whodatshroom
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I had alot of rumors about me, what i do is go to the person and straighten it out, thats all..rumors are just words..fuck them!
Originally posted by Angelcat
people who talk bad things to babyphat by the way looks ... that is wrong.. those people needs to learn how to meet you and get know you frist than just looks... bec im sure that I know babyphat can be good person and beautiful inside than outside. people need learn how to do right way.. oh well sigh i know it is hard for deafies to understand what is right or wrong .
Originally posted by vphreak
know what!!!!
DEAF WORLD IS FULL OF CRAPS RUMORS!
I agree with you on this one. I smile a lot in real life. Sometimes they'll have to really know me then they'll know who we are.Originally posted by SweetKid
mmm yeah. I have had people saying things like I was a fake and two faced.. just because I smile too much. I love smiling at people and being happy. pretty annoying after a while to have people make that assumption. But I m not going to change because that's how I am.
all you can really do is ignore them and move on. Only the smart ones will not believe those and find out for themselves. otherwise, they're just stupid and not worth your time to get to know.
Originally posted by BabyPhat21
thanks girl, but I dont like that they are spreading rumors about me before they even get to know me........ now if people hear my name they may think about the rumors they heard.....I wear alot of baby phat and I am very unique - not that many oral deaf middle easterns where I live.....I stand out very much........ I am worried now about meeting Deaf people since the world is small and they could hear things about me and judge me before I open my mouth - first impressions are very important. It is fine if they think I am this and that but another thing if they want to get people to STAY away or be against me........
babyphat, I think i agree with her and other person say about true friends. you are not only one because same thing happen to my friends. I don't care about your past and my friends's past..just be move on and think of present for get new friends and life.Originally posted by Liza
I agree with Katziechick.... at 'em.... they are simply not worthy of your association, babyphat... deaf culture or not. I never hang out with those who are like that, even when I'm in a strong deaf community like Gallaudet. Not all folks are like that, thank goodness. I've had the luck of meeting some really awesome deaf people.
I think the rumor mill and the so called deafie thing are due to learned behavior... survival and bullying tactics to make themselves feel good, I suppose. They probably haven't learned another way that is positive to feel good about themselves yet. I have been discussing with a friend about this very social problem that seems to be rampant in the deaf community, and especially in other communities... hell, folks in Puerto Rico and Norway are prone to the very same thing! It's not limited to deaf folks. It's like meeting someone who easily whips out insults at you... "you stupid girl!" " you idiot!".... that kind of thing! I've often told people to not do that because I simply don't like it... and they don't do it. They will learn and adapt for the better.. thanks to you!
Just keep on being your true self, and you will attract the kind of friends, deaf or hearing/hoh that will like you for you. I think you're a good person.
Originally posted by BostonIceFire
NO shit... Just because someone told a guy one thing and within half hour, almost the entire community knows!
Originally posted by BabyPhat21
I went to a deaf event and just because I was talking to some guys - there is already rumors that I am flirting and a slut. I was just practicing my sign.......and two I was not dressed sexy. I really hate that people judge so much......I dont know what to do - i feel like yelling at the people with the wrong ideas but that is not gonna get them to change their opinions of me. I just ignoring them but feeling a bit helpless.