People that think it's OK to Yell or bang on your door

[whatdidyousay!]

you are handling this all wrong. You need to write a detailed letter telling what happened. You have concerns about the property and you wish not to be responsible for the door jamb and you would like it to last as long as possible. If you are right about "moving the car after its been plowed" then you need to document what day and what time the neighbor wanted to move your car and state that it was not plowed yet and you reviewed your condo lease terms. Explain at the end you would like a resolution and you want a cease and desist notice served to your neighbor NOT to bang on the door, and NOT to move other people cars just because its going to be plowed soon. You also need to restate what was exactly written for your condo rules about plowing. Tell the condo assoication that you will need a personal inspection of your door to address your concerns of old wood and how you observed the moulding was moving from pounding on the door . I would also state that if your neighbor insists this is how he gets your attention, then very calmly tell the condo assiocation that you will need a door flasher due to ADA law and your neighbor wants a way to get your attention. Dont say you need one. Don't get one yourself unless you have a letter in your hand saying you have permission to install a door flasher equipment and it has information on how it can be installed.

As a landlord myself - this is exactly what you need to do and it does work.

I own my condo unit outright I have no landlord , I do not rent it , my neighbor rent his unit, he has a landlord . I do not need a door flasher.
The whole issues boiled down to my neighbor emotional issues and views about women, he told me not to talk to wife anymore , he see his wife as his property and I notice when talking to him if I disagree with him about anything he start to pout like a child. He had a temper tantrum when he thought I was not going to answer my door. I did say in my first post that I own my condo . But thank you for taking the time to post this. I did think of calling my condo management and see if they could talk to my neighbor telling him at it is not OK to pounds on people doors unless it a life threaten situation. Pounding on a person door to move a car at the wrong time it nuts. I owned my condo for almost 30 years ,my neighbor been a tenant for less than two years. He has no business telling people what to do. I call my condo's office and let them deal with the person in question.

 

[whatdidyousay!]

I had never let a person moved my car before , I shovel out my own car no matter how deep the snow is. and I used to do this for 4 of elderly neighbors that are no longer alive. In fact when my daughter and son in law where I was going to carry a TV stand out to the deck and my son in law wanted to know why I don't have him do it as he is standing right there. I did not even think to ask for help . I hate asking people for help. And I did not push my daughter in a baby stroller , I carried her on my back and walked to grocery store and carried my bags home to my apartment thast was on the second floor. and I carried my baby on my back until she was too big for a baby backpack.

 

[DeafBadger]

better go over to his place and have a talk.

I advise against this. If there is a manager, inform the manager of the building. If no manager, lodge a complaint with police.

Also write in a journal what he does and when. This is helpful if you have to take it up with authorities.

The reason I say don't go to his place to talk is because when I did that, a neighbor bolted out of his door and got in my face trying to start a fight with me.

Because of that, I will never do that again and will instead go to the manager first. I'm not going to risk my health or life.

 

[whatdidyousay!]

Nobody is saying not to appreciate it if someone does something nice for you. But, some people use that favor as a license to get away with things. If you don't want to be in that position, don't accept the favor.

I when upstairs to thanks my neighbor for moving my car and I did not ask him to move it he said he would. I did not twist his arm to do this.

 

[VacationGuy234]

I when upstairs to thanks my neighbor for moving my car and I did not ask him to move it he said he would. I did not twist his arm to do this.

I know you didn't. The guy is clearly not a guy you can trust to do things for you. In the future, move the car yourself. It solves these problems before they start.

 

[whatdidyousay!]

I advise against this. If there is a manager, inform the manager of the building. If no manager, lodge a complaint with police.

Also write in a journal what he does and when. This is helpful if you have to take it up with authorities.

The reason I say don't go to his place to talk is because when I did that, a neighbor bolted out of his door and got in my face trying to start a fight with me.

Because of that, I will never do that again and will instead go to the manager first. I'm not going to risk my health or life.

Yeah , I should be writing a journal about , I am not sure if the condo manager will do anything but I did think about talking to him. I guess I will have to let things cool down and hope my neighbor will get over it. If my neighbor does come pounding on my door for no good reasons I might just call the cops as I consider it harassment to pounds on my door and yelling at me over a parked car. I don't care what my neighbor excuse is , being HOH does not give anyone the rights to act that way.
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[whatdidyousay!]

