. some kid doesn't need person... some kid has different purpose have their mind and comfortable.

Please bear and not want any bash this one... because I have someone who is my family member is a sex offender and I don't talk to him period due lying to his parents and me and more... I am afraid he would have 1 chance to repeat.

want know or asking, but I don't like to see 'how do you feel if your daughter being raped'. Excuse me, the son can raped by teacher... tell me the different