Respect for all

The audiologist is stupid to say things.

Unbelievable I read whole these pages from 1 to end..

My gosh.. :sure:

Yeah Banjo, that what my second thought where is their child speak it out ???

Isn't worth this debate here..

Whoever The parents always think RIGHT everything push Deaf Community away. where you get your FRIGG'N OWN CI-FORUMS.. why here? CI-FORUMS should have peace your mind and discussing your food of thoughts feedback instead here!

(sigh)
I wish Admin should have not create CI thread here...
Get their own frigg'n CI forum.. get their pocket pull out of $ buy domain!
Let Parent can feel comfortable and discussing.. I've seen you everyone kept constantly bashing to Deaf community, and directly putting Deaf people's mouth shut up!
I'm not allow you like that way!

(blabbering angrily)

Most of us here are deaf adults who have chosen to have a CI and who share our experiences, ask questions and give advice. This is one positive reason to keep this forum here.

There are hardly any parents of children with CIs here (!)
 
Then why are you reading the Hearing Aids/CI threads? Don't even bother trying to read it if you feel that it's getting your feathers riled up. You are entitled to your own opinion, but don't get mad at US for having an opinion.

All I can tell you is this, don't even bother reading these threads. But hey, it's freedom of speech.

You have said so well. This area of all deaf is about hearing aids and cochlear implants and if people don't want too they do not have to come over to these threads.
 
In my opinion alldeaf was created for all people that have different experiences with issues related to people who are deaf. It seems like if we do not believe in what everyone else believes then we are not welcome and are asked to leave. I have personally have been asked to leave several times. Since I so secured in what I believe you cannot scared me away the people that you scared away are those parents that have doubts of what to do and those are the parents that need you the most because they are unsure as to what to do. I have been told over and over again that I need to respect people here but very few people seem to respect me. I have been told that I had no right to be rude to someone. Yes, a couple of times I have been rude and have not been specific enough to the person that I meant to rude to because they were rude to me. I offend people that I did not mean to offend and I have apologized for that and I apologize again.

I believe in oral education only. I believe in the Deaf community. But most importantly I believe that parents have the right to make decisions in their child's life if they are informed decision. I believe that no one has the right to tell me how to raise my child. No one has the right to tell me not to implant my child. What I feel that people have the right to do is to tell to make an informed decision after seeking out all options, which is what I did.

I have changed my views a bit on how long a child should stay in an oral program before I thought I need a year to two. Now I know that I need I only need 6 months to a year. I know that will not be good enough for some of you.

If you want me to respect you then respect me. I strongly believe in treating people as I want them to treat me. Please understand that you will not be able to change my mind just as I will not be able to change your mind. The best thing to do is just agree to disagree and I am not going to be going away. I do have a lot of contact with newly diagnosis families and I would love to find away to tell them about all of your experiences without scaring them away. As I said you cannot scare me away because I am so secured in the decisions I have made for my children.
 
You are right success and happines is different for different people. The gentleman I was talking about said that he was happy. He went to Havard law so I would assume anyone that can go through Harvard would be successful.

Yes, different for different people.

I had a full ride to Harvard. And was accepted at Yale. And I had my foot in medical school before becoming a teacher. Success? It depends on how you look at it.

I had 3.8 GPA in tenth grade in a full-inclusion environment. I didn't even go to speech training at that point anymore. I didn't have an interpreter...I was in a true oral-only environment, relying on speechreading and speech only. (I was born profoundly deaf, both ears). I was enrolled in all those clubs, being a vice-president here, a secretary there, etc; I was friends with nearly every kid in the school. I was on the homecoming court a few times and won numerous awards, etc. People was constantly telling me they couldn't believe I was deaf - my speech was nearly perfect - perfect at times but with a slight accent. Success?

I was very skilled at one thing - hiding how much I didn't know...or understand...and felt.

It is EVERY parent's right to choose what is best for their child...period. I have no right to judge what decisions the parent makes. It is MY job to make sure the parent is fully informed of all options. And once the parent decides, then it becomes my job to fully equip the parent with all the resources and tools needed. To be fully honest with you- when I hear the words circling around the oral approach - I cringe. Yes, success happens. But what success may mean to one person...may mean different to another.