I know you didn't. The guy is clearly not a guy you can trust to do things for you. In the future, move the car yourself. It solves these problems before they start.

Believe me I will never ask this guy to help me with anything again. Someone finally get what I am been saying.

 

[deafbirk]

Have the condo association do something. You can contact the assoc. President or go to one of their meetings. These homeowner associations have 100 rules. Use the rules to your advantage. Engaging wits with a nitwit is useless

 

[NitroHonda]

I would have cracked him up a good lump with the cane.

 

[sonocativo]

NEVER, let anyone move your car.

A few ground rules:
Coworkers are not your friends.
Neighbors are not your friends.
People you ride the subway with are not your friends.

Be nice and civil to all your acquaintances, but that's about it.

Something Ive learned in the past.
You can be their friend, but they were never your friend.

 

[xunixan]

Complain to his landlord, that's not acceptable. Or let him keep banging till he breaks up the door, then call the cops.

 

[caz12]

what sort door bell you got,if you heard it

 

[VacationGuy234]

Something Ive learned in the past.
You can be their friend, but they were never your friend.

This is the difference that is sometimes hard for a deaf person to understand.

It doesn't mean you don't make friends. It just means that not everyone is a best friend.

 

[NitroHonda]

This is the difference that is sometimes hard for a deaf person to understand.

It doesn't mean you don't make friends. It just means that not everyone is a best friend.

BS. We understand. When someone makes an effort to communicate with me, I have a tendency to let down my defenses. It doesn't mean that I don't understand. I DO. Living a life of solitude in the hearing world can be very isolating. When someone makes that concentrated effort... I can "over-welcome" it. Of course... a ton of those people are douches who ultimately end up taking advantage of me. It doesn't mean I don't understand.

Besides... goddamn it... I like people! I know my neighbors by name and I'm glad I do... and yes, they have become great friends of mine.

 

[TXgolfer]

*headdesk*

 

[VacationGuy234]

BS. We understand. When someone makes an effort to communicate with me, I have a tendency to let down my defenses. It doesn't mean that I don't understand. I DO. Living a life of solitude in the hearing world can be very isolating. When someone makes that concentrated effort... I can "over-welcome" it. Of course... a ton of those people are douches who ultimately end up taking advantage of me. It doesn't mean I don't understand.

Besides... goddamn it... I like people! I know my neighbors by name and I'm glad I do... and yes, they have become great friends of mine.

Congratulations...

But, aren't you the guy who gives dirty looks and walks away without saying much:
"Originally Posted by NitroHonda
I secretly was too. I should explain though... I was there to learn. Plain and simple. If I had another Deaf person there, we would probably end up visiting too much.

I do not talk to other Deaffies when I'm doing my own thing in public. In fact, I'm probably a little unnecessarily rude about it but Austin's got a big enough of a Deaf community as to where it becomes very annoying. I give dirty looks then walk away without saying much. I can be grumpy sometimes. I'm even sometimes grumpy to friends..."

Maye this is how deaf people have problems with it. Just saying...

 

[NitroHonda]

Congratulations...

???

Way to respond. There are a lot of posts of yours that have no meat to them. Especially when one takes the time to rebutt yours. Why is that? Do you think your feeble attempts at sarcasm is effective? Funny? Condescending? What is it? I only ask because it will help me better respond to you in the future.

 

[Jiro]

Congratulations...

you do realize that you took it completely out of context? shame on you. *smh*

when you work, you work. period. I went to NitroHonda's post and read thru few more posts. It appears that he has a strong work ethic. after all... he's a business owner.

nobody's making money if somebody's chit-chatting during work about dating tips and rules... you really need to work on your deaf issue...

 

[TXgolfer]

For clarification, my *headdesk* was about the "knocker" situation. I believe the whole situation was a misunderstanding.

 

[Jiro]

For clarification, my *headdesk* was about the "knocker" situation. I believe the whole situation was a misunderstanding.

I thought you were just knocking a door with your head