I was A.G. Bell's poster oral child.

My mother made the choice of oralism based on research and recommendations of medical professionals... and based on doing what she truly thought was best for me. For that - I applaud her.

But this poster child was dying inside. One thing about most of us (no, not all) who experienced oralism will tell you...it is crucial to learn how to fake it...to make it. If you don't understand, don't you DARE tell anyone...they'll know you didn't try hard enough. If you don't understand, it's your fault. You didn't speechread or pay attention hard enough. If you don't know how to say that word, find another word that is easier to say. And for god's sake, keep your mouth shut as often as possible. Nod a lot. It looks like you understand everything. And smile a lot. Be polite. Be a good girl. Fake it - you are just like "Them." And that was okay for a while...what else was I supposed to do? I don't understand a lot of things, but that's normal, right? Then one day I decided - I didn't want to take the hard way anymore just to make other people's lives easier. That's what oralism did for my family - it made THEIR lives easier. And mine harder. I didn't want to just have speech...I wanted a voice. And through ASL - I found my voice.
 
Yes, different for different people.

I had a full ride to Harvard. And was accepted at Yale. And I had my foot in medical school before becoming a teacher. Success? It depends on how you look at it.

I had 3.8 GPA in tenth grade in a full-inclusion environment. I didn't even go to speech training at that point anymore. I didn't have an interpreter...I was in a true oral-only environment, relying on speechreading and speech only. (I was born profoundly deaf, both ears). I was enrolled in all those clubs, being a vice-president here, a secretary there, etc; I was friends with nearly every kid in the school. I was on the homecoming court a few times and won numerous awards, etc. People was constantly telling me they couldn't believe I was deaf - my speech was nearly perfect - perfect at times but with a slight accent. Success?

I was very skilled at one thing - hiding how much I didn't know...or understand...and felt.

It is EVERY parent's right to choose what is best for their child...period. I have no right to judge what decisions the parent makes. It is MY job to make sure the parent is fully informed of all options. And once the parent decides, then it becomes my job to fully equip the parent with all the resources and tools needed. To be fully honest with you- when I hear the words circling around the oral approach - I cringe. Yes, success happens. But what success may mean to one person...may mean different to another.

I was A.G. Bell's poster oral child.

My mother made the choice of oralism based on research and recommendations of medical professionals... and based on doing what she truly thought was best for me. For that - I applaud her.

But this poster child was dying inside. One thing about most of us (no, not all) who experienced oralism will tell you...it is crucial to learn how to fake it...to make it. If you don't understand, don't you DARE tell anyone...they'll know you didn't try hard enough. If you don't understand, it's your fault. You didn't speechread or pay attention hard enough. If you don't know how to say that word, find another word that is easier to say. And for god's sake, keep your mouth shut as often as possible. Nod a lot. It looks like you understand everything. And smile a lot. Be polite. Be a good girl. Fake it - you are just like "Them." And that was okay for a while...what else was I supposed to do? I don't understand a lot of things, but that's normal, right? Then one day I decided - I didn't want to take the hard way anymore just to make other people's lives easier. That's what oralism did for my family - it made THEIR lives easier. And mine harder. I didn't want to just have speech...I wanted a voice. And through ASL - I found my voice.

:gpost: :gpost:

Everything u wrote, is exactly what I experienced growing up in the oral-only environment. Also, I was such a "good" little girl because I did what everyone told me to do even though I was struggling to keep up with everyone else. I never spoke up once due to fear and intimidation by being around only hearing people. I felt that everyone else knew best for me and what I felt wasnt worth expressing.

I love the last sentence. I found my voice through ASL too. It was like a huge weight that had been getting heavier and heavier as the years go by suddenly disappeared. It was great and very freeing and that is what I want for all deaf children.
 
Yes, different for different people.

I had a full ride to Harvard. And was accepted at Yale. And I had my foot in medical school before becoming a teacher. Success? It depends on how you look at it.

I had 3.8 GPA in tenth grade in a full-inclusion environment. I didn't even go to speech training at that point anymore. I didn't have an interpreter...I was in a true oral-only environment, relying on speechreading and speech only. (I was born profoundly deaf, both ears). I was enrolled in all those clubs, being a vice-president here, a secretary there, etc; I was friends with nearly every kid in the school. I was on the homecoming court a few times and won numerous awards, etc. People was constantly telling me they couldn't believe I was deaf - my speech was nearly perfect - perfect at times but with a slight accent. Success?

I was very skilled at one thing - hiding how much I didn't know...or understand...and felt.

It is EVERY parent's right to choose what is best for their child...period. I have no right to judge what decisions the parent makes. It is MY job to make sure the parent is fully informed of all options. And once the parent decides, then it becomes my job to fully equip the parent with all the resources and tools needed. To be fully honest with you- when I hear the words circling around the oral approach - I cringe. Yes, success happens. But what success may mean to one person...may mean different to another.

I was A.G. Bell's poster oral child.

My mother made the choice of oralism based on research and recommendations of medical professionals... and based on doing what she truly thought was best for me. For that - I applaud her.

But this poster child was dying inside. One thing about most of us (no, not all) who experienced oralism will tell you...it is crucial to learn how to fake it...to make it. If you don't understand, don't you DARE tell anyone...they'll know you didn't try hard enough. If you don't understand, it's your fault. You didn't speechread or pay attention hard enough. If you don't know how to say that word, find another word that is easier to say. And for god's sake, keep your mouth shut as often as possible. Nod a lot. It looks like you understand everything. And smile a lot. Be polite. Be a good girl. Fake it - you are just like "Them." And that was okay for a while...what else was I supposed to do? I don't understand a lot of things, but that's normal, right? Then one day I decided - I didn't want to take the hard way anymore just to make other people's lives easier. That's what oralism did for my family - it made THEIR lives easier. And mine harder. I didn't want to just have speech...I wanted a voice. And through ASL - I found my voice.

How do u feel about deaf kids becoming delayed in language because they didnt have full access to language or falling so far behind in academics cuz they missed out too much on what is being taught in the classrooms?
 
Yes, different for different people.

I had a full ride to Harvard. And was accepted at Yale. And I had my foot in medical school before becoming a teacher. Success? It depends on how you look at it.

I had 3.8 GPA in tenth grade in a full-inclusion environment. I didn't even go to speech training at that point anymore. I didn't have an interpreter...I was in a true oral-only environment, relying on speechreading and speech only. (I was born profoundly deaf, both ears). I was enrolled in all those clubs, being a vice-president here, a secretary there, etc; I was friends with nearly every kid in the school. I was on the homecoming court a few times and won numerous awards, etc. People was constantly telling me they couldn't believe I was deaf - my speech was nearly perfect - perfect at times but with a slight accent. Success?

I was very skilled at one thing - hiding how much I didn't know...or understand...and felt.

It is EVERY parent's right to choose what is best for their child...period. I have no right to judge what decisions the parent makes. It is MY job to make sure the parent is fully informed of all options. And once the parent decides, then it becomes my job to fully equip the parent with all the resources and tools needed. To be fully honest with you- when I hear the words circling around the oral approach - I cringe. Yes, success happens. But what success may mean to one person...may mean different to another.

I was A.G. Bell's poster oral child.

My mother made the choice of oralism based on research and recommendations of medical professionals... and based on doing what she truly thought was best for me. For that - I applaud her.

But this poster child was dying inside. One thing about most of us (no, not all) who experienced oralism will tell you...it is crucial to learn how to fake it...to make it. If you don't understand, don't you DARE tell anyone...they'll know you didn't try hard enough. If you don't understand, it's your fault. You didn't speechread or pay attention hard enough. If you don't know how to say that word, find another word that is easier to say. And for god's sake, keep your mouth shut as often as possible. Nod a lot. It looks like you understand everything. And smile a lot. Be polite. Be a good girl. Fake it - you are just like "Them." And that was okay for a while...what else was I supposed to do? I don't understand a lot of things, but that's normal, right? Then one day I decided - I didn't want to take the hard way anymore just to make other people's lives easier. That's what oralism did for my family - it made THEIR lives easier. And mine harder. I didn't want to just have speech...I wanted a voice. And through ASL - I found my voice.

I would like to say something, I really respect how you worded your post. You said everything in a clear and thoughtful manner without being mean and disrespectful. You are the type of person that should out there speaking to parents. I am not sure what you do for a living but I think you would be great with parents and children. Good luck to you. And I will print your post and show it to my children and have a discussion with them about it. I have told my children that if they choose to drop their voice or even get more involved in the Deaf culture that is OK with me. And I will ask them if this is how they feel.
 
EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!!!!! Through ASL as an additional tool you don't have to work so hard. It's exactly like how a legally blind person could have enough vision to be able to use low vision aids (eg large print etc) BUT, they might be able to do EVEN better with using Braille.
 
EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!!!!! Through ASL as an additional tool you don't have to work so hard. It's exactly like how a legally blind person could have enough vision to be able to use low vision aids (eg large print etc) BUT, they might be able to do EVEN better with using Braille.

To some people, the use of ASL would mean taking the easy way out. That itself does not make one ounce of sense to me.
 
originally posted by deafbajagal


It is EVERY parent's right to choose what is best for their child...period. I have no right to judge what decisions the parent makes. It is MY job to make sure the parent is fully informed of all options. And once the parent decides, then it becomes my job to fully equip the parent with all the resources and tools needed. To be fully honest with you- when I hear the words circling around the oral approach - I cringe. Yes, success happens. But what success may mean to one person...may mean different to another.

Do you provide information regarding the system of Cued Speech ?
 
originally posted by deafbajagal




Do you provide information regarding the system of Cued Speech ?

As a matter of fact, I do. The information I present must be research-based. With CS, information is scarce compared to other methods of teaching literacy and modes of making English more visual.

All options that I know of are discussed on the table. And everything I tell the parent is research-based...if I ever refer them to a journal article, I make sure it is peer-reviewed. After the options come the most important discussion - the child. What is best for this particular CHILD?

My personal opinion is never expressed. Ever. Only my professional opinion. It's hard to do it - but that's my job. Using my professional opinion - I help the parents through possibly one of the most difficult yet for sure one of the most important discussion they can ever have about their child...and what an awesome responsiblity I have to make sure that when they leave my classroom/office, they leave feeling that they have been fully informed by a professional who understood that only THEY can truly make the best decision...if we would only let them. And trust them. And be there for them - through the good and bad times. And that they know it is ok to change their minds...it is okay to feel all of these emotions they are feeling...and that it is okay to have a deaf child. And it is okay to be parents of a deaf child. Because they will have at least one person they can come and feel comfortable to talk with and ask questions. Because this professional leaves the nasty politics and personal opinions in the umbrella rack, outside. This post is about respect - you will find it inside. Come on in - I may be Deaf, but I can listen. I may not agree with your decision...in fact, I might even cry when you leave. But I will support you and your child...in whatever ways I can.
 
That's *Exactly* what I'm looking for by people who are against CI. I respect you a lot more because you backed your feelings up...and that's pretty good statement!

I agree that organizations with deaf board members and government should at least control CI implantations. I'm not saying that CI should not be used at all, but there should be some strict rules. Having said that, it would be tough because then those people who want to implant their child or themselves will say that the government is too controlling and there's no freedom of choice. This is speaking from US point of view. It's a no win situation. If there are some rules/guidelines, what's going to happen if the people that were already implanted break the rules?

What rules would you like to see implemented if you don't mind me asking. :)

Great we aren't strangling each other :)

That question was a hard one! My idea is that I trust deaf and hoh people, with and without CI, more than doctors that only know how a cochlear looks like.

But let me try..

1. 99 percent of deaf people I have talked with, even those with CI, agree that early ASL is a good thing. This means we perhaps would have to ban the practice where deaf children are restricted from ASL after diagnosis. Refusing to exposure children to early ASL would then be criminalized and defined as child abuse.

2. Oral charity organizations should be banned/restricted. A suggestion is to require them to have a majority of deaf or HOH board members or change their missions. Incompetent, poor and insecure parents are easy prey for those organizations today.

3. I do not agree completely on informed decisions. People can know everything about drugs and still choose to hit that smack. From what I have seen, there is often personal feelings and experiences that make parents choose speech or ASL or both. For example, a hearing mom that experiences great disapointment from the rest of family when the child is deaf, is much more prone to choose oral only, than a hearing that perhaps have an ASL interpreter in the family. A deaf family with bad experiences with oralism, perhaps needs to get forced to exposure their children to speech therapy to see if the child can benfit from that. Some rules here could make it easier for parents with great resistance in their family or prejudices that are hard to overcome. We need to give the deaf children some extra protection and rights so they can get early access to a full lanuage on the same level as hearing children. It should be banned to experiment with CI and restricting deaf children to oral languages.

4. Advertisement for drugs are quite often strict. The same should apply for CI. The brouchures I have seen looks like advertisement for toys, and feel they confuse more than clarify.

5. Regarding FDA approval, deaf people with CI should be a part of the teams evaluating rules, to avoid sellers giving false information. Those could be selected by NAD and HOH organizations.

Ok, this was just some suggestions, that perhaps can help control the use of CI. I belive US can handle laws like this as they already have some strict laws on gay marriage, use of recreational drugs and sex behavior compared to some other countries :)
 
When my kids were diagnosis, we really thought about how should we raise them. While I was not against them being raise with sign language I wanted them to have choices. The research that I did showed me that if a profoundly deaf child was raised in both oral and sign language they would take off in the sign language and not the oral language (I know some of you disagree with me but this what I found out back them). Our thoughts were lets raised them in oral language and them when they are old enough to make their own decisions they can just be oral, oral and sign, or drop their voice and just sign. But I was going to give them a choice and they now have a choice. And they are more oral then sign but they have very close friends that just sign and since niether drives yet, I either take them to see their sign only friends or they come to our home but they have choice. I would not change a thing about the way I have raised them. My children know why we made the decisions we have made. I know many of you have said that you wished your parents learned sign language. I would be more then happy to learn sign language. I have taken a couple of classes but am not fluent but I would be more then happy to try to become fluent if my children want me too.



I know what like to grow up with hearing parents that drive me crazy but also cause the family to become disconnect because my folks listen to doctors too much telling them how they should raise me. They told my folks at first the deaf children have a very slow learning disablities and it like retardations. That not true. They put me in speech classes to force me to learn to speak. I would have perfer sign language over speech. Doctors don't know everything about deaf and hoh all the time. Deaf child and hoh child can learn to read and write above 3rd grade and still do well up to 8th grade. I am pretty sure there are lot of deaf and hoh kids and deaf adults did very well with a good educations. My advice you can look up on internets that can be helpful to find a good deaf school that does good with a deaf child's educations programs. I know it can't be easy for you but honestly I think lots of doctors can be quacks sometimes they just smell money. :)
 
Yes, different for different people.

I had a full ride to Harvard. And was accepted at Yale. And I had my foot in medical school before becoming a teacher. Success? It depends on how you look at it.

I had 3.8 GPA in tenth grade in a full-inclusion environment. I didn't even go to speech training at that point anymore. I didn't have an interpreter...I was in a true oral-only environment, relying on speechreading and speech only. (I was born profoundly deaf, both ears). I was enrolled in all those clubs, being a vice-president here, a secretary there, etc; I was friends with nearly every kid in the school. I was on the homecoming court a few times and won numerous awards, etc. People was constantly telling me they couldn't believe I was deaf - my speech was nearly perfect - perfect at times but with a slight accent. Success?

I was very skilled at one thing - hiding how much I didn't know...or understand...and felt.

It is EVERY parent's right to choose what is best for their child...period. I have no right to judge what decisions the parent makes. It is MY job to make sure the parent is fully informed of all options. And once the parent decides, then it becomes my job to fully equip the parent with all the resources and tools needed. To be fully honest with you- when I hear the words circling around the oral approach - I cringe. Yes, success happens. But what success may mean to one person...may mean different to another.

I was A.G. Bell's poster oral child.

My mother made the choice of oralism based on research and recommendations of medical professionals... and based on doing what she truly thought was best for me. For that - I applaud her.

But this poster child was dying inside. One thing about most of us (no, not all) who experienced oralism will tell you...it is crucial to learn how to fake it...to make it. If you don't understand, don't you DARE tell anyone...they'll know you didn't try hard enough. If you don't understand, it's your fault. You didn't speechread or pay attention hard enough. If you don't know how to say that word, find another word that is easier to say. And for god's sake, keep your mouth shut as often as possible. Nod a lot. It looks like you understand everything. And smile a lot. Be polite. Be a good girl. Fake it - you are just like "Them." And that was okay for a while...what else was I supposed to do? I don't understand a lot of things, but that's normal, right? Then one day I decided - I didn't want to take the hard way anymore just to make other people's lives easier. That's what oralism did for my family - it made THEIR lives easier. And mine harder. I didn't want to just have speech...I wanted a voice. And through ASL - I found my voice.

:gpost:!! You spoke the truth, because it had happened to me as well.
 
Our school boards here are elected. So you would have to run for election. You just qualify for election. School boards are not the ones with any "power." The are limited by the state and local government. About all deaf boards, I am against segratation. I am against complete segratation. From what I read in blogs about the number of deaf teachers in deaf schools the number is not even a majority.

I am a teacher and I do push my students to the max. I have former students in college and in great jobs. They turned out to be great adults.

If you want to get involve in improving education, you can apply for a position on advisory boards with the state government. I am asked to be part of the Council for Special Education in our state government. It is an appointed position.

My stomach turned flips each time I read how you separate children/groups into races and religion, I just don't believe in it.

Vallee, your stomach turned flips whenever there are private Catholic schools???? Whenever there are private Jewish schools???? Does that means you think that the private schools ought to be illegal??? :cool2:

I just remember where I read this. It came from a booklet from NAD and it is a reprint from "The Deaf American", Vol. 21, No. 11, July-August 1969, pages 3-6. Authors are McCay Vernon, Ph.D. and Bernard Makowsky, MSW. I'll read some parts.

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"Of prime importance in this endeavor is an understanding of the factors present that permit minorities such as Jews, Mormons and Orientals to attain prominence and success in American society whereas other groups such as Puerto Ricans, Negroes and American Indians do not."
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"By contrast Jews, Mormons and Orientals have either developed their own educational instituations, influenced public ones or combined these programs. In addition these minority groups are appropriately represented by their own in the overall political system assuring them of reasonable power and control over their basic socio-economic circumstance."
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(It goes on about how "the Indians schools were dominated by white bureaucrats secure in well-paying civil positions" and that African-Americans and Puerto Ricans were put in ghetto schools "where the control is in the hand of the dominant group power structure." There is no deaf person in top administrative positions. Remember this paper is dated 1969. It is about time for the Deaf President of Gallaudet!!!!)
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(This part talks of teachers who cannot fathom their students' life circumstances.) "Frequently there are low expectations or else a 'Lady Bountiful' milieu which is depreciating to minority group children and attack their self worth. The imposition of a value system in the best way may be undemocratic and in the final analysis is a reinforcement of an already poor self image."
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"The deaf youngster faces an analogous situation in many respects [Sanderson, 1969]. The National Association of the Deaf has long supported the use of the language of signs and finerspelling. Yet the child is taught that these modalities, the only ones he can master for purposes of full communication with other deaf persons and with his family, are bad. This negative value is transmitted by its being forbidden to him and his family by the school, His teachers rarely know the language and frequently refuse to use it if they do. Convertly and openly he and his parents are told that it is better if he chooses non-deaf friends, By contrast the Jew, the Greek Orthodox and the American Oriental teach their ethnic languages and relate them to English, the end result being a better mastery of both and a more healthy communication between child and family [Schlesinger 1967]."
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"The discrimination against the deaf as a group may be observed on many levels. Most public school program for deaf children, as for example in Chicago, forbid the hiring of deaf teachers. There are many teacher preparation centers which will not accept deaf candidates [Newman, 1969]"
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"Gallaudet, the world's only college for the deaf, has a policy of selection and requirements for educational certification that discourages and/or eliminates many deaf young people from becoming teachers." (Since Shel90 is a teacher so this must have been dropped since then.)
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"Needless to say the 'in group' educational power structure has resented the change in established procedures which has given more authority to deaf leadership. In reaction it has moved through other governmental agencies to create organizations and programs where control is not with deaf persons, but where the activities are termed 'for the hearing impared', yet where power and key positions are denied deaf persons."
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"By analogy what has happened quite often is that majority group misconceptions and values, for example the limiting of teaching to just 'oral' methods alone are being imposed on a minority. This ignoring of minority group sensitivity to minority group needs has inherent in it damaging, sociological and psychological effects on deaf students.
It is improbable that the educational establishment and its governmental bureaucrats will yield of their own accord to needed changes. Education is enormously clever at avoiding self examination and it is a full of an impentetrable web of vested interest. If progress is to come about, it will probably result from aggressive deaf leadership, new knowledge gained from psychology and sociology and from new professionals entering the field of deafness. Until this occurs there will continue to be an inapproprate and insensitive impostion of majority group values on a minority, a process which is undemocratic which fails to respect the rights of others and which as a damaging effect upon the individual."
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(This goes on and it is 5 pages long. I am reminding you again that this paper is from 1969. It may be old but it does speak to me deeply.)



Vallee, now do you see where I got this idea that there should be a separate deaf school with all deaf members of the school board? Jillio told me that my alma mater do get together with a hearing school for social times. I thought that was a great idea. I also know that my alma mater opens their door to hearing kids with aphasia. I thought that was a perfect school for them as hearing kids will make fun of them for sure. The deaf kids won't make fun of them as they won't know if they are speaking badly.

Jackie, this post is in keeping of your thread as well. I know you and Vallee won't agree with this paper but this paper was written by two hearing guys with degrees. It is hard for us to respect you (pro-oral) when we weren't being respected at all. Now, do you see why many of us deaf people are upset with oral only methold and even CI??? We weren't even respected at all and in fact we were being oppressed ever since the 1880 Milan Conference. No fighing, please. I am not using nasty words or things like that. I am just pointing out why many of us were upset at the education.

I like this paper very much even though it is old. Hey, I was still in that oral day school when this came out.

No fighting, please as I want to learn all I can about how to get to that school board. Elect to a school board and I bet that the school board is for hearing schools and deaf school, right??? How do one create a new school board? Tell me, Vallee.
 
Give me time to read the paper. Without reading it, I am against anything segragated.

I am not sure how to create a new school board, my guess would be that it might be impossible given public funding and federal laws.

Going to read it now.
 
Vallee, your stomach turned flips whenever there are private Catholic schools???? Whenever there are private Jewish schools???? Does that means you think that the private schools ought to be illegal??? :cool2:

I just remember where I read this. It came from a booklet from NAD and it is a reprint from "The Deaf American", Vol. 21, No. 11, July-August 1969, pages 3-6. Authors are McCay Vernon, Ph.D. and Bernard Makowsky, MSW. I'll read some parts.

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"Of prime importance in this endeavor is an understanding of the factors present that permit minorities such as Jews, Mormons and Orientals to attain prominence and success in American society whereas other groups such as Puerto Ricans, Negroes and American Indians do not."
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"By contrast Jews, Mormons and Orientals have either developed their own educational instituations, influenced public ones or combined these programs. In addition these minority groups are appropriately represented by their own in the overall political system assuring them of reasonable power and control over their basic socio-economic circumstance."
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(It goes on about how "the Indians schools were dominated by white bureaucrats secure in well-paying civil positions" and that African-Americans and Puerto Ricans were put in ghetto schools "where the control is in the hand of the dominant group power structure." There is no deaf person in top administrative positions. Remember this paper is dated 1969. It is about time for the Deaf President of Gallaudet!!!!)
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(This part talks of teachers who cannot fathom their students' life circumstances.) "Frequently there are low expectations or else a 'Lady Bountiful' milieu which is depreciating to minority group children and attack their self worth. The imposition of a value system in the best way may be undemocratic and in the final analysis is a reinforcement of an already poor self image."
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"The deaf youngster faces an analogous situation in many respects [Sanderson, 1969]. The National Association of the Deaf has long supported the use of the language of signs and finerspelling. Yet the child is taught that these modalities, the only ones he can master for purposes of full communication with other deaf persons and with his family, are bad. This negative value is transmitted by its being forbidden to him and his family by the school, His teachers rarely know the language and frequently refuse to use it if they do. Convertly and openly he and his parents are told that it is better if he chooses non-deaf friends, By contrast the Jew, the Greek Orthodox and the American Oriental teach their ethnic languages and relate them to English, the end result being a better mastery of both and a more healthy communication between child and family [Schlesinger 1967]."
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"The discrimination against the deaf as a group may be observed on many levels. Most public school program for deaf children, as for example in Chicago, forbid the hiring of deaf teachers. There are many teacher preparation centers which will not accept deaf candidates [Newman, 1969]"
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"Gallaudet, the world's only college for the deaf, has a policy of selection and requirements for educational certification that discourages and/or eliminates many deaf young people from becoming teachers
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"Needless to say the 'in group' educational power structure has resented the change in established procedures which has given more authority to deaf leadership. In reaction it has moved through other governmental agencies to create organizations and programs where control is not with deaf persons, but where the activities are termed 'for the hearing impared', yet where power and key positions are denied deaf persons."
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"By analogy what has happened quite often is that majority group misconceptions and values, for example the limiting of teaching to just 'oral' methods alone are being imposed on a minority. This ignoring of minority group sensitivity to minority group needs has inherent in it damaging, sociological and psychological effects on deaf students.
It is improbable that the educational establishment and its governmental bureaucrats will yield of their own accord to needed changes. Education is enormously clever at avoiding self examination and it is a full of an impentetrable web of vested interest. If progress is to come about, it will probably result from aggressive deaf leadership, new knowledge gained from psychology and sociology and from new professionals entering the field of deafness. Until this occurs there will continue to be an inapproprate and insensitive impostion of majority group values on a minority, a process which is undemocratic which fails to respect the rights of others and which as a damaging effect upon the individual."
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(This goes on and it is 5 pages long. I am reminding you again that this paper is from 1969. It may be old but it does speak to me deeply.)



Vallee, now do you see where I got this idea that there should be a separate deaf school with all deaf members of the school board? Jillio told me that my alma mater do get together with a hearing school for social times. I thought that was a great idea. I also know that my alma mater opens their door to hearing kids with aphasia. I thought that was a perfect school for them as hearing kids will make fun of them for sure. The deaf kids won't make fun of them as they won't know if they are speaking badly.

Jackie, this post is in keeping of your thread as well. I know you and Vallee won't agree with this paper but this paper was written by two hearing guys with degrees. It is hard for us to respect you (pro-oral) when we weren't being respected at all. Now, do you see why many of us deaf people are upset with oral only methold and even CI??? We weren't even respected at all and in fact we were being oppressed ever since the 1880 Milan Conference. No fighing, please. I am not using nasty words or things like that. I am just pointing out why many of us were upset at the education.

I like this paper very much even though it is old. Hey, I was still in that oral day school when this came out.

No fighting, please as I want to learn all I can about how to get to that school board. Elect to a school board and I bet that the school board is for hearing schools and deaf school, right??? How do one create a new school board? Tell me, Vallee.


See the bolded...I wouldnt be surprised if deaf people couldnt find jobs as teachers for the deaf in the future. Many deaf people who thought about becoming teachers are changing their minds and changing their major due to the fear that they wont be wanted nor hired as teachers in the future due to oralism. I think it is very unfortunate cuz those children need deaf role models. I grew up without one which caused me to think I wouldnt be able to live independendly.
 
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